My son gets bullied by bigger Kid?

Question

My son gets bullied by a kid twice his size but in same class.He's 12.Have complained to the Principal but not much has been done other than a general warning to the class as a whole.My son is by nature a timid person and really does not know how to fight a bigger and fatter boy..This fatter kid is the son of a cop and thus feels big.and has a group of boys who listen to him.Should i complain again cos the kid will really start bugging him...and calling him a wuss or something.

Answer 1

Document it and go to the Principal 1 more time then take it to the school board.  Your child has a RIGHT to attend a school where he is free from bullying or other destructive influences and it is NOT your responsibility to go to the other kids parents.  The school should have contacted them. And if he bullies your kid, he does it to others.  Parents pretend they don't know what their kids are doing but if they are involved they know.  I disagree that you should have to teach your child violence to get through school....THIS ENRAGES ME...Sorry.

Answer 2

Mostly the only inevitable way to cease any bullying is to make the timid person turn powerful.

It's somewhat like the Persians vs the Greeks.

Greece (Being small) had an advantage in technique and persians only attacked blindly.

the bully (Persian) will attempt to face the timid one, (Greek)

But if he knows a psychological advantage, he may halt the tyranny once and for all.

The one thing a bully fears is being outnumbered.

The boy needs to find all the victims and 'unite' in a way.

Once he has assured them that the bullies never attack a group, they should strat hanging out, and if any bullies threaten,

They all have to look as intimidating as possible.

You can help there.

Allow your kid to go through a helpful 'phase' where they stop 'snitching' as it is so incorrectly called and begin aschoolyard battle, along the lines of the cold war.

Or better yet, therompylae, where you restrict the larger enemy in his territory. so his advantage is lost.

Believe me, the victim's numeral advantage is  very effective.

(Eg, about the 'phase' mine is growing a mohawk, but you need not go that far until high school.  contrary to popular belief, it DOES NOT get better, at least until Uni or Tafe/College.)

That's all i can help so far, but remember the bullying may escelate to physical violence.

If it ensues, then you may want to invest in some marshal arts lessons, or perhaps ask the boy's father to teach your boy some pressure points and techniques.

(Don't mention the bullying, if you havent already.  If he's not a good guy, it wont work.  if he's a bad guy, then its best to get what  you need 1st, then tell him.  But heres a good trick.

You get behind them and grab their arm, pulling it out straight.  THen hold the arm onto your stomach and push on the elbow.  Make sure that the elbow cannot bend away from the pressure, then use that to force him onto the ground.

When he is on the ground, he SHOULD back off, if not, there is a pressure point located belwo the ear and the base of the jawbone, get your fingers into it and push backwards. He will fall and I can pretty much guarantee the bully and his cronies won't try and fight back if the timid becomes the immortal, so to speak.

Or teach him a 'handshake' technique.  You offer a handshake and if you have to, grab his hand a bit against his will, and squeeze, but the trick is to rub the bully's knuckles

together and then the bully may try and get away from the resulting pain by kneeling, this is certain to make any other bullies think twice before bullying him.

If it continues with anyone else, just offer your hand to the bully in question and if they havent seen or heard about the previous bully, do the same, and eventually, your handshake will sort of become a weapon.  And all bullies will know and as soon as you offer a handshake, tehy will back off.

(Try a slightly intimidating glance as you offer, it may help.)

Hope these ideas help, and sorry the answer was a tad excessive, i just put all my knowledge of being the victim of bullying into an answer.

Mainly because I have been bullied many a time before.

Now I make a point to have a 'signature move' for any bullies.

(EG ,Mine is a very low and threatening tone in my voice, not yelling, but quietly warning them, and then, if they punch, I turn and grab their arm, or if a kick I just grab and lift their leg until they fall, they then become the laughingstock of ths school and you just bring back the memory to them when they re attempt the bullying.  Its pretty entertaining to do that as well, XD

Answer 3

well if the bully is the child of a cop he thinks he can get away with anything.PS get a restrainig order if possible.or transfer your son to another school.or speak to the bullys dad see what he could do.

Answer 4

Talk to his parents

His cop-dad will whoop his...

Answer 5

Skrew the princible they dont do didly scuat these days.. complain to the kids "cop" daddy........n tell em to stop giving his kid all the donuts :o)..oh and tell em to tell his piggy i mean kid to  knock it off. :o)

Answer 6

Just tell the "Fat" Boy to stop or the principle

Answer 7

No his cop dad would not woop his ***, because cops are f**s and he would prob be proud of his fat bully kid, you should just run over this plump boy with your car or something, bullies really p**s me off, i feel for your child!

Answer 8

get him is some fighting classes

Size dosent matter when you know how to fight

Answer 9

put your son in TaeKwonDo.  It will build his confidence and give him the power to know how to protect himself against bullies.  Help him gain the tools he needs to have confidence, determination, integrity, power, and strength.

Telling teachers and principals and parents about the bulling isn't going to solve the whole problem.  Bullies have power over the more timid children because they give it to them.  They have to confront the bully and call them on it.  Bullies DO NOT expect to be call on their behavior.  Of course my solution isn't a fast one, it will take time, but one you or him will not forget.

I want to add that learning martial arts isn't just about learning how to defend yourself physically.  It's about confidence.  He will come to feel powerful.  It is a great accomplishment to earn belts.

Answer 10

i think you should talk to his father and then you should have a  talk with your child and tell him to stand up for his self because he gone have to do it in the future he need to stand up for whats he feel is right and stop being a punk

Answer 11

Transfer him to another school since you have already tried complaining and of no use.

Or you can try to tell him to make more friends so that his friends will take care of him in school and there is a lesser chance of him getting bullied in school.

And since he is a timid person, try bringing him out more often so that he will get the chance to interact with people and become more confident of himself.

Answer 12

actually i agree with the first dude.

if you step in or the principal...he looks

like a wuss, result he gets picked on more.

if things get serious ie bad physical injuries

then you NEED to step in, and either have

something done, or change schools.

Answer 13

Ok, cop dad will get the picture on this one...if the bigger kid even touches your son or threatens him in any way...file a police report for battery.  Make sure you file your complaint with dad!  That will surely open his eyes.  

For extra help, keep a journal of all the instances so a judge can see a pattern.

Answer 14

I think it's probably time you sit with the principal (or school counselor) with the bully AND the bully's parents.  I feel for your son, he shouldn't change because  some jerk decides to pick on him.  Its the jerk that should change.  I hope that by the group of you talking, the bully's parents would understand.  I should hope that no mother would want to know that their son is a bully....at least , not a good mother.

If that doesn't work (which I can't imagine it can't), threaten the parents with legal action.  This will get their attention.  Say that their child cannot continue to harass your child and if you hear of him approaching your son again, you will sue them for assault.  This, of course, is the extreme....but you have to remain strong and unwavering for your child's sake.

It probably wouldn't hurt to teach your son to defend himself.....not to start a fight, but to defend himself and hurt the bully where it really hurts IF he is ever assaults him  first.

Answer 15

I know our county is messed up...my bro is 11 and although he isn't shy or timid, he isn't huge...and he was being bullied by a kid bigger than me, two grade above him....at least 200 lbs and the kid threw my brother into a metal flagpole...he had to get staples in hi head and MY BROTHER was the one who ended up getting expelled because he threatened the kid verbally AFTER this was all done....so my brother now has to attend home school as there are no inter district transfers allowed in the other schools at this moment due to over crowding....and my brother is being home schooled ALONE because my single mother works part time....THE COUNTY did NOTHING to help us in all this!

Answer 16

Most all schools are corrupt, so it really boils down to teaching your kid how to handle situations. If you dont take action and show your kid how to handle the situation, they never learn and become easy targets all the way up till they graduate. I dont know the exstent of the bullying, but if you want the school to be forced into doing something, have your kid alert staff when he think he might be getting bullied. If the bullys dont know the teachers watching, chances are they will catch them.

Answer 17

Complain to the dad of the bully.

Answer 18

Continue to discuss with the school counselor.

Answer 19

I am going through the very same thing with my 9 year old son.  After several talks with both principals and teachers, I finally hired a lawyer and threatened to sue the school district for allowing my child to be assaulted while in their care.  

When you take your child to school (which you are required by law to do) they are legally bound to protect and teach your child.  the operative word here is protect. and if they are not doing their part, then they need to be held accountable.  

Talk to them again, tell them you are contacting a lawyer if something is not done IMMEDIATELY about the other child. and then follow through if need be.

My son's bully was moved to a different school.

Good luck to both you and your son.

Answer 20

he should stand up for himself or just get bullied...........................

Answer 21

well im 12 as well so what i would do is get him to hang out with a big group of people ar you can call the principal and the kid can actually get kicked out in some cases!

Hope it helps

Answer 22

So let the other kid call him a wuss. Just because he doesn't fight back doesn't make him one. Maybe you should call the kid's parents and talk to them about it. Tell them how it makes your son feel about it. And then maybe if that doesn't work talk to the principal about switching classes. Sometimes it is the teacher as well. Maybe she was not informed of the seriousness of the situation. I would definitely NOT teach your son that fighting is OK. Then you are just teaching him to be like that other kid. And if name calling is the only extent of it, then just have him try to ignore him, as hard as it sounds. Sometimes kids just make fun when they know it bothers the person. He may get tired of it if he figures that it isn't taking much affect. Encourage your son and tell him how brave he is everyday. Boost up his confidence so that he will have the courage to walk away. Words can hurt and they will, but we shouldn't let them destroy us or take root. I believe your kid is a great boy and I know that he will succeed in this. Good Luck!

Answer 23

Well call the cops the next time the assault and battery

occures and file charges against the bully.

Also take one son to a class teaching him how to meet the challenge of such problems.

Answer 24

He should learn a martial art. Investigate and try to find a good school in your area.

The fat kid might not be that strong. He could be all fat and no muscle. If your kid can beat him in a fight that will solve all his problems not to mention boost his self-esteem. His grades will sky-rocket after that and he'll make lots of friends.

Answer 25

I agree with the person who said martial arts, not so he can learn to fight, but martial arts are great at building confidence in children.  In fact a good instructor will tell the kids that he is not teaching them to fight.  My daughter is 8 and small for her age and she is also very timid and gets pushed around.  Not so much in a bullying way, it's just that people don't tend to notice her or they are so much bigger than her they just end up bumping into her and stuff.  She takes Karate with an excellent instructor and we saw her confidence improve quite quickly once she started taking this class, sometimes having more confidence is all kids need, when other kids see the confidence they might be less inclined to bully.  Good luck, I know this has to be so hard for your son, and also for you as a parent.  By the way, eventually the other kids will get tired of listening to the fatter kid and will even get fed up with him, right now they are still young and going along with the strongest, but as they get older they'll see him for the ridiculous bully that he is.