My son got bullied AGAIN?

Question

My son has practically been bullied since pre school and now that he is 8 y. old I just have had it.

I will have him practice self defense and i will force him to FIGHT BACK

He is practically been punched by boys and girls. More than once i saw him being punched on the face 9 times by a GIRL

Can anyone reccomend any self defense dvd?

Answer 1

I dont know any dvds that you can get. But you realy need to speak to his school, they have to do something NOW thats not right at all. How come something hasnt been done yet? If your school wont do anything and its that bad i would speak to the police thats not right for an 8 year old child to be going through that

Answer 2

I use to be bullied when I was younger because I was very quiet.  Maybe you should try raising his self-confidence if he is quiet too.  Teach him to stand up to himself or let him beat the cr*p out of the other kids...just kidding...GL!

Answer 3

I wouldn't get a DVD for this.  If you want him to learn self defense, enroll him in a defense/karate/tae kwon do class.   You need something more hands on than a DVD.  

As a parent, you need to step in and do your part too.  Consider allowing him to switch schools, talk to the school principal, counselor, and his teachers about keeping an eye on this.  If you see him being punched by other students step up and seek legal action.   That should shock their parents into keeping their children under control.

P.S. you shouldn't really FORCE him to fight back if he isn't comfortable with it.   Try other measures first.

Answer 4

he needs to go to a class.  And I would be at that principals office everyday until he got so sick of me he finally did something

Answer 5

As many of the other have said, your son needs to be in a class - one that emphasizes discipline and respect, as well as moves.

Having said that, it takes quite a while before kids are confident enough to protect themselves.

You number ONE priority now is removing your son from this environment.  Don't make him do this on his own.  Get him out of the school.  Protect him.

Answer 6

Here is the deal.  I taught kids karate for many years.  He is not going to get much out of a dvd.  You should enroll him in a karate school that teaches kids.  Not only will they teach him to fight.  They will give him self confidance and teach him skills to effectively manage the bullies.  He will also meet new friend that will not be from school.  These new friends will help him build his ego and support him.  Please check out a few schools and see which one seems the most professional.  It will work.

Answer 7

I hate to hear your son is being bullied. I can't stand bullies! I have always told my boys to not start fights but IF anyone puts their hands on them they are to fight back! I don't want my kids to be pushed around by the bullying type kids. My husband bought a punching bag and taught our kids how to punch and protect their face if they get into a fight.  I don't know of any good dvd's but I think practicing on a punching bag is a great way to learn. I also think some type of self defense class would be a great idea it would help your son with knowing how to defend himself and also help his self esteem. Good luck!     P.S. I would also make the school aware of the problem! Bullying is not supose to be tolerated in schools. Let them know if it doesn't stop your son will defend himself!

Answer 8

You can't learn to fight by watching a DVD. Get your kid into martial arts, not only will he be taught the moves, he'll also be taught the discipline.

Answer 9

I've never in my life ever seen somebody get bullied physically... But I'm only 12 :P

Answer 10

Your best bet would be enroll him in Karate.  Not only does this improve self esteem but it improves confidence and while building a strong sense of self discipline.  Not to mention he won't need to worry about being bullied.

Answer 11

If my son was bullied like this I would have him in karate classes and I would show him how to fight.  I have 3 boys ages 6, 6, and 7 and when they come to me and say that one of their brothers hit them I'm sorry to say but I tell them to hit the other one back instead of crying about it...

Answer 12

I never got bullied, I was always the really small kid too. You have to understand kids work on signals. They will first tease you verbally, if you respond with fear, they will move to physical intimidation. I never let them get that far, I grew up in philadelphia though so I was telling people to go F themselves since I was like 6....He shouldn't hit girls, they are easiest to defend against anyway. He needs to figure out the art of insults. They hurt girls most of all. If they are the slightest bit fat, then you call them pigs. I prefer the phrase "I will cut some bacon off your back *****!" but he may want to come up with his own. If she is kindof ugly then call her out on it. You might need to help him. As far as boys go, the nuts are fair game up until your 12. That should be his first move, after that directly for the nose or the temple, if he is a weakling then the nose. If he is really weak like I was what you need to show him is how put someone in a headlock they cant get out of. I used headlocks in every fight I was in until I was 14. You can go for one from any angle you just walk up say something and then grab their head with your strongest arm and take them to the ground and apply as much pressure as you can. They will eventually stop squirming and tell you they can't breath (they can they are lieing), you give them a full 10-15 seconds after this to scare them so when you let them go they won't try to beat your @ss. If done correctly, they won't risk getting back into that situation anytime soon. You need more tips contact me :)

Answer 13

i'm in school still my self and i'm preety sure this will work mosly for the young kids but Dnt teach your kid to bully the other kids well not until you try this little kids like that get really scared when a teacher ot parent tells them off get the teacher to let you talk to the class hen tell them how upset you and your family are and if you see them hitting your son again say you will be calling the police to talk to them and their family and sort things out! that ould scare tem

Answer 14

Sign him up for martial arts. Not only will he be able to defend himself but it will raise his self esteem. It might be a little low right now. There will also be other children his age that he can become friends with.

Have you met these children's parents yet. My daughter was threatened with violence once and my husband and I found their address in the phone book and went to their house. We were as polite as can be but made very aware that if my daughter had any other issues with their child they were going to have issues with us. The parents did not know what was going on with their child (or acted as if they didn't) but the problem ceased and the kids are now friends.

Answer 15

What is the school doing to help this situation?  Our school system has a no bully policy and make it work.  I used to get picked on all the time.  You know, all I did was force myself to be included in games or anything the bullying brats wouldn't let me into.  Make sure you sons clothes are up to date with the others too; no flood pants, belts that squeeze the pants around his belly, stupid looking shoes, etc.  If he stands out he will be bullied.  I was forced to wear dresses everyday to school when no one else did.  First get with the school so the brats can be reprimanded and make sure your son knows that you stand behind him and will do all it takes to make it stop (just as you have).  You know, if he fights back he will be the one in trouble, Murphy's Law.  He may not even have it in him to do so.  Now with the little girl, I'd go straight to her parent's house to let them know about this or be sure the school does and ask for proof that the parent was contacted.  I'd like to give that one a little of my own.  Oops, I'm too big now.  Sorry this is happening.  I know it can't be easy as the parent.

Answer 16

why havent you told the teacher?

sign up for taekwondo , karate or jujitsu.

http://www.southpacifictkd.com.au/  (i go there)

http://www.hotfrog.com/Products/Jujitsu

http://www.kidspot.com.au/index.asp

or tell him to tell the teacher or an adult.