My son has a 2 year old cousin, who is being verbally abused, I don't know his dad very well.?

Question

My son (15months), and I went to visit his side of the family on Easter for the first time. He has a cousin, who is 2 yrs old, and his father who is my son's father's first cousin, was calling the baby a "b*****d." He said, "I cant stand this b*****d, go stand outside on the porch and wait for your mom to come hom!" He even made the baby open up his own car door, when they got ready to leave for Easter dinner. I called over there one day, and asked what the baby was doing and the father replied, "Taking a shower." I wondered to myself, why on Earth would a 2yr old be taking a shower. His dad said he prefered showers over baths. This did not sit well with me. I don't know the father good enough to know whether there is more abuse other than verbal. The baby looked so embarassed when the dad called him a b*****d. I wanted to call the authorities, but I don't really have proof, other than the one day, me and my son were over there. What should I do?

Answer 1

OHH, i kinda feel your pain, take a self evaluation would you want your child being called a b*****d? Would you want your child taking a shower when hes 2? If all these awnsers ends up in a no, or a h**l naw! Then you need to do something about it. First off if you could visit there again and talk to the father what you saw and the way it did'nt sit well with you!Now, don't approach him in anger, i don't mean to sound like a hippie but violence is not the anwser! If he blows you off. That's when u get serious bring a tape recorder, or something and show it to the authorities! Never let something like that be unresolved. I am a child lover myself and i just hate that 4 that little boy!

Answer 2

thats horrible. as a parent myself i urge you to call someone. i understand it is only hear say but... someone i knew treated their babies that way and i reported them based on hear say and human services got involved and placed the children somewhere safe right away. please dont hesitate. alot of child abuse and deaths can be prevented if someone would just speak up! :)

Answer 3

talk to the mom and dont act too interested. Just be passive. Also just be nice and allow her to think she can talk to about personal stuff like that.

Answer 4

I would call the authorities and just give them a heads up.  The shower thing blows my mind, and of course, the verbal abuse.  Can you talk to the mother (prob not i am sure).  Sometimes the authorities jsut need a little pointer and they may have some advise or be willing to check in. So sad...breask my heart!

Answer 5

Ask if you can have his cousin over more often. If the dad has nothing to hide and really can't stand him he will most likely say Yes, if he does this will give you time to talk to the boy. If he saids No then I would think he has something to hind and doesn't want you to have access to his son.  Call CPS with a concern.

Answer 6

I would call the authorities. 2 year olds are renound for repeating what they hear. Im sure they will see things are not right and also they have a tenancy to show up unannounced, so if you turned up and his telling you toddlers in the shower they may just catch the same thing.

Answer 7

don't  take  him   over  there  anymore