My son has recently started going through my drawers?

Question

My son is 7, and has recently taken to going through my dresser drawers, and the drawers built into my bed. Needless to say, he has came across some things that are meant for adults eyes only, if you know what I mean. He knows he is not allowed in my room, especially if I am not in there, but he is getting bold and I even caught him doing it while I was in the room! I know it's probably normal for kids to do that, but I thought I had hidden the "grown up" stuff well enough that he wouldn't see any of it. What should I say about the things he has "found", or should I say anything at all? Any ideas as to how to keep him from rummaging through my stuff? We have decided to find a new place to hide our toys, but still......

Answer 1

If you tell him not to do this, and he does, then he will need to be given a consequence. Take away a privilege, and tell him it won't be returned because he broke the rule. Tell him your room is just that, your room, and off limits. He is too young to understand exactly what the items were for that he found, so don't even bother to try to think up an explanation. It will be hard but you will need to watch him like a hawk for a while, and catch him every time he tries to go in. If he looses enough privileges, he will give up. Also, every time you catch him doing this give him a time out and be sure he stays in the time out.

Answer 2

Start hiding the "grown up stuff" in a higher place he can't get like a shelf in your closet thats where I put my "grown up stuff"

Answer 3

I don't know what to tell you about your toys besides hiding them better lol.

My oldest is 7 and he likes to do things that I do, he is curious. He will pick something of mine up & put it aways, not really being nosey, just acting like mom. Almost like he is trying to help, but also wanting to see what is going on in his house. Does that make sense? He sees mom do it, so he does it & it makes him feel older.

I keep my bedroom door locked all the time because I have young kids & that room is not childproofed. So we don't any issues with my kids getting into things they shouldn't

Good luck!

Answer 4

if he is 7  he wouldnt av a clue what they are..so dont meantion it..but hide them somewher ebetter

and your right its a kid thing

Answer 5

explain to him that those are ur things n if this continues u will have to go through his things. they probably are interesting to him so i would hide them in a location that he can't reach. if u still catch him searching for them u will have to put ur foot down and take away something thats important to him (a toy ect) invade a bit of his privacy n see if he likes it... don't bring up the subject unless it's necessary or he starts to ask questions bcuz trust me u don't want older kids at skool to tell him

Answer 6

take privledges away tv and computer if u have 1.. start doin rules ..

Answer 7

you need to smack his butt and say no

Answer 8

You shouldn't need to hide your toys in a different spot.  You should punish him instead for his breaking the rules.  

Yes, its normal, but if you do not stop this behavior it progresses and stops being normal.

Answer 9

say, "HEY! Don't you dare go through my drawers, I'm hiding a camera in here that way I'll see you in here where EVER I go. No video games for today." Don't really hide a camera, but don't tell him that. If he does it again say "No video games or TV now, do you want to make that no computer aswell?"

Answer 10

1. he thinks he can find interesting things. if you have anything harmful (pornographic) trash it where he can't get to it

2. make your room off limits, add a lock.

Answer 11

Why haven't you set rules of privacy in your home?  This should have been done when he was a toddler.  You shut your bedroom door and when he goes to open it you tell him "That is MY room and you are not allowed in it".  As long as YOU allow him to go into your room you will have this problem.

Answer 12

Don't punish him, he's just curious about your things. It's normal at that age. Eventually he will get bored seeing the same things over and over. Keep telling him that it is your room and to stay out, but making it more of a temptaion by punishing him will only make him want to do it more.

As for what he found, if he wanted to know what they were, he would ask.

Answer 13

put a lock on the bedroom door and keep it locked.  If you are in the room and he comes in and opens the drawer immediately stop what you are doing and take him out of the room.  Punish him, take away his favorite pasttime or toy when he gets into your drawers.  start with 3 days no toy.  Next time make if  a week and add another thing so he is without 2 things.  He needs to learn there are consequences for his actions.  

Put your "toys" in a new spot and high out of reach.  You don't have to explain them to him.  If he's asked tell him  they are toys and nothing more he does not need to know what they are used for.

Answer 14

You need to offer some sort of an explaination, even if it is only 'These are things for adults.' Or... he will just find another method in which to get that explaination. Believe me... school systems today offer everything.

As to the changing of the hiding place - you shouldn't have to. Give him punishment for breaking the rules. Perhaps get a lock or something... but honestly, if you don't do something to impliment order and dicipline... then it will just progress until it becomes something that is out of control.

Answer 15

I'd firmly discipline him (wear his butt out quite honestly). At 7 he should know the meaning of privacy! If he asks questions, tell him its not his room, his things, or his drawers and to stay out. I'd not explain or discuss things. He doesn't have the right to do that. Start closing your door and check it every so often. If he so much as puts a toe into your room, fuss at him and send him away. He needs to learn to ask permission, even if he sees you standing in there. Unless invited in, he stays out!

I have 3 kids, so personal space is a huge issue in our house. The kids know to knock or ask before entering. If I want afternoon s*x or to sleep in my bed nude, the last thing I need is to be walked in on!

Answer 16

Yes good idea to put your toys/adult stuff in a location he can't reach. And no, i don't think you have to explain your personal belongings to the kids.

As for him rifling through your personal things, i suppose you can let him know that you'd like your clothes to stay clean and neat and therefore, your dresser and other drawers are not a play area.. that is the best i can come up with, without insulting the child's intelligence.

good luck

Answer 17

Tell him anything you want!!! He is seven. He should believe you. Just make sure he doesn't go and tell his friends and find them again. I advise a lock box.......

Anyway, Tell them they are dog toys, but You found out they would make your dog sick. so you hide them for the dog.

but you forgot where they were, but now thanks to him you can throw them away. LOL