My son is 13 and he gets really angry when you try to explain something to him..

Question

any predictions?

Answer 1

x.x I am also a teenager and we have our moments... just give us some space. There's not much you can do... we are just naturally moody XD

Answer 2

I'm sure your son is just at that age where he thinks you are stupid. He doesn't listen to what you say and he gets mad when you try to explain it to him. I know it can be frustrating because I recently went through that stage with my parents two years ago. You both just need to stay level headed about it. Getting you mad might be what he wants. He will grow out of it.

Hope I helped.

Answer 3

Either he has a problem witrh authority or he becomes very nervous when absorbing new info--my guesses, for what they're worth.  Perhaps a child psychologist could get to the bottom of the matter.

Answer 4

he probably feels stupid when things have to be explained

Answer 5

the only issue here is the fact that he gets "really angry".

many 13 yr old boys, and girls for that matter, like the feeling of independence.  Thus rejecting your attempts at parenting.  This can be quite frustrating, but can be managed.  It is crucial that you remember one thing.... YOU are the adult.  Be a good example for your son.  Maintain a calm, yet very firm demeanor.  Let him know that under no circumstances will you be ignored, pushed aside, or disrespected.  In turn, you must be respectful to him in return.  If you need to explain something to him, do so in a way that doesn't make him feel inferior.  Remember, stay calm.

The anger issue can be serious if you allow it to be.  In most cases it is learned behavior.  Not learned from his friends, but instead by his parents.  We spend a lot of time and money and sleepless nights trying to figure out how to change our children.  The first step is to look in the mirror, and lead by example.  This is said not to point a finger, but as a reminder that in our busy, hectic lives, we tend to forget the basic principles.  Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't you remember?  He will know everything for at least the next 5-8 years.  You are dumb and don't know a thing.  Just don't explain anything to him any more.  Let him learn, and fail on his own.  Sometimes people learn better that way.  If he needs, and asks for your help then by all means provide it for him, but don't offer any unsolicited help (remember he knows everything).  He will grow out of it and you will re-gain all of the knowledge you have lost!

Good luck!

Answer 7

Try listening to him more and talking to him less.

Answer 8

they think they know it all at that age.they have so much peer pressure.you could be the best parent in the world with good old fashion family values who puts their children on the right track.he then goes and listens to his mates and their parents whos ideas are not the same as yours.h**l probaly side with the other parents views cause thats what he wants to hear.so when you tell him what you think he sounds off.

Answer 9

im 12 and ill be 13 in a few months and i hate it when people act like they have to explain something i already know he might know what ur talking about and doesnt want to feel like u think hes incapable of understanding

just ask him if he knows what ur talking about first then if he doesnt explain it to him

Answer 10

  it sounds like he might be A.D.D attentiodeficitet disorder, but I'm not a doctor. I was ADD when I was a child but got some help and am able to be "normal" again. Not that your soisn'tnt normal just has a problem understanding things that other people see as easy.

Answer 11

Yes, I predict he is quite normal.  Welcome to motherhood of the teenager....and as Karen Carpenter once said..........

"it's only just begun....."

Don't worry, that's normal for a teen to get angry....it's hormones, emotions, pride, love, hate, all the things that make up a human.  We can only hope some of it sinks in when we try to communicate.  Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 12

Maybe you talk to much or maybe he likes to figure things out himelf...

Or maybe he thinks you are being mean.

Answer 13

ahhhh hormones... not much you can do, teens are that way. just put him in his place as much as you can, but you WILL be yelled at .  

Answer 14

Hormones definitely.

But before all this, he should be getting enough discipline to begin with, so as to lessen the effect of 'anger lash-outs'.

Overall, just give him his space but make sure he knows not to do drugs etc, as teenagers' brains are not fully developed yet (the 'make sound judgement' part of their brain)

Get the father to discipline, with patience and strong assertive masculine energy.

Answer 15

It could be hormones, it could also be that he feels stupid. He could also have some sort of disorder. You hate to think that, but I kind of had an issue with a similar situation. My doctor told me that since I am in college and everything around me is changing and I am being pushed harder and further weird things are happening because I don't know how to control them. I know this is different than your son and I hate think that it is more than hormones, but you can never be possitive. Maybe make a doctors apt. and see what they say. good luck =)

Answer 16

well its kinda normal at that age

but u need to help him: go and see someone becoz it can get worse

Answer 17

he might fell really stupid when you try to explain stuff.  Just help him when he asks you to help him.

Answer 18

This Issue is a big one....

let me answer to this question.

You know why kids do this.....they need attention of parents and their love. may be he need the same. Anger is not a property of any kid this must be a habit given by his friends. just watch with who he is playing and talking so you could analyse weather his gethering is good or bad.

i am sure you love your child and every mother does but treat him with more love and sometimes let him do what he needs to do. give hime something to be busy with.

that's it.

Answer 19

He is feeling overwhelmed and aggregated about obtaining new information. This is normal for this age. You will be yelled at and possibly he will slam doors or throw some things. So dig your feet in and get ready for the ride.

My son (14) has anger problems and anxiety that he has had his entire life(since he was 3) and there have been a few times that I really thought he might hit me. Is this something that has just come about or has he been doing this for a long time.  If its new take him to a psychologist.