My son is 15? someone help me for i strangle him!!!?

Question

My son is 15 he is very smart, he has these honnors classes,and he is also one that dosent have to work hard for his grades but his grade is suffering cuz he has missing hw he hasnt turned in like 4 things whta kind of c**p is that what can i do i am so frustrated he is in the 10 grade and his playing days should be over, why cant he get more serious about his work i have tried all approaches with him???

Answer 1

tell him he needs to start turnin in his work, otherwise you'll take somethin of his away, or tell him the consequences of failing the class.

Answer 2

Try to explain to him , that learding may come easier for him, where there are other kids out there that have to struggle, and have learing problems. He is fortunate to be smart and use it wisely. Not doing homework is a big part of his grades and will really hurt him in the long run. I am sure to said this all but good luck....

Answer 3

You haven't really mentioned why approaches you have tried. Some parents say that, and may feel it...but really haven't tried much. (Not saying you are one of those parents). I know I don't have teens yet...but if I were in your shoes, I would defintiely try removing things from his life that he loves. For example, what does he spend his spare time doing instead of the school work he should be doing? Computer? Playstation? Hanging out with friends? Take it away!! And KEEP it away until he truly starts to shape up. Do NOT give in. If that doesn't motivate him, take away something else. If he is doing that bad...I wouldn't hesitate, just to get him back up to par...to take it all away, and lay down some rules in earning them back one at a time. All make up work turned in...get this back. Stay up to date on work for the first week...this back. Also let him know if he fails to do so, it is yours again. Even if it is something like the JUST the playstation...if he turns in make up work...1 hour. First week all work in...2 hours...and so on. Figure out what is important to him, get creative and use that. There is going to be SOMETHING that he will work for that is important to him.

Answer 4

than tell him that unless he turns his homework in, he will be smacked with a belt and punished from everything

Answer 5

I think every kid goes through that.  I did in the 11th grade.  I also was in all honors and I just stopped doing stuff for a while (luckily it was not for long)  What really stopped me is my teacher saying I would never make it in college.  That hurt me so much I made a complete turn.  I became very neurotic about my grades throughout HS and undergrad and I still am in medical school.  I'd have talk with him about college.  He won't have many options when it comes down to applying if he continues with this habit.  Even failing 1 class might even turn him around, and hit him hard.  Talk with him but ultimately he has to make his own decisions and mistakes.

Answer 6

A lot of boys have to act cool so they pretend like they don't care about school and grades. He's probably doing this to disguise how smart he really is. Tell him that he'll be grounded if he doesn't get serious and ask his counselor or dean to talk to him about grades for college.

Answer 7

Well, when my aunt found out her son was cutting class she took one month sick and walked him to each class personally, waited outside till the class was over then walked him to his next class.. After that, he stopped skipping, out of fear his mom would humiliate him in front of the school. My point is maybe you have not tried every approach, I am not saying you should do what my aunt did, but drastic times calls for drastic measures.

Answer 8

15 is the toughest age for boys all you can try to do is find out what is on his mind BE HONEST and let him know he can tell you ANYTHING and respect his answers and questions My 17 yr old is brutally honest and I know sometimes more then I'd like but I know what he is doing when I am not there. Let your son know his future for school and work are affected by every decision he makes in high school and love him no matter what!

Answer 9

THE BIGGEST PART OF OUR LIVES IS

MADE OF WORK. HAVING JOBS!

HIS JOB NOW IS SCHOOL! ITS 1 OF THE HARDEST JOBS BECAUSE WE DONT GET PAID FOR IT.... & ALOT OF IT IS PLAIN OUT-STUPID!

SO  IF HE IS NOT GONNA  DO HIS JOB

(WHICH  IS SCHOOl work)

THEN YOU DO YOUR JOB AS A MOM

AND YOU GIVE HIM HOUSE WORK!

NO GOING OUT HE CAN CLEAN THE

TOILET  & FLOORS  & DO THE FOOD

SHOPPING WITH HIS MOM! HE CAN DO

ALL KINDS  OF YOUR WORK OR NO

SUPPER  NO TV NO FUN NO NOTHING!

BECAUSE YOUR NOT GONNA DO any-

OF YOUR WORK.............

YOU CANT BE 2 OLD TO THINK LIKE A

KID!!!  OUT SMART HIM! USE YOUR

MIND 2 B E A T  HIM! JOIN HIM!!!

HE CAN ALSO CLEAN THE CAR....

DO YARD WORK IF U HAVE ONE.

TELL HIM IF SCHOOL ANIT IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO DO RIGHT h**l JUST END UP DOING THIS KINDA

WORK ANYWAY  & THIS  WILL B GREAT PRACTISE......

Answer 10

tell him its his life and his grades now will be seen by potential employeers for years to come

Answer 11

you could smack him up side the head but that may cost a bit of jail time .

   if there is something in his life he loves ,_sports _comp__girls _cars !!!

   don't forget you own the food ,roof and all in your home that he enjoys .'

Nothing says you need to share it with him so maybe you take a bit away /     try it !!

Answer 12

Sart punishing him.

Ground him.

Take away things he enjoys.

Answer 13

actually..at 15 his playing days are hardly over. He is at the prime age for wanting to socialize and be with his friends more. And be into sports. It's a fact of life.

Does he have a teacher he can relate to?..Someone who can encourage him to do what he has to do before he goes on to his more fun things in life?

Be proud he is doing honours in some subjects. Let him know you are proud of him. Help him relies he is making this harder for himself if he goofs off on his subjects. He has to do them whether it be now..or finish them in summer school.

Answer 14

Approach the teacher(s) about giving him some extra work to challenge him.  He is bored and experimenting with trying to get the teacher's attention.  Negative attention is still attention.

You could also experiment with positive reinforcement in the areas where he excels.

Lastly, if this behavior is new and he was always on time with everything before, you need to be concerned about his possible experimentation with alcohol and/or drugs.

Good luck.

Answer 15

honestly all teens go through that i did and so did my brother although we didn't have honors classes but my best friend did and  she kinda slacked off to but i jsut think it is normal all high school kids go through it and let me tell ya it gets worse the hgiher up he goes by seniro year it will be horrible most likely probably not what you wanted ot hear bit it is the truth sorry talk to him and find out why he hasn't turned in the stuff there maybe  soemthign going on as to why he isn't foucusign and doing his work good luck

Answer 16

There might be some phycological issue behind this, or he just could be one of those ones who because good grades come so easy have the attitude that they don't need school. My sister was just like that and once she got to college she realized that she should've been more serious because now college is more harder for her than it should be. Just watch him and see if you don't notice something other than his grades change!!!

Answer 17

you sound exactly like my mom. i'm in the same situation with 10th grade, missing work, all that. except i'm not in honor classes.

Answer 18

even though he doesn't work hard now he will have to when/if he goes to college.  have you seriously taken all approaches?

Answer 19

Very easy and a worthy investment, too. All you need to do is the good ol reward system. What does like or enjoy doing? There you have it. It works for most of the human race work=paycheck. We sometimes forget that this 'need' needs to start in childhood and it  begins with you the parent. Let's see, he's a teen? Ideas; cash, rides to friends, pizza house trips with friends, new clothes or shoes. Don't hand that stuff out free- make him earn it!