My son is 20 months... help?

Question

ok, whenever he eats, sense he has been able to some what feed himself, throws/pushes his food off the table. sometimes to show he is done. ive said no but he doesn't care. I WILL NOT hit/spank. please give me " nice " motherly advise

Answer 1

Give him small amounts at a time. For an example if your giving him a banana cut it into smaller bits and only give him one at a time. If he still throws it away, take away all the food and tell him he's not getting anymore until he stops throwing it. Be as consistant as you can be so he'll learn that when he is throwing it away that is naughty and there's consequences for that behaviour.

At 20 months the world revolves around them so he might just be pushing his boundaries and seeing how far he can push!

Good Luck

Answer 2

i wouldn't worry no kid starves them self's i had this with my son and just left him 2 it now hes 7 and eats everything on hes plate they do grow out of it try make so u eat at the same time as him so he gets the hang of what hes meant to do and give him snacks he can walk around with as this will fill him up 2

Answer 3

Only give him enough food to put into his mouth.  If he starts throwing it on the floor you say "No" and take the food away.  A minute later let him try again... if he throws it, say "no" and take it away.  Repeat as needed (might be a long time)

Answer 4

I'm both a mother and a grandmother. I can assure you that its normal for children who are learning to feed themselves. As strange as it sounds they are learning a lot of things by throwing food. They are learning about gravity and that they can control their environment. Its no different than throwing a toy to them. You're going to find that when you start giving him messy things like bananas they end up smeared all over his face, in his hair and all over his tray. Its fun. He is learning about textures and that some things are slimy and what you can do with slimy stuff. lol

Try giving him a few different things at the same time, like green beans and cheerios and secretly watch his face as he handles them and throws them. He is learning so much and enjoying the process. You want to keep the damage to a minimum but do let him have a little fun before you stop him.

Start out by giving him things to eat that aren't terribly messy and that he can eat easily by himself. Only give  him a small amount. As he finishes that you can give him a little more. When he starts throwing food you can take it away and try to feed him yourself to make sure he gets enough.  

Answer 5

when he throws, remove him from the table and wash him up -meal time is over.

Answer 6

Well my son is your age, and when he throws I just take the the food away after 1 warning, if he does ir I say okay, you are done, and take him down. I had the same problem with his older sister and it seemed to do the trick. my son has only tried it a few times, usally I start with small portions though. If my son wants more he will say "more" or "bite" if he wants more than what is given to him. good luck

Answer 7

when he begins to throw the food on the floor. take him out of the highchair right away. He will learn to associate throwing food on the floor with being put on the floor.

Answer 8

then he's not hungry if he looks hungry then try 2 feed him give him apple sause Or he probably doesnt lke the food you give him

like when i was a baby my mom said i never liked to drink milk and now i

drink it alot with cereal thats both probability's...

PROBABILITY1: He doesnt like the food

PROBABILITY2: He's not hungry at the moment...

Answer 9

There is great advice here.

www.askdrsears.com

I get all of my answers there.

Answer 10

He doesn't have to be part of the 'clean your plate' club. You may want to give him smaller meal though out the day. As long as he continues to gain weight I wouldn't worry to much.  

Answer 11

When my son was that age and he wanted to be excused, he'd throw food because that would upset us (his parents) and make us announce, "That's it, you're all done eating."  LOL, it took us a while to realize that's what he wanted.  We instead asked, "All done?"  and waited for a response (first the sign for "all done" then the word "done" and then "'cuse" then excuse me and by now we're up to "May I be excused please?"  (He's 2.5 you have a while).  In the meantime, when he throws food, push his chair back from the table, but don't let him down.  We would move my son's chair back a foot and say, "You threw your food, so no more eating.  You need to wait until Mommy and Daddy are done."  He hated waiting to be let down and quickly learned not to throw anymore.

Answer 12

My 21 month old daughter does the same thing.  Not everyday but I would say about 3-4 times a week.  I bought her some vitamin drops for the days when she would rather throw her food than eat it.  Also, on those days, throughout the day I will ask her if she wants a piece of cheese, a hard boiled egg, some grapes (cut in half) a piece of watermelon, or Ill get some yogurt and she will usually want to eat some too.  I just try to get as much in her a little at a time throughout the day.  I asked the dr about 4 months ago, when this started.  She suggested taking the food after 1 warning and then she said "A toddler will NOT starve theirself, so just keep offering her food at meal/snack times, if she is hungry she will eat, otherwise try again later."

I think its a phase and oh I cant wait to go through it with my son!

Good Luck.