My son is 3 and is very possessive of me. He tries to get in between me and my husband. What should I do?

Question

I haven't really let him sleep with us (only when he's sick or something) and my husband plays with him and is great with him, although my husband is a little more strict than I am.

Answer 1

Cut the umbilical cord! I can't stand mothers who overly "protect" their children. He needs to be taught that it is wrong to do that. Don't let him sleep with you when he's sick. If he's sick, he needs to be in his room.  

Answer 2

Time for you to be the mom....he is just 3 years old, its time put your foot down now and he will appreciate you more for doing so...you don't let the kids run things...watch Nanny 911 it will help....

Answer 3

He's three. It's perfectly normal. Children at this age quite normally go through separation anxiety, even to the point where they stick to one parent more than another.

It'll pass. Just try not to reinforce the behaviour (the more you fuss over him, the more he'll get the impression he can't be away from you). You can try and distract him when he's being particularly clingy, and enrolling him in daycare or something might not be a bad idea.

Answer 4

This is normal to a 3 years old. At this age, kid will has "separation anxiety" when being away from mom. Try to enroll him to some toddler class or preschool. Even part time is good. So he'll start a social life with other kids early and throw a birthday party for him. Then he'll be more comfortable when you're away from him. After that, hire a nanny (few hours a week is fine) on weekend so you can go out with your husband and enjoy some romantic time without your son. Maintaining your relationship with your husband is as important as with your son.

Answer 5

since this is your first child, you are overprotective.  very normal.  you must consider what is best for the child.  he will not benefit from sleeping with you - quite the contrary.  husbands are normally stricter with boys particularly first borns.  His possessiveness is normal for this age.  you can and must control it so that he can mature as an independent person.  suggest you do some reading from qualified pros and talk with your pediatrician.  Good Luck

Answer 6

my advice to u is your son probilly thinks that u pay more attention to your husband than u do to him he probilly feels like his mother is getting tooken away from him and feeling insecure i think u should spend days with your son and some days with your husband just to keep the relationship sperate from your intimate and personal life

hope i help=)

Answer 7

it's the stage he is going through. Give it a few more months and he won't want anything to do with you and will only want daddy. He is a normal 3 yr old. It won't be until 4-5 yrs old that he actually understands the relationship between mommy and ddaddy.

Answer 8

My goodness...he's 3...My son is 3...He's already running your life 'cause you let it...Honey...you need some help. Take Care

Answer 9

HAVE YOUR son spend time with other children. maybe some of your friends or family members have kids. take him to the park and let him interact with ppl at his level and age so he can see something different.  

Answer 10

Right...let me just say something here and im going to be as nice as i can. Your son is 3 years old, he is your flesh and blood, he looks up to you as if you was his hero, your his row model and you should stand by him and protect him when he is sick or not sick. YOU ARE HIS MOTHER. your husband has got to realise that he isnt the only one in your life, you come with a package so deal with it and be a mother. I cant understand how you can evan make out your 3 year old son is a problem, you and your husband and your baby should be a proper family. if your son was about 10 or older i could agree with you but your talking about a 3 year old who as just really come into the world and wants love and affection from his mummy. seems to me that you should think less about yourself and more about your baby.