My son is 4 please help?

Question

he is always violent he hits everyone even his 2 year old sister he cusses u out wat would u do if u sit him down and tell him u love him or any other support he tells u he hates u

Answer 1

Stop blaming the child for his actions, obviously he is allowed to behave in this manner and that is the fault of the one who allows him to behave this way.   He is just a small child and can not be held responsible for his behavior but his parents can.

Answer 2

No this is not acceptable behavior for a 4 year old. My son will be 4 in 2 weeks and he does not go around hitting people (knock on wood). I reward good behavior and punish unacceptable behavior. At 4 they began to get the concept that if I'm good I get a reward and if I do something wrong, I will get something taken away. I have a treat box for my son and if he has done well, I reward him, but he is a 4 year old, and we have our moments. First there is a warning, then something gets taken away, if needed next there's time out.

If he is hitting people maybe there is some underlining issue. I would try to talk to him to see why he gets so angry that he wants to hit. Then find steps to redirect his anger.

Answer 3

Since there is no support from the biological mother then you are basically stuck between a rock and a hard place. What I would do is reward and punishment if he does something good or goes the whole day without hitting or saying a bad word then reward him and on the other hand if he says bad words or hits punish him right away no matter how many times a day until he gets it.

Answer 4

I would put up a reward chart and a rule chart.. put him in time out and take rewards away when he is bad, but make sure you notice him when he is good. Best of luck!!