My son is 6 1/2 years old and he goes to a very small day care (about 5 kids)?

Question

Suddenly he started to kiss the 2 girls on the day care and also at school a total of 4 girls in about a month. I have received letters from school and all this is a big problem to me. I don't know what to tell him and dont know how to react. I need big help. Thank you.

Answer 1

Don't panic, these kids see this with men and women on TV, in Movies , at home, and on the street. You set him down and explain when it is appropriate to kiss someone.

Answer 2

Oh- I am so undestanding this. My little guy did the same thing. We were so conflicted as we always encourage him to be kind and appreciate his effection, that to ask him not to display this effection was difficult. At this age they understand privacy and rules. We explained to our little guy- "The rules are: No touching at school or daycare. It's a rule and a law that we must abide by. It is not because he did anything wrong but because it makes some other kids uncomfortable. It is also a concern with germs and sickness. To be safe we need to keep our effections to smiles and kind words." Besides Mom and Dad would love for you to save it all up for us! We love your hugs and kisses. Michele

Answer 3

the first thing that you need to find out is where he learned this behavior.  when you find out  sit down and tell him that that is something that grownups do when they love each other and are married.  its not something that children do.  just stay calm when talking to him and the rest will fall into place.

good luck.

Answer 4

Well there is school behavior & there is not at school behavior. I know kids in high school are not allowed to get affection while at school so I am thinking you can tell him that while that is a sweet thing to do it is best to not do that at school. Us an example of something he would do at home but he can't do at school. Maybe he takes his clothes off to take a bath but must leave his clothes on while at school. Or if he takes his shoes off when he is in the house but he can only do that at certain times at school . I think this is an opportunity to teach him good boundaries. You could make it into a game or see if the teacher could create a game & that way he won't be singled out. Someone could have pictures & say what is Ok to do in school & what is not.

Answer 5

Tell him kisses are only for mommy, daddy, and family.

Hugs good by and high fives are for friend too.

Answer 6

Have a calm talk with him over icecream or something he likes.  Ask him why he is doing this.  What make him want to kiss the girls.  Maybe he does this just to tease them (kind of like a game)  Tell him he can not kiss the girls anymore, because he is not old enough, it is against the school rules.  If that does not work let the doctor tell him he can catch colds, and flu and other sickness from kissing.  Don`t he know he can catch  cooties??   lol

Answer 7

Finding out where the behavior was learned is key.  If he sees you and your partner sharing kisses, it's perfectly healthy and gives him a sense of love and safety...but if he learned it by watching PG-13 movies with his not-so-careful friend/uncle/babysitter, there may be an issue with monitoring his viewing habits.  You need to let your little guy know that kisses are for moms and dads, or for people who are in our families. Talk with his teachers and see if they have any suggestions, and make sure he's watching appropriate things!