My son is 6. What do I do to stop the constant whining and answering back?

Question

Everything he whines about! To eat, to sleep, to go pee, when i tell him to behave, when things are too loud, when I say NO...

Answer 1

Make him have timeouts in a room where there is no TV no PC no phones, nothing and make him stay in there until he settles down and apologizes to you.

Answer 2

ughh. punishment and discipline. my parents was hard on me. if i done something bad or wrong they just come in my room wit like hangers or rulers.. belts.. even late at night when they just found out i did something wrong they won't even bother to wake me up and just stat with a hanger. of course i wake up right away.

Answer 3

When he starts to whine, immediately say "I am NOT listening to you until you talk like a big boy.  You are whining."  Keep reinforcing not to whine, and follow through by not listening when he does whine.  He has found a behavior that gets your attention and is using it (apparently effectively!)

When he talkes back, ask him "Who do you think you are talking to?  You are not allowed to use that tone with me."

Always, FOLLOW THROUGH.

Answer 4

I hate to break the news to you, but he is a male. I'm 34 and I still whine and answer back. Guys also make a huge deal about when they don't feel good, so be prepared. LOL I'm joking.

I am not sure how you talk to your son or ask him not to do certain things. I am also not sure how you communicate with others. He will learn a lot of manners just by watching you and other adults that are in his life. If he sees that you and other adults are respectful toward each other, then he will develop the same manners. You could also choose some good TV shows or movies that he could watch and see how people interact with each other. I am sure you heard this a hundred times, but kids do pick up habits from watching other people and TV. Especially those people that are closest in his life. The important thing to remember is lead and teach by example.

I hope this helps.

Answer 5

What my mother did to me was everytime I whine she'd say "**** you're whining like a baby are you a baby?" but she would do it in a mocking voice or whine it and make me feel really bad or stupid. then she would walk away from me. If I followed her and I was still whining she would turn the tv up and ignore me until I talked normally. Thats how I stopped. it really works.

Answer 6

Put him in time outs and always follow through. If he still acts like a brat spank him like my parents did to me.

Answer 7

Whining- ignore him until he can talk to you in a pleasant voice. When he learns he doesn't get your attention by whining then it will stop.

As for talking back, do the same thing only a little further. When he talks back, ignore him. When he later comes asking you for something he wants (not a need mind you) then tell him "NO" because of the disrespect he showed you earlier and that if he wants privileges of going to friends houses or to do other things that he has to start respecting you as the parent or else he's not doing them. When he has to miss out on a party or two or even a few playdates or other things he'll get the message that his smart mouth is not appreciated or acceptable.

You should also talk with him about why the smart mouth and whining is not acceptable to you and that at 6 he can start learning to act a little more responsibly to his age.  If his friends do this and get away with it then it may be time to stop seeing those friends who are influencing his attitude and get him into some activiites and things where he can make friends that don't act that way.

I don't think rewards are the answer for behavior that should be expected in a home from the child. Respect for other members of the family and the like is something expected, not something they need to do for rewards when they do so. As the parent in the situation you need to be firm and you need to show him that you are not going to give in or back down on your decisions regarding his inappropriate behavior. Get it in control now or else when he's a teenager you'll have more trouble to reckon with. The excuse of "he's a boy" is a lame one at that and doesn't excuse the behavior at all. That's only giving permission to the behavior.

Answer 8

Tell him you wont' address his question or statement until he talks without whinning.  Then you give him an example, "this is how you are whinning" (whiney voice, exaggerated) and "this is a proper voice, " and say it in the most neutral voice you can.

Everytime he opens his mouth whiney, you stop him, interrupt him and ask him to talk properly.

Answer 9

Stop responding to the whining.  Obviously he didn't just start whining, or misbehaving.  YOU are the one who responds to his behavior.  I'm figuring you gave into his whines just to get him to stop so because you did that he continues to whine to get his way.  YOU need to set rules in your home accentuate his positive behavior.  Praise him when he behaves.  Give him privliges (I figure he is allowed to watch television, play on computer, play video games whenever he wants to so doling them out isn't going to work), tell him that if he behaves all week, (no whining, no sassing, he follows the rules you will take him to lunch at wherever HE wants to go on Saturday and KEEP YOUR WORD).