My son is 7, in the first grade, being bullied by a few boys and.....?

Question

yesterday I picked him up from school and his teacher did not tell me he had been physically assaulted by two boys who pinched and smacked his arms. I saw the marks on him and had to ask him about it. His teacher has told me these other boys are on some kind of behavior program and that their parents have been notified in regards to past matters, but she also says that my son needs to ignore the other kids. She stressed that she is teaching my son that he can make the choice to let the boys get to him, or he can ignore it and maybe they will stop.

I have put up with her grin and bear it, put the blame on my son and make him feel bad that the other kids make him cry c**p for the whole school year.

I had even been on the School Improvement Council, but found all they cared to improve was their fundraising efforts and that wasn,t what I thought I had signed on for. I have a 3 year old child who will have to go to this school when he is 5. I called the asst.superintendant,what else

Answer 1

i am seventeen years old in high school and i used to be one of the smallest kids in school. i always got picked on and my friends had to stand up for me. after a while i started lifting and defending myself. once i started getting to be normal size my self esteem rose probably ten times. im now the second biggest kid in my school. i know your sons only seven, but if he starts lifting now he wont have to worry about being picked on in school. also if your son did start to lift and get bigger he can help other kids that are being bullied and whenever i help other kids it is an awsome feeling.

Answer 2

My son had the same problem when he was younger.He was always quiet and some boys picked on him.Well after talking to teachers and principle,nothing was done.So i told my son to fight back.Guess what the boys never touched him again after that.Im not saying it was the right thing but some people dont take this seriouse because the kids are so young.

Answer 3

when my son was 6 and in kindergarten, he got bullied /teased by one specific kid. i wrote a note to the teacher and we had a discussion. the teacher was sure to reinforce in class, personal space, no bullying etc lessons. my son and this child later became friends, i wouldn't talk to their parents, parents are defensive of their children. continue to pursue it at school. sounds like these kids need to have a special aide or be in another class. I'd call the principal since you are not geting anywhere with the teacher and if this can't be resolved i would request my child to be removed from the classroom,there must be another first grade class....or the school year is almost over request that your child not be in second grade in the same class as these children, i do believe that the more complaints brought in about these kids there is more documentation of their potential need for special needs. Good luck......don't be afraid to make waves when your child is unhappy, that is not a environment conducive to learning for him.

Answer 4

go to school board, call local newspaper let them do a story bullies are suppose to stop. your son has every right to go to school without being picked on. you pay tax's just like everyone else. be firm with the school don't let them get away with that.

Answer 5

My son was being bullied at school as well. At first we told him just to walk away but then it kept happening and got more serious every time. My husband and I finally told him to fight back. We also told him that he will get in trouble with the school but we would take care of that and he wouldn't be in trouble at home as long as he did only what was necessary. This was a hard talk because it is one of those tough gray areas of parenting.

It is so hard as a parent to step back and let your child try to take care of himself because it is our instinct to protect our children!

Answer 6

My son is 8 and we've found it's better to let him defend himself. If the other children know he will fight back they're more inclined to leave him be. At first I was reluctant because the school didn't want the children fighting but if he doesn't fight back then they will keep picking at him just because it's easy. Bully's don't want to pick with others that will fight back because then they may get hurt. It's always easier for them to pick on the boys that won't fight back. The rule we have is that he can only defend himself never hit first. We don't want him to become a bully nor just sit back and ignore it.

Answer 7

That is not right. You need to keep calling until someone listens. At my son's elementary school they had a no fighting policy where if any one hit someone else they got in trouble no matter what. These children should be 1)punished every time 2) removed from your child's class or from having any access to your child. I would not settle for any less than that.

It is not your child's fault he is being bullied and for the teacher to imply that is appalling.

Answer 8

I would raise h**l! your son DOES NOT deserve to be treated like that in school! He should not have to ignore that behavior. They need to take those boys out and put them in an alternative school. GO to the school everyday if you have to and talk to the principle I would even try to get rid of that teacher if I was you. Good Luck!

Answer 9

If it continues, call the parents of the kids.  It is the parents responsibility to discipline their kids.  If it persists, call the police.