My son is 8 and having fits, talking back and breaking things...what do I do?

Question

lately he has been throwing things around in his room, kicking things around when he's told to go to his room after talking back or refusing to do something...after about 15 minutes of having these fits, he acts as tho' nothing happened. My baby has always been a really good kid, he was moved up a grade in school, I just don't know why in the last month or so he has changed so much...I pay attention to pretty much every little detail in his life, I participate in his activities when I have time...almost everyone compliments how great of a job i'm doing parenting him, as he has always been respectful and polite to others...I'm just at a loss right now, I don't know what to do? Any suggestions? please i'm so open for them...thanks D'z Mom

Answer 1

something is definately troubling him.  you need to get even more attentive.

another truth is that humans, and children especially, melt when they experience love.  be even more loving as a mother.  forgive him when he most expects to be punished.  try and spend more time with him until you get to the bottom of his problem.

can you pray?  do a lot of that if you can.  there are some challenges you just shouldn't face on your own

i sincerely wish you all the best

Answer 2

He is at the age where he is testing you. All you have to do is stand tough and stick with the guidelines you have issued. If he breaks his own things, tell him he must not want nice things and then take them all away. If he breaks your things, make him pay for it. Remove everything that would seem to be an award and just give him the "basics" like a place to sleep and some generic food. That is, food which is still nutritious.

Answer 3

I would ask him why he is acting like this. Also don't punish him, because that seems to make him unhappy and mad. But he needs to be told fermly that what he is doing has to stop. Every time he misbehaves..say "Ok thats just another 15 mins of TV that you just lost" Or somehting like that. If nothing works,talk to a docter about what to do. I hope this helped.

-Tara

Answer 4

His sudden change in behavior could be a cry for help.  It sounds as though something is troubling him. Maybe kids at school or a teacher? It's hard to get kids to talk about problems sometimes. They feel ashamed or embarrassed. Maybe a sibling or friend could shed some light. You could discreetly ask if they know of anything that could be going on. Kids talk to kids. I would also consider seeing his pediatrician, have him evaluated for ADHD.

Answer 5

my daughter is 7.  she went through this a big last year.  We took away everything in her room bedies clothes and books and furniture and told her if she wanted her toys abck she had to earn them.

this was after talking to her, punishments and arguments.

remember, you are the parent, theya re to listen to you.  but you need to talk to them and ask why they are doing this

you may also want to think about a cholid councelor of some sort

Answer 6

I guess start out by trying to figure out if there is an underlining problem. At school, with a relative, what's getting to him. Mabey someone other than you can talk to him. An uncle he adores someone he looks up to.

Answer 7

Sounds like stress coupled with the onset of puberty.  Of course calling him your baby doesn't help either, he isn't a baby.  It's time that you sat down as a family (entire family) and started discussing the problem...you obviously don't know everything that is going on in this child's life and you need to get to the bottom of it.