My son is Six yrs old and the school does not want him back next year?

Question

He is in kindergarten so he just turned 6 in March i think he may grow up over the summer but the school does not think so. Well he got in some fights and now he is not to take the bus anymore and i do take a way things that he likes but that does not work he does not care.

Answer 1

1. Seek professional help, your son seems to have some issues with aggression, and you need to treat the root cause, not the symptoms.

2. In the meantime, go with the school's advice. He is hurting both his and other children's ability to learn and grow in a safe environment. He's only six, so if you have to hold him back, it will be much easier for him to catch up now then when he is older; It may seem like a hard thing to do now, but it will only be worse later.

Answer 2

Have you considered getting him professional help?  Does he witness violence at home?  Is he safe around pets or does he try to hurt them?  There are so many questions that could be asked about this.  I would absolutely see a doctor if his behavior is that out of control.  You need help, possibly with him or possibly with your parenting style.  Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Where do they say he's suppose to go next year? Did they give you any written documentation for their decision? THey have to have LEGAL reasons for throwing him out of school, and not just because they feel like it.

Answer 4

You have a lot of work to do... you need to correct his behavior now before hes too big.

I would start with a counselor... you need someone to talk with him and help you make a plan to deal with his behavior. Chances are you let things pass at home that should be taken care of and not just let go of.

If the school does not want him back because he is troubled you need to file a hearing with the school board. If they don't want to help and find a plan for your son... they may be responsible for sending him to another school at their cost. (pending he hasn't done things like setting the school on fire, bringing guns/knives to school, endangering the lives of other kids).

Answer 5

YOU SHOULD JUST TAKE SON GO SOME PASE AND TALK TO HIM

Answer 6

Is there a daddy in his life? I'm guessing he might need that father figure authority? I could be wrong.

My daughter is in Kindergarten and there is a boy who is a distraction to the whole class. I hope he gets the help he needs, but I do not want him to interfere with my daughter's education.

Answer 7

Consider taking him to a different school, or talk to the principle and try to find a way to stay at the school, and get him a sycologist, if you are divorced maybe your six year old is mad. My parents got a divorce when I was seven, I remember getting into trouble a lot around then. My dad got me a sycolagist and I am doing a lot better.

Answer 8

Call the Nanny and get some good advice as soon as possible.  A 6 year old should not be running the show....

Answer 9

try homeschooling him next year instead of sending back whre he is not wanted.

Answer 10

Wow sounds to me like your son is wearing the pants in your house!

I think he needs a good butt spanking!!!!

You need to be CONSISTANT!

If you ground for a week...IT NEEDS TO LAST A WEEK!!!

Obviously your son has some issues and you might want to look into getting some help....I saw someone said something about calling the nanny...call the super nanny!!!!!

at 6 years old....your son should have NO sense of control.

and, not to be rude...but if he acts like this..there is NO way you should say he will grow up over summer....it wont happen...he will get worse without PROPER discipline!

at 6 years old, and not being aloud back to the school....there is a MAJOR problem and you need to address it RIGHT NOW!

What are you going to do when he is big enough to fight with you and knock YOU OUT????????

take care of it now!

Stand up and show him who is the boss!

it will be VERY hard for a while seeing as the kid has gotten away with anything and everything for 6 years....it won't be over night, and it won't take a week...it will take TIME to change his thinking!!

You better get moving tho...boys learn how to become men in their first 9 years of life!!!!! 6 have been blown...you got 3 to change the kind of man your boy becomes!!!!

Answer 11

The first thing to consider is how consitent you are with discipline- he needs to be able to predict the consequences of his behavior. If the behavior isn't situation specific- if he is misbehaving at home and school and grandmas, etc. then perhaps he should be evaluated for any behavioral or emotional disorders that he needs help with. I would be leery of any school that "doesn't want him back". It's their job to work with kids and meet the needs of each individual student. The first step is an evaluation to see where the problem lies so you can partner with the school to make the situation better. It could be a problem with consistent discipline but it could be something more such as a chemical imbalance that he can't control. The school should have taken the first steps in trying to fix the situation- not just given up on him. I would find a new school.

Answer 12

You and a lot of others will not like my answer, but here it is.  As you say, you take things away and he does not care.  Either you are not consistent in doing so or he needs a few good old fashioned whippings.  NO, I do not mean w./ a belt, but he is not too old to whio him hard enough through his pants so that he feels it is not pleasant.  This is not a popular discipline method any more.  It's also been proven that kids are younger and younger when they misbehave in serious ways- like fighting.  I recall my mom whipping me once when I was about your son's age.  As I had never been whipped, I sure never forgot it.  It hurt my feelings more than my behind.  In the future, if my mom said if I did something I was going to get a whipping- well, let me tell you, I just never did it!!  None of my other 3 sisters ever got a whipping but my mom said I was more srong willed and would have things only my way.  She had to put her foot , or in this case, her hand down.  LOL  Then again, she was ALWAYS consistent when she said NO, we knew even though she was probably not going to whip us, she meant business.

No matter what you decide to do as far as punishment, I am hoping ny aslking the question here, you realize that getting your son in line NOW, is critical for his future sucess.  Not only in school but for the rest of his life. It is VERY serious thing to be that age and have "the school not want him back next year."  

THAT being said, before any punishment., PLEASE make sure he isn't being bullied for some reason at school and, that HE was the one that started the fights.  If he was being bullied and was attacked, that is a whole different story.  While most people think their kids look perfect, other kids can be unbelievably cruel to those that they don't see as like them or "average".  A kid can be bullied for everything from being too heavy/ thin to being too intelligent.  Find out everything you can about the fights to see if it was a bullying situation.  Fighting is not permitted- period, but if that was involved, you need to speak to techers, conselors and even the principal.  They have an obligation to protect kids from bullying.  It sounds like they have taken steps to do just that- by asking your son not return though.  It seems they think he was the bully and/ or started the fights. Again, just make sure he wasn't just trying to protect himself.  I say that as despite being a great kid (according to my mom) I did get into two fights at about age 12 and 13.  I started neither, was just bullied for being too thin.  If it's an issue like that, try and help your child feel better about themselves.  I am an adult that can eat whatever I want and stay thin and some adults still "hate me" because of it.  It took a long  time for me to realize it was a blessing in disguise.

Answer 13

Hmm..can see who wears the trousers in your house. You better sort him out now before it's too late.

Answer 14

If a school is rejecting your 6 year old because of behavioral problems and there are no underlying physical issues (like ADHD or Autism) causing these bahavioral problems, then you need some serious parenting classes.  I worked 5 years as a teacher in an inner-city elementary school.  Let me tell you there are some serious behavioral issues out there.  A 6 year old shouldn't be allowed to behave in such a way that the school won't even take him back!  Invest in some parenting classes and do your son a favor.