My son is almost 3 and has no desire to potty train.?

Question

I have bought him the royal potty that plays a song when he urinates or poops in it but he has used it only once not he crys and screams when i try to get him to use it. I have tried m&ms and rewarding him he got big praises when he did use it. But he wont tell me if he has to go and he wont even tell me if he has pooped his diaper. Now we are not lettiing him play his sponge bob game unless he pees or poops in the potty. I try to get him to sit on it in the am when he wakes up but it turns into a scream fest. (him not me)I am getting tired of buying diapers. any help?

Answer 1

OOH girl same problem with me.. I also bought him that one.. try not putting the music probably that freak him out... well Since they are off the bottle by this time it is a good time to potty train.. mine will be 3 in august and today i just started putting him on undies and he wont tell me he wants to pee but when he is urinating he tells me .. but just let him run aroung on undies and let him do his stuff.. then he will get tired and start to let you know.. hopefully mine does this soon. It work with some friends....

Answer 2

I just answered a similar question earlier today, it was a little lengthy but it apparently sat right with the asker.  What I told  her ....   "You're VERY brave to do them at the same time. It took me a month to train my 3 yr old son (Well, he's now 3 yrs, 8 months) He just caught on this week really. I put him in regular underwear. It was seriously messy, I was constantly cleaning carpets and mopping floors. A lot of the pooey underwear just got thrown away. I used a combo of things for him, bought him underwear that he picked out (the first undies we used were just the plain gerber trainers, nothing exciting) and wouldn't let him use it until he stayed dry and clean for a couple days and that helped A LOT, we keep a potty chart on the fridge and he gets a smiley face everytime he pees and we add a star to the smiley face if he poops. When he pees he gets 3 chocolate chips and when he poops he gets gummi spiders. I was just really patient. And don't let all the crazies who try to make you feel bad succeed. My sons pediatrician told me at his 3 yr appt that when he was ready it would happen and not to force the issue. I had tried starting back in March and he was doing excellent but we had an emergency situation where we had to send him to his grandparents and they kept him in pull-ups (which also gave him a combo strep/staph infection on his butt), 3 weeks of hard work completely down the drain! I only use pull-ups at night and when we go out. He wakes up dry but I don't WANT to have to wash sheets everyday if he has an accident. I plan on training my daughter who is now almost 2 1/2 the same way. Although, unless she does it on her own I probably won't start her till she's around 3 also. She's diabetic and I'm having a hard time getting her sugar under control so when she's a little bit high she pees like crazy. Frustrating!! Good luck and the messiness of the regular underwear is totally worth it!!"

Now what I'll tell you...  everything I read said don't make it a discipline issue but every child is different, we had a couple times where we had to and it worked for us.  And when he doesn't want to sit on the potty keep on putting him on there.  Another thing that helped my son in the beginning is if I would hold his hand while he was on the potty, I guess he got a feeling of security from it.  My husband argues with our son in the am to sit, but I just let him do his thing and he hasnt had a morning accident in over 2 weeks.

Answer 3

Give him milk. Milk is somewhat like laxative. At least you'll be sure that he'll be using the restroom in no time.

Answer 4

There is a disposable diaper out now that does NOT keep the moisure away from baby's skin. Use them.

Also, there are baby rules for babies who poo and pee in their pants and there are big boy rules for big boys who poo and pee in the toilet. Baby's drink from a bottle. They drink formula and sometimes juice, never soda pop or koolaid. Big boys get to drink from a cup, or a tommy tippee, and they don't have to drink formula, they can have regular milk, and they can sometime have soda (like right after using the potty!)

Babies have to sit in the high chair to eat, and mommy feeds them. Big boys can sit in a chair and feed themselves. Babies don't eat dessert. Big boys do.

Babies have to take a nap in their crib whenever mommy wants them to. Big boys can sleep in a bed, and can stay up a little later.

Babies don't get sugar,exept in fruit or fruit juices. No exceptions!~Big boys get to eat candy occasionally. Like when they use the potty. Babies don't play games like sponge bob. Big boys do. Sponge bob should be put in a visible, but inaccesible place until poo and pee in the toilet become a regular occurance. Sure, I'm strict. I'm the oldest of 11. Our mom was a single mother and I was in charge of keeping order. All of my brothers and sisters were potty trained by the time they were 18 months old, because the baby rules were unbearable when you had a sibling in your face, living by the big kid rules!

Sometimes other people, such as inlaws will try to interfere with this process "Oh, you're so cruel!" This is a pile of c**p much more insideous than the pile of c**p they will refuse to clean up if you relent to their liberal baloney. If they don't like your child rearing ways, they can stay home until the issue is resolved. We didn't see aunt May for almost three years until the three youngest were potty broke, because I told her to shut up or put her prissy little hands to work changing crappy diapers which occurred as a result of her liberal shenanigans, i.e. feeding the babies candy, which gave them the runs. She refused to clean up the mess she made and I told her to take a hike. Mother backed me up and we had the babies trained in short order. Best wishes, my dear.

Answer 5

my friend once took the diaper away completely. and you can imagine a few hours of cleaning the kid up and the kid doesn't like it, then they use potty.

Answer 6

that's how my brother and cousin(there the same age) were. they didn't want anything to do with it. and when they were 4 1/2 both all of a sudden started out of know where.

Answer 7

Is there anyway to disable the sound on the potty chair, he might be scared that it's making noise.  If not, you might have to put it away, I don't think stores take potty chair returns, unfortunately....but we know why.  Find a cushioned seat that sits on the adult toilet, maybe he'll feel more like a "big" boy if he uses the toilet where mommy goes.  Let him sit, to urinate for now, it's easier.  That's all I can think of....still trying to potty train my 2 year old who's almost 3.  I'm frustrated too, he's in pull-ups..gets exspensive.  Keep trying, don't give up.  Good luck

Answer 8

Why would he want to be potty trained?

He has you waiting on him.  Why should he want to that disgusting job when your willing to do it for him?

You need to tell him he's potty training.

Tell him he's going to be in underwear, and needs to go on the toilet.

Tell him it's his "job" to sit on the toilet when you ask him.

Tell him he's cleaning up after himself.

Other tips:

Get him on a schedule.

Make him clean himself when he has an accident.  Put him in the bathroom and sit in the hall.  Don't talk to him, don't look at him until he's clean and dressed.

He's gonna scream.

Deal with it.  Think of it as training for when he's a teenager.

Answer 9

Kids will use the potty only when they are ready to use the potty.  Try backing off.  Sounds like there is a lot of pressure on him to do this.  Toddlers don't respond well to pressure.  You don't need the pressure either.  I guarantee he will eventually use the toilet.  It won't matter if he did it when he was 3 or 4, but it will happen.  I have a 3 year girl and just ask her if she needs to use the potty, but if she says no, I don't push it.  I usually let her run around naked, but keep on eye on the clock and after about 1 1/2 hours suggest the potty, or offer a diaper.  She is about 50/50 either way.  We do give 1 M&M if she pees on the potty.  I've even offered 5 if she poops, but I don't think she's anywhere close to doing that.  At night, I'll ask her if she will sit on the (big) potty, and she sometimes does and is able to go.  Just keep asking, but not forcing.  I have two older kids 8 and 10, and they didn't use the potty, until they were ready - usually after I gave up trying!

By the way, I have the same potty chair and it is kind of scary when it plays the music.  Sometimes it goes off, even without her peeing in it!  I have it turned off.