My son is bragging?

Question

My friend enrolled her 16 y/o daughter for 4 weeks in a prestigious tennis academy that happens to be close to where we live, so we have offered to have her stay at our house instead of boarding. However, my husband overheard our 17 y/o son telling his buddy that he found the girl attractive and had already received oral s*x from her (in more crude terms). I don't want to offend my friend by falsely accusing her daughter, who is a nice girl and so far has been a wonderful guest, but if this is true then we will have to ask her to leave. How can we be sure?

Answer 1

Ask your son and tell him he better tell you the truth. He's probably just talking bullsh*t with a buddy so that it makes him seem cool.

Answer 2

Boys that age like to talk alot of cr@p even though it may not be true.  They are always trying to look like the stud in front of their friends.  If you want to find out the truth, maybe your husband should talk to him about it.  You definitely shouldn't ask because he'll probably just deny it.  If his dad asks, he might actually fess up and tell him the truth...whether what he was saying about the incident is true or just a teenager's wild imagination.  If you want to go to extremes, you might want to put a hidden spycam in her room or your son's room to see if this sort of activity is repeated.

Answer 3

I bet if you asked him, he would deny it pretty fast. He should NOT be talking about any girls like that, that's really rude. I can't stand guys that brag like that, because most of the time they are just making things up. The issue should not be kicking this girl out (who has been a wonderful guest, as you said) the issue is why is your son going around talking this way?

Answer 4

Guys are known for this behavior.  I doubt its true. Hes probably just bragging to his buddies to look cool!!!  Ask him if what you heard is true!  Be warned that he will probably be upset at you for "listening in" on his conversations. He can still lie and he may b/c of embarrasment. If he says no then theres not much you can do! Get the facts before bringing it up to your friend first!

Answer 5

Are you bored s**+tless?? How many times do you have to post the same question, only to recieve almost the same answers....

Answer 6

Your son is lieing.  He is bragging to his buddy to make himself look bigger than he is.  Have a talk with your son and call him on it.

Answer 7

why are you dishing on the girl?  

IF anything happened (i seriously doubt it) you need to lay equal smack-down on your son - he took advantage of a guest in his home.

you also need to accept that your duty was to protect the girl and you failed in that IF she and your son were actually canoodling.

i would also do some soul-searching and have a heart-to-heart with your son to find out what in his upbringing leads him to think that was acceptable behaviour (not the oral s*x thing - kids will be kids - but the bragging about it to someone else).

Answer 8

Talk to your son about it.  Then, talk to her parents.  Be very gentle with the way you word everything to them because they are going to be angry, even though it's not your fault.

Answer 9

I think if the girl really did what your son said she had done you should ignore it this time, but  keep the girl at your house. Like you said she is a very nice house geust, she isnt really doing anything to hurt you and you house hold, just let this one slide and try to keep them apart best as possible, but if you think its going on again talk to them, talking never hurt....