My son is burned out at school?

Question

My son is a junior in highschool and he is telling me he is burned out. He feels like noone cares if he is even there. And his grades show it. I have talked to his counsler and him and, but he just has no ambition. I have talked to him about his future and that now is the time to prepare for collage. I really dont want any stupid answers, now is not the time but if any one has any good advise I sure coulduse it.

Thanks

Answer 1

Well I went to school to be a teacher and what I learned was that when kids start doing bad at school is when they don't understand a certain subject.  Perhaps your son feels that no one cares because he is having a hard time with a certain subject like math and the teacher really isn't backing him up. It could also be that he just can't get it.  The best thing to do is first ask if he thinks that he needs a tutor.  Second you should get him excited about life and the rest should fall into place.  It can be like a sport or big trip.  Tell him that you will take him to the beach or ski trip if he can improve.

Answer 2

Show him examples of what can happen if he decides to skip out on school and how bad his life can end up, im sure this will straighten him out, or make him decide school or streets and if he chooses streets h**l be back in no time begging to go to school.

Answer 3

Friends are the key to friendship. Put him in clubs or school activities or go to another school(just kidding) invite people for sleepovers

Answer 4

By no ambition do you mean that he doesn't know what he wants to do or that he has no motivation? Ask him what he likes to do and see if the two of you can figure out what he wants to as a career. Then research what kind of schooling he needs for that. And if he says he doesn't want to work, take him to the nearest bridge and let him know that will become his home. You care if he is there, and I'm sure someone else does too. If he's not athletic then there is speech and debate (forensics) or other clubs which get "the rest of us" involved and around people who don't always fit in with everyone else. And in the end, you're still his mother and can make him do his homework in plain site and hopefully take a couple hours off work to follow him around if he starts skipping, although that may not help with friends. But I knew my mom would do that if I skipped, so I didn't. Just stay involved and let him know how important it is to do his work.

Answer 5

tell him not to worry about what others think

Answer 6

What state are you in?  Different states have different options to get kids out of high school and into college.  Check it out!

Answer 7

I dont feel like your son is being unreasonable, but have you tried getting him into some sort of special program.  Chances are your son is either brilliant and bored, or having trouble and doesnt understand, and is lost.  They key to having him be interested it to challenge him just the right amount, enough to make him work for the answer, but able to get it.  Maybe he is just not interested, in which case find out what he is interested in, he might be better at a vocational school for high school as well.  If he wants to fix cars, dont force him into anything else.  If he loves his career choice that will be what will make him happy in the end.

Answer 8

He needs to get a girl friend and have relations with her

Answer 9

Let him homeschool! Give him motivation by allowing him to navigate his future. He can help pick courses, choose his hours & methodology.

He can prepare for college while homeschooling just as well as at public school. I know, because I have one in college. We have five kids, and have homeschooled for nine years.

Answer 10

Well I know from my high school experience so far high school sucks. It truly does there is not a way around saying its "okay".

Ive had to transfer to 2 schools already. Maybe there is people at school that he doesn't want to tell you about that are just not so nice to him or he is being excluded in things such as activities in the classroom no one is asking t be his partner or something along those lines. I'm sorry but there really isn't too much you can do except try to listen to what he is telling you and maybe try to do a cheer me up by going to a movie or getting him something new to keep his mind off of it. I hope you the best of luck. really I do.

Answer 11

I feel bad for your son feeling this way school can be a lonely hostile place. He needs to socialise a little more and put himself out there maybe get him involved in some activities in school as well as out this will boost his self confidence thus making it easier for him to appraoch potential friends

Easier said than done I know but this is the only way he can come out of his shell.

It can be hard for a mother to see their child in this situation but be supportive you don't want him to clam up completely at least he's talking to you that means he trusts you as a parent

Your doing great

Hope this helps and Good Luck

Answer 12

Pretty normal for teenagers these days

I agree, frienships are the answer

Answer 13

It's quite easy for your son's counselor to say he has "no ambition."  That gets the school off the hook for educating him.

You need to do some detective work and find out if he is suffering from depression.  A call to your son's physician is in order.

Secondly, take your son seriously.  It is truly possible that no one does care if your son is at school.  Given his age, you may want to home school him for next year - he can even take classes at community college.

Until the feeling of being "burned out" is resolved for him, talking to him about his future and the need to prepare for college is only going to stress him further.

Answer 14

it mite b that yur putting too much pressure on him

Answer 15

I'm in 11th grade as well (just turned 17 yesterday). I feel kinda burned out too, it's okay. Second semester of junior year is the hardest because we know we're only a short way away from summer and then we're seniors (so we really don't have to try). It's normal. Just keep making him do his homework and be responsible. If his grades drop, take away the car/other privileges.