My son is going to have an I.E.P, any one have any suggestions on how to explain this to him?

Question

My son is going to have an I.E.P, any one have any suggestions on how to explain this to him?

Answer 1

There is really no need to make a big deal about this to your son. To be honost, there is really no need for him to know. An I.E.P. doesn't mean that you are stupid, it means you need help in certain areas. For example, if your son struggles with reading, he will have someone help him with that, and maybe even read tests to him. He also may have an extended amount of time on certain exams. I wouldn't fret about this too much. Just explaini that if he needs help in school, he has somewhere to go to get it. There is no need to be embarassed or for other children to know.

Answer 2

I am in my final year of high school and I have an I.E.P. The best way is to sit him down. talk to him in a clam voice and tell him the truth. Tell him why he has one. What it dose for him. How it will help him. Tell him there is notting wrong with having an I.E.P. Make sure you talk to him in a clam voice

Answer 3

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Answer 4

How old is he?  If he is really young, like grade school, I would not stress him about it,

If you want to explain it as, "Mom has to meet with some of your teachers to see how you are doing in school.", then he will not be full of worry.

Wait and see how the first meeting goes.  Sometimes it can be very positive, and other times, you feel like its a table of academic people judging your parenting at home, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 5

My kid has one of these too. It is really a great tool for his education. I would be very open about it with him. If he has one then he knows he is struggling in a subject, or even a couple. An I.E.P. is designed to give him success and to help give him more attention in a subject that he is having a hard time with. Depending on his age they may even include him on set up goals to reach were he needs to be, giving him empowerment.  

  I hope this is helpful.

Answer 6

I have a 12 yr. old who is ADHD and has one of these also. I have always been very honest and upfront with him. I let him know that there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about and some times every one needs a little extra help.

Answer 7

I would explain that IEP stands for individual education plan. I will tell him that everyone learns differently. I would also explain that you want to make sure that all his needs being are being meet. My daughter was 3 when she had a full evaluation done. She had alot of fun. I didn't really explain much at the time. I asked again for a full case evaluation at 9 years old. I told her that I know that she trys very hard in school but everyone learns differently. I thought the way they were teaching her in school may not be the best way for her.I gave her examples of how different people learn. It really isn't a big deal at all. many kids have them. If you make a big deal about it then your son will. There is nothing wrong with having one. Answer alll questions that he has. Be honest. If you don't know then find out what he wants to know.

I also asked the school what would be done so I could explain it to my daughter they they know what to expect.

Answer 8

Just tell him that you are going to see his teachers and talk about all the good things he is learning and talk about ways to help him to learn more new things and to make good grades.

That's enough information about an IEP for a child.

Answer 9

I would tell him it's guidelines to help him be successful at school. After the set up of the IEP I would explain each goal for him. Let him know you and the school are working together to make school more enjoyable for him. As a word of caution becareful of what you say and how you say it to him because if your child is anything like mine he uses his disability as an excuse sometimes. In my house we are fully honest to our children we just really have to choose the words correctly

Answer 10

I wouldn't worry about it so much.  I also wouldn't make a big deal about it in front of your child so that he doesn't start thinking it is a big deal.  If he asks questions, keep it simple and matter of fact.  There is no reason his classmates need to know and it is all supposed to be kept private.  So I would try to tell my son that this isn't a big deal but if he wants to talk about it to come to you.  Please don't worry so much, very often children have an IEP one year and get on track and don't have one in the next year or two.  An IEP does not mean that your child isn't bright its just they need a different approach to make sure they learn important material.

Answer 11

I'm going to sound completely weird, but everytime the letter for the IEP came I will be like "What did you do now?"  and then when I open it I say "Oh, is just the IEP again, you didn't do nothing wrong"...she never asked what the IEP was, so there was no need to explained.  The last IEP I wasn't able to go, they send the letter home to let me know what decision they took...to my surprise, they say she no longer needs speech teraphy, she has surpass the other kids (regular school) in her classroom on English Language Arts!

I don't think you need to explain it unless he asks you...in which case you will say "I have to meet with your teachers to see what is the next step on your education".  No need to mention that he is behind, or incapable in any way.

Answer 12

how old is he? unless he is in like 5th grade he isnt gonna understand