My son is in Forster care and they want to put him up for Adoption is there anything i can do?

Question

my son has bin in froster care since he was 2and a hafe

the c,a,s poeple took him away cause they thought i didnt know how to take care of him right . which they find out i did. for for some reason they are maken it very hard for me to get him back into my care i have done everything they have asked of me to do. which is alot of stuff just to prove i am good for him. since he has bin with the same family for over 2 years now. they think its ok to put him up for Adoption. cause they made him crown ward. and now i am lost cause i dont feel that he should have to go with out me in his live since i have bin there since the day he was bron i have talked to alot of lawyers about it but none want to help me so now i have to think about what is best and i think its with me but now i dont know cause they want to take it to trail to see what is goin to happen do i have to sing those papers or can they do it with out me singin them? any one help?

Answer 1

Let me help you sort this out.  The state, when they removed your son from you, had you sign a contract, stating all the things necessary for you to do before they would return him to you.  This is likely to be:  Stable  home, stable income, no drugs/alcohol,  counseling, regular visitation.  And they put all of this in a time frame - usually one year, depending on the circumstances.  Take a look at the contract.  you have a right to see it.  

Have you done what they asked in the time fame you agreed to???

If so -- ask to meet/speak with their agency attorney.   You have this right, if you genuinely feel that you have complied with ALL the requirements.  

Then, take a good long honest look at the last two years. If you have met all the requirements, and those around you agree (family, counselor, sponsor, etc.) then write a letter to the judge.

But, if after you have evaluated yourself, you know you have not complied with all of the requirements, then emotionally make the decision that is in his best interest and let him go, knowing you did the best you could.  And don't repeat your same mistakes again.  Let him inspire you to improve you life for yourself!

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

My guess is that you don't have enough money to hire an attorney, (they will do anything for money).  The problem is that you are either very young and/or do not have an education and a good income.  

Your son must first be legally taken away from you, this requires court hearings, at these hearings you need to convince the judge that you are a  fit parent that can provide care and love to this boy.  Where is the father of your son?  Also the grand parents would have a priority in adopting this boy; where are they?

Answer 3

I find it very difficult to believe that he has been taken from you and now put up for adoption when you're a completely fit parent.  The last I had heard, our country's foster care statistics were through the roof and thousands of children a year were ageing out of care.

I'm very sorry, but it sounds dubious at best to me.  I also believe you have nearly 2 years to work towards getting your child back?  My sister in law used to be a foster mother, and she once told me that she never, ever saw a child in foster care that shouldn't have been there.

The only advice I can give you, as a mother, is to make sure that you consider your capabilities very very carefully before having any more children.  It's a very sad situation for you, but it sounds like your son will now get the correct care and parenting that he needs.  I wish you well and God Bless.

Answer 4

In America your son cannot be placed available for adoption unless something called PRT has happened. This is Parental Rights Terminated. This can be done voluntarily OR the state can cause it to occur. The only way the state can deem it necessary is if ALL attempts at reintegration, including YOU doing what or at least attempting to do what you have been asked to do . If PRT does happen then the next place would be for a relative if deemed safe can care for the child. If your relatives are not deemed suitable to place the child with and PRT has occurred then your child will be made available for adoption.ALL of this though takes many court trials and must be accompanied by HEAVY facts pertaining to your inadequacy as a parent and the safety, health, and well- being of the child. It is not easy for a state to simply terminate your parental rights but once it happens it is permanent. AND I don't know how old your child is now, but if he has been in foster care since the age of two and a half you haven't always been with him.  As a good parent you might consider letting go for adoption, especially if he has been in foster care longer than he has been alive.

Answer 5

they cannot do it with out your permition . one time i was a foster mother of 5 of them no they cannot do it...only if you want to give up your child..its steel your child

Answer 6

Hoestly, as a foster parent (I know in your eyes I'm the enemy) I have seen over and over again that a child is not removed from their parents unless it is 110% needed.  There are so many children in foster care at this moment they DSS or CPS have soo many cases on their hands they do not have time to go around and remove children for the fun of it.  

However, if you are in America, you are entitled to a state provided lawyer and you can fight it.  A child cannot be adopted unless the parental rights are terminated.  This can either be done with the parents doing it voluntarily or they can have it done through a court hearing.  

But as another poster already mentioned, he has been with this family for longer than he has been alive, taking him away may cause alot of emotional stress that really isn't needed at this point.

Answer 7

Sorry to say it but they can do it without you signing anything if he has already been made a ward of the state until he is 18. I know they are difficult, aren't they, I used to work as a paralegal and we had these sort of cases all the time. It then happened to a friend of mine.

I hate them, once they get their hands on your kids they make it so d**n difficult. Why did they take him to start with? Are you in Australia or somewhere else? Contact me if you have any other details.( No judgments made, I've had issues myself - big ones  - they tried to get involved in my life for a while too. )

If he is not already in care until the age of 18, you may have some hope. Let me know. Good Luck -xx-

Answer 8

They had to have a very good reason to take him away so if you truly believe the best thing for your son is to have him with you you need to prove it.

Also you should realise that if no lawyers will help there is a reason, maybe yoyu should wait a few months and then try again

Answer 9

Go to www.fightcps.com

Go now...

Answer 10

Where are you? It all depends on what the laws are where you are living.  When you say he's a 'crown ward' that makes me think you're not in the US...  where are you?

Answer 11

If it goes to trial the judege will decide if you are fit or not  you need to show that you did everything and that you did it when they told you this will help your case.  The judge may still decide that the child is better off where they are and even if you don't sign anything they can take your child.

Answer 12

They can and will so brace yourself dear. For whatever reason you are deemed unfit. Maybe you used drugs, are bipolar, prostituted or whatever. Be thankful that he is going to have a much better life than you could ever provide him. Work on yourself. Become the best you can be. Don't get pregnant again because they will most likely take that one away too unless there is significant change (in you). Unless you are capable of fully transforming yourself you will most likely not be allowed to keep children in this lifetime. If you don't plan to make important changes then get your tubes tied and or get on the shot. Don't forget about protection from disease also. There are some pretty nasty ones out there that you can't get rid of so watch your sexual activity with utmost caution. My heart aches a little for you but is much more relieved for your baby. He'll be starting kindergarten soon and will be in a much better position to succeed in a quiet, yet stimulating, educationally enriching and positive self-esteem building home that has two parents with a wealth of resources to shower upon your child. He's lucky you know. Stipulate that he can look you up when he is 18 if he so chooses. Take care of yourself now. Thank GOD your son is in exceptional hands!

Answer 13

He has been with his foster parents since he was little-  leave him where he is.  Do what is best for him and let those people adopt him, and raise him.  It is selfless and that is what a mother does-  always do what is best for the child, even when it hurts your feelings.   I am not talking out of my a-- here.  Two of my friends have been adopted and, as adults, they are so thankful for having the life that they had with their adoptive parents.  Give your kid a chance at a good life!

Answer 14

I can't even begin to know how you feel but I am a foster parent and I see from the other side. Alot  of times the bio mom claims to have accomplished all or most of what was asked but in reality they haven't. Or perhaps getting some of the things done but not changing her lifestyle. In the USA a bio parent has 15 months to be well on her way to getting stuff done or they have the option of stating termination of parental rights and adoption...with or without your permission. Some of the things might be parenting classes, drug or alcohol classes, mental health issues or just getting a job, and apartment, furniture, setting up reliable sitters. And very importantly, keeping all visitation and social service appointments.

Answer 15

i really hate that this had to happen to your son but please consider that if he is in a better place maybe you should not interfere but if you are all the mother you can be do whatever to get him back. God bless the both of you.

Answer 16

Well the courts can terminate your rights if they feel you are unfit.  However if you have done what the courts have asked you to do I don’t know why they would do this.  Why was he taken from you in the first place? Where is the boy's father? You had  to have done something or someone reported you as an unfit parent.  Perhaps if he is adopted his family will allow you to remain in some contact.

Answer 17

I will give you the benefit of the doubt because I know that some social service agencies are as greedy as lawyers and adoption agencies.  Whether people want to believe it or not, some counties will take children without just cause and with-hold them even when no wrong was found on the part of the parent.  The social workers make good money adopting out children from foster care.  If you are young and poor, you're gonna lose your child, honey.  They'll string you along until you throw in the towel  or run out of any extra money to fight.  If you can prove that you have jumped through every hoop and passed, take it to the media.  If you bring it to light how they are operating, this may help you get your child back.