My son is new to the school and is getting picked on a little. How do explain to him that kids can be cruel.?

Question

My son is new to the school and is getting picked on a little. How do explain to him that kids can be cruel.?

Answer 1

how old is he?

Answer 2

Have a party at the pizza parlor and invite 5 or 6 kids.

Sometimes it helps to have them interact away from school.  The kids find out you are a kewl mom and you got a kewl kid.

They report that information when they get back to school.

Nobody wants to pick on the guy who's mom might take them for pizza.

Answer 3

Children can be cruel so your son has to understand why other children do this.

It is a control thing.  Children hurt the feelings of other kids to see them get upset.  This, in effect, means the bully is controlling the feelings and actions of the person they are bullying.

Tell your son that if he totally ignores the bully and shows no emotion when he gets picked on, they will eventually go away.

Answer 4

maybe you should tell him if those kids pick on him kick them rite in the nuts!!!!or beat them up thats what i would do so he could be stronger and not be scared of them

Answer 5

Explain to him what you have explained to us.  Touch base with the teacher also so that she can make sure that the teasing doesn't turn in to bullying.

If there is a silver lining here, it's that when kids overcome anxiety about any situation, it gives them confidence to tackle the next tough situation.  It is so heartbreaking to watch our kids navigate these rough waters.  We're used to being able to fix things, and when we can't, well, it's incredibly hard.

Explain to your son why kids tease and how if he ignores them it's no fun, and they'll eventually stop.  I have even done role playing with my kids, where I play the teaser and they play themselves.  It gives them a chance to practice their reactions.  Please emphasize to your son that you know he is strong and that he can get through this, and that his strength is such a good thing.

And one last thing -- explain that every time someone does something to him that he doesn't like, he can add this to the list in his head of what not to do to other people.  And this will make him a better, stronger friend to others.

Hang in there!

Answer 6

oh wow. Well just tell him that some people could be really mean and stuck up sometimes just because of problems about themselves or at home or school or the world. Tell him  to try to ignore it and tell him its really bad and he shouldn't do it to other people as well.

Good luck

Answer 7

just say what you said here...my son used to be picked on too, but he is able to stand up for himself so it stopped.

Answer 8

well tell your son that ignore those kids and they don't know what their doing......and don't copy them.

plus he should go straight to the teacher and have the teacher handle it......

Answer 9

When my kids encounter mean people in their lives, we talk to them about how it's kind of sad for those kids, that no one ever taught them how to be nice and how to be a good friend.

Answer 10

Explain to him that the reason why people are bullying him is because someone hurt the bully's feelings, so he is mad and thinks that the only way of rfeeling better is to pick on someone else. Tell your son that the bully is only picking on him because he is jealous of him. If it starts to get serious, talk to his teacher about it. Good luck!

Answer 11

Don't teach your son to sit back and take it. If you really think he's being bullied, get the teacher and principal involved.