My son is nine yrs old both his father passed 3 yrs ago almst expelled from school wont listen to any adult?

Question

I am at a loss and don't know how to deal with this situation i also have three other sons ages 8,4,and 1. both fathers to my for children have passed away and i am struggling my two eldest boys and myself are in counceling i don't know what more to do.

Answer 1

Wel give your elder sons a talk

sit them down in a reletively quiet place and tell them nothing is their fault and to sit it out bacause gid loved both their fathers too and he wanted them his own

as for counceling ou may feel its not working but after awhile it lifts a big weight of your shoulders

(i used to take counceling)

well i hope i jelped

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   Sincerely,

Katy

Answer 2

Thats all you can do.  Keep up with the councling try to talk to the boys and make sure that they understand you will listen and it is ok to talk about things.  It will take a long time for them to fully recover and they may always have some depression issues because of it.

Answer 3

I agree with ver jin...you are not going to be ablr to take this all on yourself...Just take care of you, you will be a stronger person for your kids....so cliche...If I could make another suggestion and look at www.klove.com...ask these people for extra help...

Answer 4

The Big Brother/Big Sister mentor program is a great way to get the extra help you need. It can give the boys a great male influence and they can be very helpful to you too! Good luck and keep up the counseling.

Answer 5

Get out and play with them rediscover your kids

Answer 6

time for you to focus on the kid.  get him some counseling, take parenting classes, get grief counseling for yourself, and start loving him again.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your losses - sounds like you are doing the right thing by the kids already - have you looked in to support groups in your area for families who have lost love ones as a way to network with others who have gone throught similar situations as you have.

Answer 8

what did you do kill them?

There going through a hard time right now, they all lost their father(s). Give them a break thats why there so out of control.

Answer 9

The 9 year old may have had the strongest bond with his Dad.  He may need more time to heal.   What he clearly needs is that extra bit of love and time together.  

Don't forget to tell him how much you love him.  Hug him as often as possible.

I'm sorry for your loss.