My son is sooo lazy!?

Question

my 6 yr. old son is so unbelievably lazy, we cant get him to care about anything. he wont wipe his butt properly, he doesnt even know how to tie a knot- because he doesnt really care to learn , forget about tying his shoes (i think we're AT LEAST 2 years away from that) he cant fold a towel- or anything square, if you say "did you brush your teeth really well?" he'll say, "not really well" so its like well, why not?? when he dries off from his shower, theres always p**p on the towel.. and so on.

its so frusterating! its actually kinda scary, im afraid he'll end up homeless one day! im sure, to a degree, this is normal-but we've tried everything to motivate this kid, but we cant get him to take ANY pride in himself, or his hygene, or learning new skills or accomplishments- once he does do something he tried for, he's proud of himself- i dont know what on earth to do with him, any experience would be great

Answer 1

My son was that way, too. Today he's a clean, hard working, home owning, 25 year old father of 2, with a good job and a good wife. I worried and fretted about him for nothing. Just keep telling him what he should be doing and lead by example. Hopefully it will all make sense to him one day.........

Answer 2

First take a deep breath. Second please remember he is 6 years old. Around our house we have a saying, people aren't always born Geniuses, they have to work at it.

Children learn from those around them.

Instead of focusing on the things that he is doing wrong why not just praise him for the things he is doing right. Stop placing so much effort into the bad and maybe then you can both see the good things. Then take the time to practice the things you think he should work on. if he doesn't wipe his butt properly, go into the bathroom and show him, as many times as need be. If he doesn't brush his teeth correctly, do it with him. Etc...etc..

As a parent it comes down to how much you are willing to do to make sure he learns these things and follows through. Otherwise why not just enjoy him. He will only be young once. Which would you rather remember, him smiling because he was getting praise or him stomping around yelling he hates you?

Answer 3

I I'm 27 years old and my mom had a baby boy when I was 18,anyways she has the same problem with him and he is 9 in a half years old now and he still can't tie his own shoe's the only thing I can tell you is to sign him up for some kind of sport's like t ball or something,don't ask him if he wants to just sign him up and tell him to go to a couple of practices and if he really dosen't like it he dosen't have to do it,but if he does like it and you pay for everything then he has to finish it.

Answer 4

Thats gotta be tough. See Im not sure I really agree with alot of what these people are saying. He is only 6 but...at 6 they should know how to wipe their butt or brush their teeth (get a timer for the teethbrushing) and tie their shoes. So, I would sit him down and make a list of all the things for him to work on and if at the end of each week no improvement is shown take something away. He will eventually get the point and that should motivate him to do something.

Answer 5

Now, here is a wild guess: Your parenting skill reflects your screen name "THUMBS DOWN 2 YOU TOO"!