My son is two years old and throws the biggest fight when going to his dads can i get my son to not go there

Question

my sons father doesn't pay child support and hardly takes our son when he is supposed to what can i do so my son is not terrified to go to his dads house

please help

concerned mom

Answer 1

"Little pictures, have Big Ears"

I say that to say, maybe you have said something to the effect that his dad is not one of your favorite people and he has picked up on it.

Kids hear and see more than they are ever given credit for.

The first thing out of your mouth after the question was that he does not pay child support, your son heard this and does not want to go with this man who has angered or displeaded you.

In a calm and peaceful place, tell your son that Daddy loves him, and ask him how he feels about Daddy.  I bet you get an earful.

When ever my grandson tells me "My Daddy bought me these" I respond with "What a nice Daddy you have, he really loves you".

Never mind that I would like to rip the s****.amp;#039;s head off.  

I do it for the child, he should have a relationship with his father that is pure and simple.  

I know you are angry and frustrated with the BUM and rightfully so, but, never let your son think that he has to have these feelings toward his Dad also.  

Have a talk with your ex and the both of you

should agree to be peace-a-ble in the presence of the

"Little Picture".

If he is not abusive,  or irresponsible where your son's welfare is concerned, then work it out.  

Your son needs his father, all boys do.

You can't teach him how to be a man, but he does need the safety of Momma's arms.

Peace

Answer 2

If he's 2 and this happens everytime, there may be some reason he may not want to go,  a 2 yr old boy ususlly loves to spend son/daddy time..abuse(physical or sexual), being mistreated by father or other people, you'd have to check w/your attorney or case worker. And he doesn't pay child support also... there could be concern for something wrong here. Why else would a 2  year old not want to go over everytime. My understanding from law enforcement is that if you believe your son is being harmed or in danger  that you do not have to let him go or let him take him, but check to be sure..

Answer 3

he sounds like he's throwing a tantrum.  let him know that daddy misses him and would like to spend time with him.

Answer 4

you could seek some professional help for the child  

Answer 5

Talk to your son's father and help him to see that regular visitation is important because of his son's age. He needs to make his son a priority in his life and have regular visitation. How is your son after the visits; is there any way to find our how your son adjusts once he is with his father? Your son could be 'putting on a show" for you when he has to leave you. However if he is miserable the whole time he is with his father that is something different. Short of a change in the court order, by law if it is court ordered visitation, you need to send him. If you think your son might be neglected or abused while he is with his father you might talk to CPS unless you the money to hire a child psychologist and a good lawyer. I think talking to your  son's father is the first choice  though.

Answer 6

Don't send him there if he doesn't want to go.

I f the father was intersted he could have helped you out of this situation but given the fact he is not intersted, you should not send your child with him.

Answer 7

If you have no valid concerns for his safety (like he is being abused or not properly taken care of) the only thing you can really dois try to make himfeel more comfortable about going there. Or even try to talk to his father about doing things together once or twice so your son can see him as safe. The father has rights to see him and unfortunatly all too often the non primary parent is an unstable one and you get into situations like this. If the courts arealready involved you may be able to plead your case to the judge depending on how far you want take this and how badly your son is hurting. Speaking to your family doctor or even a health nurse may be able to help you more.  

Answer 8

i think that is all the more reason to why you need to send him to his father's

your son should know who his father is

maybe it will get his father to pay child support and take more responsibility when he sees his son throwing a tantrum  

Answer 9

I am going through the same thing right now. I have a 2 & 4 year old they dont like going to their dads either because they dont like his gf

he doesn't pay childsupport much either so if they dont want to go i dont make them.

Answer 10

Maybe you should evaluate more clearly why is it that your son doesn't wanna go to his dad's so bad.  Is something going on over there that you don't know about?!?  Unless it's court ordered, you can always say that he can't see his son until he proves to you that he's a responsible father.  If it is court ordered, then you can call child protective services and have them investigate further.  A child is supposed to trust both their parents...and if they don't... something is definitely wrong.

Answer 11

im 13 i have lil sis at 2 my dad dont pay nothin but you should let your son see your dad otherwise he will feel insecure