My son just turned 18 and is looking at moving out. How does a single parent deal with the Empty Nest Syndrom?

Question

I have been a single father so the past 10 years and now I am facing having an empty nest. I do understand many people face this same issue. The lucky ones have a spouse to help them deal with it. My particular nest is going to be completly empty. I have thought about getting a dog and I am looking for any better ideas.

Answer 1

The easy answer would be to go blow some time and money on yourself.  But that doesn't really address the basic problem.  You've spent 18 years caring for someone in one capacity or another.  I would highly suggest finding an outlet for that need to be a care-giver.  OK, so it sounds very "Dear Abby-ish" but there are SOOOOO many organizations in need of good volunteers to assist in the care of our fellow human beings.  Some suggestions: long term care centres, hospitals, child services, even just your local recreational and sports groups.  If you find a place that fulfils your needs and is fun besides, you'll not only be less impacted by ENS but you may find you've made new friends along the way.

I hope it all works out for you.  Good luck!

Answer 2

One word - PRAYER.

God Bless.

Answer 3

Go to Tahiti and find some babe to drink Mai Tais with.

Answer 4

Getting a pet sounds like a great start and just generally keep yourself busy. Find a new hobby or learn about something that's always intrigued you. Write your son letters in addition to calling (you'll both get more out of it).

Answer 5

Yes,you will miss him very much.But it has to happend sooner or later.

You can start doing things like get to know yourself again and do some hobbies and go out and meet a WOMEN or if your g*y meet a GUY.I mean...I have a 4yr old..AND she is driving me NUTS..ur lucky..

ok..I mean that in good way.

Answer 6

Definately get a dog only if you like pets. Right now you are footloose and fancy free. (Until the kids come back after losing a job or other bad luck.)

Do you want to meet people? Are you wanting a spouse? You have to let it be known and find a hobby that you can share with others. Open doors and see the new horizon for you.

Answer 7

YOU`LL HAVE A CHANGE IN HEART AFTER HE`S GONE YOU FEEL BAD NOW BUT WHEN HE LEAVES YOU`LL BE FINE THINK ABOUT THIS YOUR FINALLY FREE AND ALONE YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT

Answer 8

get some hooker on 4th street to give u a handjob old man

Answer 9

I think a pet would be great- but sit on that idea for a while.  You need to keep yourself busy.  Take up a sport you like- preferably one that is more social.  Take a class in something you're intereseted in  Look for some support groups- if that's the kind of thing you would be into.  It really depends on what you're into- but you need to find a new focus in your life.  Preferably more than one!

Answer 10

It is hard facing the new dynamics of your life after spending a every moment living, loving and supporting your kids.  It is just way too easy for people to say go party, get out and live- but if you are a shy person - that would be difficult.

An animal is a great companion, but only if you like them, I would suggest joining a gym,or a sport such as volleyball.  It is a good way to use your time, and meet new people,opening you to new experiences.

If you are feeling the "loss" - your child will to, and sometimes, they feel guilty leaving the nest.  Being active, is a good way to show your child they don't have to worry about you, it is a two- way street , besides, you may find a sport that your child if he is close, will want to make a weekly date with you to play.

Be open to coffee, or dinner dates.

I wish you the best with this.