My son just turned thirteen and thinks that he is boss i am a single mom and his father is not around?

Question

He is so thinking that he runs the house and runs me he is too controlling i need answers

Answer 1

You have got to get him under control before it gets even worse.  Take away his cell phone or computer, and if he doesn't have either,  ground him.

You tell him who the boss is, he does not tell you.  Let him know that you love him but that he will obey you.  You are the mother, ahead of the house and responsible for him.

If this does not work, talk to his doctor and have him reccomend what ever type of doctor he needs to see to help him not be so controlling.

Blessings    

Answer 2

My interputter's son is just like that. She just tell him that he dont need to run the house, its all her fault.

Answer 3

well when i was 14 i figured out that my mom has never brought home a good man and i was the only man who has been there and will be there so i decided i was the man i made my moms boyfriends sit in the backseat when i road in the car and i dont think you can do anything about it untill hes 18

Answer 4

Your the mom and hes only 13 you need to set some boundries and tell hi myour boss not him. If he keeps acting like that take away valuable things away from him Ex. Phone computer, mp3, etc  

Answer 5

Well if he thinks he is running your home, let him. Just pass on the responsibilities, that come with that. Let him sit down and work out a budget, let him shop for the food, let him clean up, make dinner, etc.

All the things you do, everyday.

I wonder how long he will want your job, at home?

And at 13, he's feeling his oats, having gone through puberty.

He thinks he's the man of the house.

And lets face it, when you argue with him, you lose, as you lower yourself to his level, and give him control.

Just say, "If you want it that way, you do it,  I'm not your servant, unless you care to pay me wages."

Answer 6

Ok, first ya gotta wonder, why is it that he thinks he has rights to control you and run the house? Have you let him think that he is the "man of the house" as his father isn't around? Have you had any man around that weren't always up to par that he would think he needs to step up and control you?

This doesn't have to be a battle between you and your son over who has power and who doesn't. You need to sit him down and explain that YOU are the adult. YOU are the one who pays the bills, clothes, feeds, and keeps a roof over his head. Explain that his job is to be a child, enjoy his life, hang out with his friends, play sports.. that he doesn't have to worry about being the man anytime soon. That you need him to just be himself, and be responsible when it comes to doing his chores ie; cleaning his room, taking out the trash.

Also, I wonder does he have any male role models around that could help in teaching him his boundaries? If not, may I suggest looking into getting him a Big Brother?

They are amazing people, the Big Brothers and Sisters of America. They'll give you the little extra hand you need when it comes to raising a child alone. They also help in giving your child an outside party they can talk to, when they just can't talk to mom.

Answer 7

You should talk to him and tell him that he is living under your roof and your rules and that he should respect you. By the way you should talk to his father about his behavior!!!

Answer 8

Sounds like the tail is wagging the dog. Remember you teach people how to treat you. Demand more of yourself and him both. Those that try hard to control only do so because they feel very much out of control. Talk with him and try to understand his issues and help him learn to articulate his feelings and thoughts. Most importantly don't forget you are the adult and you control the environment. Be the adult.

With or without a partner you are the parent. Don't make excuses for yourself or parent out of guilt. Gain control of your life and provide him the guidance he needs to gain control of his. You can do it.

Answer 9

Tell him when he gets a job and pays all your bills and fills your fridge with groceries, then you will consider him the boss. But until then you tell him what to do and he needs to go sit down and be quiet.  

Answer 10

Your son is coming to an age where he needs to know his place in the family unit...you're  the mother ..he is the child...you are the boss...if you don't deal with this now you will live to regret it,,you need to set some boundries... remember he is still a child...if he has no father around, then you need to work twice a hard to bring him up... I have reared a family so believe me...you need to nip this in the bud.

Answer 11

Ground him ,spank him or whatever that shows him your the boss bc if you don't he will just keep on getting worse through his teenage years:)