My son keeps getting into trouble, what can I do to prevent this?

Question

My son is 7 years old, he swears, fights with other kids and can't control his anger. Has had 3 detentions in the last 2 years, I consider myself to be a good mum, I never swear around my boy and I have no voilence around him, what can be causing him to behave in this way? However his older brother is totally opposite, he has more of a soft nature. My 7 yr old can be a little darling too! But when he is angry he just gets really angry, there's no calming him down. I wish there was something I can do other than councelling, I've tried everything..

Answer 1

I wouldn't put him on any meds untill you have checked them out thoroughly online.

There was just a write up a week ago that I was reading but it was of no interest to me.

Answer 2

Is he being teased? This is common for children being teased. He may need to see a counselor even though you don't want to go that way. Also it could be the sign that he is frustrated at school and having trouble. They are signs that something is going on there. You might even talk to his doctor about it. With my daughter it was the kids knew what to say to get her rilled then when she hit they went to the teacher and since she hit not them she got in trouble not them and it made her angrier.

Answer 3

Like the second person said, it may be what he watches. Try to moniter it. For a child in first grade I wouldn't really be letting them watch anything other than Nick or Disney or Cartoon Network. But it doesn't all come from the TV, maybe some of his friends' parents swear infront of the kids and he picked it up from there.

Talk with him. Let him know you love him, but he has to control his anger. Start taking things away or even just take out everything from his room except for his bed. Let him know he can get his stuff back when he behaves well.

Good luck!

Answer 4

When i was in kindergarden i beat up my teacher and was always getting suspend i had adhd or add i cant remember. my mom realised that wasn't a punishment so every time i got in trouble I had to sit in the office. He might need to get on medication or see a psychiatrist.

Answer 5

Possible ADHD because kids with this don't think before they act because they are so impulsive.

If he gets mad he will just punch the kid before he even thinks about what he is doing because kids with ADHD have brains that work fast.

Answer 6

Obviously, something is bother your little one to the point of him lashing out.  It is so important to find out the problem, because if you don't, you are only "treating" the symptoms and not the actual problem.  He is probably too young to know how to express himself, he sounds really frustrated.

His issues could range from something minor (like jealousy of his brother, school) to something major (pedophilic abuse, PDD, Autism, ADHD).  I'm not suggesting these are what his problems are, these are just examples.

If possible, I would take extra time with him and go out and do activities that he likes to do and unassumingly "let" him talk about things or ask him a few "innocent questions" to get him to express himself.  This may also work with an adult he and YOU can trust, he may innocently just start talking about what is going on with him, without him even knowing he is actually giving out helpful information.

If after a few rounds of trying to get to the bottom of things, I would suggest taking him to see a good pediatric behaviorist that is experienced with childhood issues.  They are well practiced at what they do and can also help you help your son.  His issues may be more than you can handle on your own.  Who knows.

I wish you luck, I know it is so hard for a parent to watch their child suffer.

PS I so do Not agree with "Toby" about taking away everything in his room but his bed... that negative move would scar him for life.  He's only 7 for crying out loud!

Answer 7

Was he ever disciplined as a small child?  Sounds like when he threw tantrums he got what he wanted.  That usually leads to the type of behavior you're describing.

Answer 8

Send him away to military school like my parents did for me.

Answer 9

first of all. what shows does he watch?

do they have violence or swearing in them?

try telling him that swearing is not acceptable and niether is violence.

maybe there's just been a bad influence in his life.