My son lied to his friends and said he smoked pot to sound cool. He is 12 years old. Is this normal?

Question

My son lied to his friends and said he smoked pot to sound cool. He is 12 years old. Is this normal?

Answer 1

definitely,

when kids see a group of people they think are cool, they will do whatever it takes to fit in...but as a parent, you need to talk to them and help them make the right choices, being a follower is not as great as being a leader...but a message like that is hard to hear when your that age.

Answer 2

Very normal. Its just a phase that they go through in order to prove their point to sound like you said, " Cool". Make sure that positive remodels stay in his life, including you, that Will be an example to him and show that, its not about being cool but its about being yourself. Make sure he doesn't get carried away though. Then there will be a problem

Answer 3

Yes.

By the time I was 12 I had claimed to have done lots of things that I still have never done.

You are probably alarmed because you think this may indicate him wanting to smoke pot.  It doesn't.  He might, but just because he told his friends he had b/c he wanted to seem cool doesn't mean anything.

Answer 4

It is pretty normal. You need to start telling your boy that he is a great kid, without needing to say stuff like that. try and get him to understand that true value is on the inside, and that he is a great kid because "he is".

Sounds like he is lacking some confidence in his own abilities and feels the need to blurt silly things out (I have a son like this also). Just keep on telling him that nothing he can ever say or do is going to change the fact that he is a great kid. Tell him he doesn't need to say or do anything to change that. And pray that it sinks in.

Answer 5

yea only he probably wasnt lying

Answer 6

Not only is that normal, but he will do the same thing about girls.  Try and teach him that he already is cool.  And if people find out that he isn't telling the truth they won't be his friend.  Let him know that if someone is his friend, they will be his friend no matter what and if they don't want to be his friend over something stupid, they never were his friend to begin with.

Answer 7

I would say that is normal, but I would question him on whether or not he really did.  There are lots of kids who may be smoking pot at that age.  Ridiculous but true!

Answer 8

its normal but not cool in my book. be careful in case he really gets the others to smoke pot! make sure your son doesn't smoke pot either.

Answer 9

I may be the only one who thinks this but it is time for you to step in and find your son different friends. If his friends think he is cool because he says he smoked pot then they are all going to experiment with it soon and your son needs a new environment of people to hang out with, one who doesn't think it is cool to do any type of drug. I don't believe it should be normal for children to think illegal, harmful, things are cool in any way and I would teach my child that it is much cooler to be able to brag about not being bad in these days.

Answer 10

it's very normal for a middle schooler... just teach him that if these people are really his friends he will not need to lie to impress them.

Answer 11

Yeah it's normal...he is trying to remain in his circle of peers, he doesn't want to be teased for not trying pot.  When he gets older and starts dating he will lie about having s*x with a girl...sadly for the girl it could harm her reputation while he gets an ego boost...time for "the talk" and to remind him that while making himself look good to his buddies he could be hurting someone else.

Answer 12

Completely normal.

Don't worry about it unless you find him actually doing drugs.

Answer 13

yeah

you should still be consurned because he might have just made it up to you tht he was just sayng that

just watch out for him

Answer 14

yes hes at that age where hes trying to find out who he is and he probably just wants to be one of dem kewl kids. i think you should worry more if he does smoke pot or wants to start