My son...?

Question

well, my sister who is 17 has had many boyfriends, but she just recently got kind of serious with this one guy. when i was at their house the other day i overheard her and her mom(my stepmom) talking. my mom was just warning her and said" you better watch what you do, or you'll end up with a little mistake like ethan" ethan is my two year old who i had when i was 16. when i heard this, it really hurt my feelings. i understand that me getting pregnant wasnt a good idea and maybe THAT was a mistake, but calling my son, her "grandson" a mistake?! dont you think thats a little harsh? i dont know, maybe im just being sensitive, or maybe its those pregnancy harmones, but i was really offended by this!

Answer 1

I don't think that was a very nice thing to say.

I am sure she was only trying to deter your sister from having a baby young... as let's face, it's not the best way of doing it, but I am sure if you asked her she would say that she loved your son (BTW love the name Ethan).

I think you should speak to her and tell her you overheard and ask her what she meant. If it is as bad as it sounds, then you need to tell her how that makes you feel.

Answer 2

Well she is obviously not too happy about the fact you got knocked up at 16, but  the child was not the mistake. She may have misworded or just not meant what she said. She probably loves Ethan but doesn't want your sister to make the same mistake as you did. If she's known as a ***** she might not be the best influence on your children.

Answer 3

ok, you were NOT overreacting on this.  Your stepmother is WRONG in calling your son a mistake.  Yes, getting pregnant, and what led up to it, were mistakes.  However, your son is not a mistake, and never, for a second, believe that.  It's up to you on whether you confront her on this.  You may not want to, because it could cause more hardship for you and ethan - especially if you are living under her roof.  

Good luck - and give that baby a kiss for me

Answer 4

she loves her grandson. i think it came out wrong. you know what she meant. dont let it bother u.

Answer 5

no way. you're not being "sensitive"

i'd confront her about this. she has no right to be saying anything like that. Ethan is not a mistake. all you did was make the mistake of getting pregnant so soon... but as far as i can see, he looks like a very healthy and beautiful child. he is in no way a mistake. i understand it might be a good scare tatic for your sister, but i think your sister probably already has seen what you had to go through... i'm sure she's a smart girl and will think twice no?

Answer 6

I'd be hurt and mad. I, too, had a baby at 16 and while I certainly didn't plan him, I don't consider him a mistake and wouldn't tolerate anyone else making that reference, either. If I were you, I'd talk to her about this. Maybe the wording came out wrong and that's not what she meant. Maybe it was. You really need to talk to her.

Answer 7

that was a little harsh calling him a mistake, i understand if shes upset with you about the situation, but calling him that is uncalled for