My son saw my daughter in her room masturbating and now he is asking questions. ?

Question

My son is 7 and my daughter is 14. So my first question is can I tell my daughter to stop doing that. And second what can i tell my son?

Answer 1

you can tell her to stop, and she can say she will, but whether she does stop or not is another story. id prefer my daughter masturbating than having unprotected s*x.

as for your son, just say there are some personal things girls do, and when he is older, he will have personal boyish things he will be doing.

Answer 2

Come on, don't tell her to stop!  She was doing a private activity in private - would you rather her start having s*x instead?  You don't need to sanction it, but please respect her right to her own body.  70% of females m********e at some time, and close to 100% of males do the same thing.  Women who m********e know their bodies better then others, know how to get pleasure and they often are more sexually well then those that do not.

As for your 7 year old, you don't need to tell him anything thing more then "It's a private thing for older people.".  Next time he is to knock first and stay out of rooms that he is not invited into - he also needs to apologize to his sister for barging in on her.

Answer 3

Are you serious? Wow.. Ok well if it is, buy a lock for your daughter or something let her have her own privacy? and tell your son to mind his own bussiness? I dont know? lol

Answer 4

if you must say somethin to your daughter you should jus try to coyly explain that its best to lock your door or to do it when nobody is home, but i think you would much prefer that she masturbates as opposed to her doin the real thing and its perfectly natural for a young girl to wanna explore her body.

Answer 5

First answer is very very very good! id go with that

Answer 6

no, dont say anything to your daughter about it. it will cause awkwardness and make her very uncomfortable. And by telling her to stop doing that....Do you think she will really just stop? I think you just need to leave it alone and tell your son that you don't know what she was doing and just try to knock before he goes into his sisters room because everyone in the house is entitled to their privacy.

Answer 7

do not tell your daughter to stop. it will scar her, and from looking at your user name, you're her father so that would be absolutely traumatizing. tell you son. what is the point of shielding him from something he'll find out about eventually? it's pointless if you think about it to just not tell him. just explain to him it's something you keep to yourself- he's at the age where he would go and tell all his friends and that's when you get some lovely phone calls from parents.

Answer 8

You can tell her to stop but I can guarantee she won't. Remind her that she needs to make sure to close the door. Remind your son that his sister's room is HER room. He has no reason to be in there and that he can't go in unless he is invited or given permission by your daughter.

Answer 9

Its perfectly healthy for your daughter to m********e.  You may need to have a conversation about discretion though.  Its probably not the best idea to do it in the middle of the day when someone could potentially walk in on her.  She should also close her door and lock it if possible.  The safest time to m********e is in the shower.  People don't usually walk in on you when you're showering.

As for your son, just answer his questions simply.  Try to navigate his thoughts away from his sister though.  lol  If he asks what Suzy was doing, just explain to him that boys and girls touch themselves as they get older so that they can learn about their bodies.  See?  The answer is general, honest and doesn't speak specifically about his sister.

Above everything else, now may be a good time to remind everyone in the family that you should always knock on the door before entering a room.  lol