My son seems to listen to his dad more than me!too early!?

Question

my son turned 16 months today. i realised he eats better for his dad, really doesn't act like he does with me.

basically my husband and i work on different days so when i am at work my husband says that our son eats more oatmeal in the morning, eats apple sauce and doesn't cry much.

with me, my son is different, he is not a brat when i'm here. i just can't believe he is spoiled already!

last night he didn't want to be in his crib, hr cried so we couldn't sleep (cut pacifier cold turkey since last monday), he used to always sleep in his crib without crying. so anyway last night he stayed next to me for 10 minutes and whenever i tried to put him back in his crib he cried, but them my husband did and he went right to sleep!!!

Answer 1

unfortunately, I think spoiling happens too early. They already have the ability to know who they can get away with what. Maybe he knows you'll be softer on him and cuddle him whenever he cries. Babies are far more perceptive than we give them credit for. My baby is 19 months and already she is calling everything MINE and demands to be given the said item. I am now trying to ignore these tantrums but it's not easy. I suggest starting to work on it now before it gets too much worse, it happens all of a sudden, one day she was lovely, next day turned into a minor tantrum thrower! I can't believe she is so spoilt already!

Answer 2

he isnt spoilt in any way! babies and toddlers at some stage choose one parent over the other for certain things and it is completely normal! some babies go to their mums for cuddles but prefer to play with daddy etc

Answer 3

It sounds like he knows that your husband wont take any lip from him so he behaves better. If you are coddling him and giving into his desires, there is no need for him to do what you ask of him.

Answer 4

my wife and i have the same thing going on our 3.5 listens to me more when I ask her to do something and overall has less melt downs around me our 13 month will cry and carry on when she first comes to me like before bed but after a about minute she is usually out with my wife she'll continue toi be fussy sometimes. I guess they just realize that mom will give in and nurse for the little one and I think the 3 year old thinks things are more open to disscussion with mom where as with dad when I say something or ask that something be done than thats it. I have no idea why becuase its not like I disicpline them more than there mom or do anything really different. I've never spanked them or anything its just different.

Answer 5

I think that this is common.  I know that I take more from my kids than my husband does, and my kids are very aware of this.  They push me to do let them do things they would never even ask my husband to do.  I think that the fact that they are with me more often also contributes to the fact that they try to walk all over me.  I think that you can nip this in the bud if you try really really hard to be constitent.  Like if he doesn't eat his oatmeal/applesauce with you in the morning, just take it away and don't feed him anything until lunchtime.  Don't cave.  Observe your husband with him to see how he handles misbehavior.  Try to mimic that so not only are you consistent all of the time but that you and your husband have consistent rules/discipline between the two of you.  It is harder than it sounds, but it is definitely worth it.  Good luck

Answer 6

I think from your message. It is you,  who is upset & needs a

method of adjustnent. You both need some family counceling.

Beceause it is the "child" that is important one here. <}:-})