My son used to be outgoing, fun and full of friends, now he has only his GF, What can we do???

Question

His friends have tried to talk to him and tell him they miss hanging out. He even blew his family off for his bday...Could he be depressed. Since she came into the picture his thoughts are no respect, don't have to listen, who needs college and who cares about anything...Prior he was the perfect son with great grades and a bright future.

Answer 1

he's quite irrational. why dont YOU do something about it, change his attitude, restrict his activities, w/e you feel is okay

Answer 2

I highly doubt he's depressed, more leaning on the "in love" side.  He kind of sounds like my sister, she's all about her boyfriend and if things arent going right with that then she's disrespectful and has a nonchalant attitude about everything. I was the exact same way when I was in high school, and sadly I think it's a stage a lot of guys and girls go through and it's something they'll learn to realize on their own whether it's worth ignoring friendships and family.  I'm in college now and when I started dating my current boyfriend I was always with him (i still do) but I just had to learn how to balance my time right with the other people I care about.  You can try and talk to him just to let him be aware, but don't make it seem like such a hard issue 'cause he'll probably just think "you don't understand" or something of that nature.

I just now saw that you said she was needy and had a broken home etc...that's exactly how my ex boyfriend was that I was speaking about when I had the current situation, and I felt like oh I'm the only one he has so I would gladly be there for him but I eventually noticed I felt obligated to be there and I began to miss my friends and my parents would tell me I changed but I didnt listed, I finally realized it later though, hopefully he'll come around. he's young, he will

Answer 3

sounds like he's found someone to trust and confide in. I'm afraid he's found what he thinks is a soul mate!  Don't rag him about it and never be negative with anything that concerns his girlfriend cz that will definitely draw him closer to her.  I know, cz my own teen daughter is going thru that very thing!  She spends all her time with her new boyfriend of a couple months.  It will pass I'm sure but I've gotta be patient and show her that I'll always be there for her when she decides to get back to her old self.  Of course she is now 18 so she's a young adult and I have to allow her to learn from her mistakes.

Answer 4

Such changes in anyone with an new relationship can be signs of trouble.  The symptoms that you list offer insight into what may well be a very unhealthy relationship.  The time to intervene is now as these are signs of possible depression and substance use.  

Go get your boy back.

Answer 5

how old is he. Try talkin 2 him nicely and tell him that his gf could dump him any day but true bffs stay 2gether 4 ever

Answer 6

thats wat my friend does. it hurts. you need to have a serious talk with him about how you only have a childhood once and you should enjoy it and life is short. tell him how someday he'll look back and think why didn't i make the most of my time with my friends?