My son was diagonosed with a communication disorder when he was 3 and I need some advice.?

Question

I have a 10 yr old son that has been diagonised w/a communication disorder. Hes in 4th grade and has anxiety issues, and a hard time staying on task. He has a hard time focusing. He gives up very easliy if he doesnt understand something. I have to help him with is homework everynight, which isnt a problem, but he basically just looks at me for the answers and gives up. He is

a very emotional child. He is afraid of riding his bike so he hasnt

learned to ride it. He also gets fustrated easliy(he has a very hard time tying his shoes) He freaks out if you laugh at something he does, not at him though, but he doesnt understand and still doesnt

after explaining to him that no one is laughing at him. I love my

son VERY much and it hurts me to see him this way. All I want to

do is fix this for him and I dont know what to do. We have tried sports and its awful for him.Doctors and teachers have both

said this should help. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Wow... i know someone exactly like him, i never really saw it as "communication disorder" i suggest that you do things HE wants to do, not what the doctor suggests or what you force him to do. maybe he'll gain your trust and do what you want him to do. or if he tries to give up again, just tell him not to give up and offer him a reward if he doesn't.

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Answer 2

I have never heard of that diginosis, but my son have auttism and my other son had adhd and well have the same problems but we still work it out. I have to deal with all kind of things like you and my son is 10 years old and my other is 7.

Answer 3

Here is a book that might help.

Childhood Speech, Language, and Listening Problems: What Every Parent Should Know

Answer 4

It sounds like you are speaking about my son lol.  Just patience I guess, and don;t try and force him to do anything he doesn't want to do.  As far as my son is concerned, if hes not good at sports, so what I'll take him for long walks at the weekends.  Its not the end of the world if your son doesn't want to ride a bike.    Concentration, how about games he really enjoys, dare I say computer games?  There are a lot of education ones online which he may enjoy more.  He must have some kind of interests, try and build on them to increase concentration.   Perhaps deliberately making mistakes or funny things yourself infront of him that he will laugh it, and then laughing too may help him understand that its ok to make mistakes.    At the end of the day, your son is an extrovert, just like mine, and these things won;t matter as much when hes an adult.  I know it will make him vunerable to bullying, like mine, but all you can do is try and build his confidence up by constantly praising him.  Your son is a special young guy, just like mine, and I think we are truely blessed to have them.  You can never 'fix' him, but hey who wants to be described as 'normal' anyway lol

Answer 5

I am going through something right now with my kid giving up not even trying.....my sons problem is health related, well emotional too I guess.

That is my problem too is trying to fix everything for my kids, sometimes they need to fix things on there own....Labeled with something or not.....

Try backing off "helping" him with homework, make him come to you if he has a question or needs help. This makes him have to do something for the help instead of you being right there to do it.

Nothing wrong with emotional, if you don't baby him and the other kids see it, he will get teased for it and therefor not fit in with the other kids.

One of my boys is almost 13 and still has  problems with tying and buttoning his clothing. I make him ask, come to me for help (there for a long time he wore cowboy boots that did not take tying). His little friend has helped him repeatedly (only real friend he has) on tying his shoes. I have seen his shoes tied in knots and he is real proud of these knots he did all by himself, so be it, it will not hurt them being in knots. He wears button up shirts to big for him so he will not have to unbutton them, he slides them on and off, this is fine by me. If he needs help I am always right here.

He is in special classes that help with these kinds of things too, that is to dress to "fit in", I have reservations about this but whatever makes him happy. They also teach him to wash his clothing, hygiene, just day to day things and he is always so proud to show us what he has learned, even surprising us!!

None of my boys are into sports. They would rather be doing something that does not mean having all the people around them, though I have  asked and asked them if they want to do a sport. All of them are getting more and more into music.

What is it your kid is labeled with? You might be surprised at how many parents are out here that are going through some of the same stuff.

Wish you well and some kids just need creative raising more then "normal" kids.