My son won't lift the toilet seat when he goes to the bathroom..???

Question

Almost a year ago my 7 year old son had a situation where when he went to the bathroom the toilet seat came crashing down on him..(and something got in the way) Now I have a problem he won't lift it when he has to goes and sometimes he misses and gets it on the seat...and don't realize that he got it on the seat Which is becoming a problem with others who live in the house..I have tried talking to him and explaining it won't happen again...took things away from him...But he is still doing it...What can I do to get him to stop doing this???

Answer 1

Try having him sit down to pee until he is comfortable with the seat being up...

Answer 2

Maybe apply some type of Velcro stickers to the toilet seat, when he puts it up, it sticks long enough for him to do his business and not worry about it crashing down on him, then he can put it down when he's done. They might have some type of Velcro or double back tape type stuff that won't ruin your toilet, this may sound  a  little crazy but its a idea,lol...

Another option would be to put some wipes by the toilet and let him know he needs to clean his mess if he potty's on the seat..

Good luck!

Answer 3

I understand the frustration but if you got into a car crash you'd be quite a bit more cautious and nervous too, so give him a break.

With that said, why not give him alternatives such as peeing from the side of the toilet and holding up the lid at the same time. Possibly set something up so he can latch the seat up until he is done then he can unlatch it after. Or until he is more comfortable he can sit for awhile.

Basically, I would look for alternatives instead of punishing him because he is nervous, that just makes it worse.

Answer 4

make sure your son knows who's boss and tell him if he doesn't he'll have to clean every bathroom in the house

Answer 5

My son was peeing through the seat, it would hit the lid and go in the groove then when we girls sat down our back would get wet. So I made him clean the toilet every time he did this,he soon got better

Answer 6

OMG is this an epidemic!!!My seven year old boy won`t lift the seat either, and I`m the victim of his misses!!I`d like to know how to handle this..

Answer 7

Until further notice, take him to the bathroom yourself until he gets the idea.

Answer 8

because he's a guy. women just dont understand that. i'm 40 and you just described every adult male including myself

Answer 9

I like the velcro idea, but I was thinking more along the lines of a plastic clamp. It could go around the seat and the lid. That way when he raises the lid, the seat goes up automatically. Should be easy to disconnect it when a female has to use the toilet.

Answer 10

was he kneeling down when he got something in the way ?

Otherwise how can this happpen ?

Answer 11

My 7 year old will not lift it either unless I remind him. That's a boy for you!

Answer 12

that had to be traumatic for the little guy. have him hold the seat up with one hand and use the other for handling his business. offer treats for doing this, and keep reassuring him. punishing him for something he is terrified of is only going to make it worse.

Answer 13

Ouch. I was going to say to tell him that that's how big boys do it, but then I read the rest. Man. If it's still bothering him after all this time, maybe he needs some help with it. Like, from a doctor.

Or, put some Clorox wipes and explain to him that he will have to clean up after. The option to clean it up or lift ought to bring him around, he's still a guy, after all!

Answer 14

Make him clean up the pee.  If he has to do this several times then he will get the idea.  If not then make him sit on it like a little girl.   I have a problem with my son not aiming.  I make him put on gloves and he cleans the pee up.  I'm not even gonna play when it comes to me having to sit in it.

Answer 15

Have him clean up after himself. Explain this is not a punishment. he made the mess and he is responsible for cleaning it. If he prefer not to have to clean, he can lift the seat and avoid the work.

A safe yucky smelling cleaner can be an added motivator.

Answer 16

Show him how to clean up after himself.  7 years old is definately old enough; my 3-year-old enjoys cleaning up her messes.

Keep washcloths in a drawer in the bathroom and some spray disinfectant, and show him how to clean the toilet seat after peeing on it.  Also show him where to put the dirty washcloth.  Make it clear in your tone of voice that this is NOT a punishment for his actions, but just the simple solution for not wanting to pick up the seat.  He can choose to pick up the seat, or he can clean up after himself.  Either way doesn't really matter to you, as long as he keeps the toilet clean.

If you find a mess on the seat, don't clean it!  Have him come back in and clean it, then praise him for doing a good job in leaving the toilet clean for the next person.

Answer 17

First let me say I feel for the kid. Secondly try a reward system, instead of taking things away when he doesn't do it, give him praise when he does do it.

Answer 18

That "something" has a name...it's called a p***s...come on say it with me now...p***s.  Simple solution to the not problem...teach him how to clean the toilet seat when he is done.