My son wont listen is there anything i can do other than hit him?

Question

hes only five and sending him to his room,or time out wont work please help

Answer 1

dont baby talk him. dont hit him either, but putting a little fear into him wouldnt hurt... make sure when you send him to his room there is nothing fun he can do in there. or else he will never learn

Answer 2

Never hit him!! that's abuse. Take away time from playing with his favorite toy

Answer 3

take away priveleges, like nintendo or somethimg he likes a lot, dont take away foods, or bathroom duties, its against the law and awful for the child. dont hit him, he will learn to hit others and be aggresive. take away things he likes to play with or places he likes to go.

Answer 4

How about taking away things he likes? For instance, if he likes playing with a certain toy, then take the toy away when he is being bad. Then explain to him why you took the toy away, and what you expect from him so that he can earn the toy back.

Answer 5

Now is the time to teach him about how good behavior is rewarded.  You will sit down with him and discuss your expectations for correct behavior.  Everytime he does one of his chores or homework, he will earn a sticker.  At the end of the week, you and he can get his reward.  It could be a movie, a treat, whatever.  When we get older it's something called a paycheck.

Answer 6

you need to find out what he values... is it a special toy, a book, a trip to the park? find out what he values and tell him that if he doesn't listen, you'll take that thing away from him. if you tell him you'll do it, then you have to follow through and do it.

i can't believe the # of ppl on here condoning hitting, slapping or spanking a child. if it's a joke, it's not funny. no child ever deserves to be physically punished.

Answer 7

actually talk to him and ask him why he wont listen hitting is not an answer and maybe you are putting to much stress on him pay more attention to him ask please and thankyou give him an anlowance

Answer 8

uhh

tell him why he

shouldnt do what he does.

& tell him stories of how it got

you into trouble as a child?

dont yell or hit him though

because its just going to make

him want to keep up the bad

behavior more.

try doing fun things with him

that can get you & him to bond.

h**l become more happier &

slowy stop what hes doing.

ive seen that taking things away

just gets frustrating & makes him

more mad.

Answer 9

Tell him he can't listen to Eminem. That'll get'em straight! EVERYONE loves Slim Shady!

Answer 10

In pretty sure the yelling/hitting or time out is old news for him. Try something new - taking away his favorite hobbies - toys - favorite snack/drink. Tell him that when he behaves, he can have it again.... When he is being good - acknowledge his behavior with a trip to have some ice cream or to the park and let him know thats his reward for being so well behaved.

Answer 11

We use timeouts, earlier bedtimes, taking away toys, and not letting him watch t.v..

Answer 12

well you have to SMACK! him!

thats the only way he will listen

but not with your hands like roll up a news paper or something

coz if you use your hands everytime you raise it his gonna think you want to hit him.

Answer 13

from one mom to another,do not hit him physically but hit him where it hurts the most.

talke away cell phone,house phone,

take away the tv and video games

take away the computer...............

tell him he can stay in his room with NO privledges for 1 month and if he gives you any $hit.give him another month.

the only time he can come out of his room is to eat,go to the bathroom or shower.other than that he is bedroom bound out of your sight.soon he WILL learn that YOU are the boss and e will no longer get away with his defiance.good luck to you.cc

Answer 14

Punishment= no videos, no TV, no friends, no play time, no friends...etc. Be firm and keep your word. If you and your spouse are at odds the child will play you against each other so don't let that happen by being partners in the punishment (don't undermine each other). It will work if you stick to the rules you set and stick together!!!

Answer 15

a trick that worked with my son was 'distraction' at 5 its so dificult to stop naughty behaviour. depending what he's doing wrong .....often distracting him will stop him without him noticing.

for example if he touching something hes not allowed try to distract him by offering a great toy to play with instead. obviously this would be one of his toys already but the way you react to the toy should be enought to make him want it.

if he tantrums nip it in the bud by pointing out an interesting object before he gets into full swing.

its much less confrontational and this way he will learn to enjoy interacting with you much more as it will no longer be to tell him off.

good luck x

Answer 16

Take away everything that makes him happy and see how long it takes for him to start behaving. You are his parent, not his friend.

Answer 17

Get down on his level in a room with no distractions...

Face him toward you and talk in an authoritative voice and tell him what you need...

He should listen.

Answer 18

Don't hit him! He is too young to understand! 5 year olds have not yet developed self control. You have to tell them everything over and over again for them to understand.

Expect him to NOT understand how to do what you want him to do. When he does something wrong, tell him immediately what he did wrong, let him know you realize he wants to be good, and then leave it alone. More importantly, when he does something good, praise him and tell him how good he is. Consistency is the key. Long punishments are meaningless to him, as is being punished for something he did a while ago. It has to happen right away.

Don't expect him, at that age, to remember to do things, to put away his toys or pick up his room. He just won't know how to do this regularly, even if he wants to.

Check out this link that can tell you more about the developmental stage a 5 year old is going through. http://childparenting.about.com/od/child...

Answer 19

you must be so confused by now. here's what i would do. Figure out why he isn't listening to you. Is he distracted by anything? like television or school. FIND THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM BEFORE PUNISHING WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW THE CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM IS.

Answer 20

i know violence is not a smart idea.  punish him take away certain privileges

Answer 21

show him a prison confession dvd or take him to juvenile!

Answer 22

take him to an student assessor or an Education Officer

Answer 23

don't hit him because when i was a child that made me rebel even more. you have to teach him a lesson. tell him he has two warnings to do what ever you say. if he gets the two warnings then tell him he needs to sit in a corner for for however minutes that you want him too. if he runs away then tell him he is not aloud to do anything for a certain period of time.

it works everytime, trust me

Answer 24

Take something away. Something like...an upcoming trip or his tv or something. And everytime he acts up remind him that whatever you took away lies in your hands.

Or call nanny 911 ...haha jk. =DD

Answer 25

spank him! no face hits. but a  good spanking will teach him

Answer 26

In my opinion hitting kids does not  work . It just tells them that wacking people is ok.  try  time outs or  explaining to him the reasons why you need him to listen to you.

Answer 27

I think that spanking is your only other option... I know a lot of belly rubbers say that it isn't Kosher but I spank my kids and I love them very much... A spank on the butt lets them know you mean business... I don't agree with leaving marks though, that is abuse, the problem with government is they think all forms of punishment are "abuse" and that is why this generation of kids are turning out so bad, the parents have no control!

Answer 28

ground him for a few days.

Answer 29

I have no idea

my mom would give me time outs and and no desserts and hit me and all kinds of stuff but it didnt work I just had to grow out of it sorry im not any help

Answer 30

well it's for sure that the spanking part isn't working neither, I know it because I received a lot while I was a child and after a time I got used to it so I kept on doing things after my own mind. I think you must find something he really likes doing or a favorite toy or whatever and it must be a greater punishment for him if he is banned from it than if he receives a spanking and in 5 minutes he doesn't feel anything. anyway good luck with him

Answer 31

Tell him no dessert or tv or friends....