My son wont play with other kids?

Question

hes 4.he goes 2 daycare from 11-2. besides going to the bathroom and taking a nap he stays in his little box (theres a toy that has 2 big box like things and a thing you crawl through) he eats his snack in there, watchs the other kids, takes a nap in there sometimes. and wont come out and play with the other kids. the teacher doesn't like him so he just leaves him there. he plays with Rhyleigh(his cousin) but Rhyleighs only there 1 day a week for 2 hours. our neighbors have 6 kids. that are all around his age. youngest is 3 oldest is 6. and if they look at him he cries. he has no brothers or sisters so hes never around kids except Rhyleigh....how do i get him to play with other kids?

Answer 1

He may have a social issue. Go on the internet and look up Aspergers syndrome and see if the symptoms fit. If not, Just let him be who he is. You, nor the teacher, can force him to participate, But as a teacher myself, I wouldn't let him sit in a box all day either, even if that meant I had to keep him by me as my "assistant"all day. Try to find a daycare that will at least work with him, I know its hard, once he gets into public school, he may have a better chance or open up more

Good luck~

Answer 2

try sending him to a different day care mabe he dosent like the enviornment there

Answer 3

Talk to your provider and ask what their prob is with your child. Then check on other Day Cares if you don't get the answer you want. The YMCA has a really great day care program. Also your library has a time for you to take your child in for story time and thats interacting with other children. Socializing is very important for your child. If they are an only child maybe have another. :) Best of Luck!!

Answer 4

take him some where else. "the teacher dosent like him so she just leaves him there...." why would you leave your child in the care of someone who dosent like him? thats just wrong.

Answer 5

I was like this as a small child. I had no brothers and sisters and my parents always spoke to me as though I was an adult. The day care teachers referred to me as an 'old soul'.

As I grew older I only preferred the company of older kids.

I have some memories of day care and I really enjoyed playing by myself. I could make my own rules and I didn't have to deal with sharing or any other type of compensation. I particularly hated it when my mom made me play with other kids I didnt like.

I suggest you find a new day care though... if the teacher 'doesn't like him'. They teachers were the only people I talked to till about 2nd grade. He will be lonely there if he doesn't even have a teacher to go to.

Answer 6

You definitely need to get him to a different day care center, where instead of ignoring him, the teacher will pay more attention to him and try to help him "crawl out of his shell".  Here's something else to consider...is there any way your child could be autistic?  A mild case of autism could account for him not wanting to be around other children.  Do some research on the Internet; if you think your child exhibits any other symptoms of autism, you should have him checked out.  Get in touch with your pediatrician to find out where to go for that.

Answer 7

Does he go to preschool?  If so, does he act this way there to?  Or is his "daycare" the preschool?  If he acts this way in school, then a social worker can work with his social skills.  When my daughter was in Kindergarten and cried everyday, the teacher suggested a social worker at the school to work with her.  She eventually grew out of it and didn't need it, but this may be an option for you.  He sounds overly sensitive.

Answer 8

Your child is sensitive and this is perfectly normal. If he's comfortable with Rhyleigh you should bring BOTH of them around the other kids. Initiate games that will include Rhyleigh, your son and one other kid. As your son watches Rhyleigh play with the kid your son will see that it's okay as he trust Rhyleigh and if Rhyleigh is cool with the other kid then so shall your son be cool with the other. Over time gradually add more kids to the play date and he'll be fine. But allow your son to feel out who he wants to play with first otherwise he'll never break the habit and may end up wanting to be alone during his middle school and high school years.

After you added the additional details: it would seem to me that you need to just let him do his thing. And what I mean by that is...he is who he is. Evidently he's not comfortable being around other people OR...and I don't mean to scare you...someone whom you have left him in their care may have been hurting him, so now he's withdrawn.

Answer 9

He sounds terribly shy...have you tried playdates where y ou participate as well. Try the Mommy and me swimming at the Y or your local libraries story hour. It may also be helpful to have him play with children that are just slightly younger than him. Whatever you do don't criticize him, that will only make things way worse. Out of all the kids you have been around has there been one that was exceptionally thoughtful and helpful with him? If so I would go the extra effort to have him around that child. Children mirror what the adults in their lives do, make sure you are communicating well with those around you, and make sure he sees this.  good luck!

Answer 10

Don't you want your child to be "liked"?  Why don't you find a care provider that "likes" him.  It really isn't an option for a care provider to choose to like or dislike his students and that is highly indicative of the kind of care he is receiving.  As for the other kids, well I am sure they must be taking subtle clues from this teacher.  

Bottom line is find a new care provider.

Answer 11

The teacher doesn't like him? so lets the child sit there all day and does nothing. Find another daycare where they will work with him. He is obviously terribly shy. If I were you I would try to find a little boy a bit younger than him to play for a while. This may work out better.