My son wont sleep in his bed why?

Question

my son was just born on the 21st and while i was at the hospital i could not get him to sleep in the bed they had for him he had to be on my chest.... i thought well you know it happens he could just be having this thing where he needs me and i feel to far away.... then when we got home its still the same i cant get him to sleep in his crib or anywhere by himself! which puts me in a place where i cry and get upset because my sleep has been down hill and i cant sleep at all now because i freak out while i hold him that ill drop him or he wont be able to breath and i wont know it because ill be sleeping so that puts my body down and i fell bad! then i start to cry more and i just start to feel like a bad mommy..... i just want him to sleeo in his bed and let mommy sleep for 20 mins..... what can i do to get my little man to sleep in his own bed without cry-n for a long time because hes alone?

Answer 1

Get a miracle blanket!  

http://www.miracleblanket.com/

I found that when I started to swaddle my babies they were able to sleep in their cribs.

I still kept them at arm's reach in a co-sleeper because I was more comfortable that way.

I hope that he sleeps for you soon!  Swaddle him!

Even if you can't get a miracle blanket... the video on the website will help show you the proper way to swaddle your little boy.  

Answer 2

i actually had the same problem as a baby. apparently a good amount of babies have this problem. you want to know what to do? put the shirt you are wearing (your night time shirt) and wrap him in it or just give it to hiim when you put him in his crib. babies relax when the smell of the mother is near by. i think its supposed to make them feel safer, but im not really sure why it works.

Answer 3

Its a newborn baby its used to hearing the tic toc of your heart beat.

Get a wind up clock and put by the crib.

See if that helps. They are cheap.

Probably the cheaper the better, it will be louder.

If nothing else ask your Dr. about this, I am sure you are not the pnly one that has been through this.

At 3 days old I don't think it would hurt to sleep with you till a week or month.

Answer 4

Honey, unless you're drunk or on drugs, you aren't going to squish or suffocate your baby if he's sleeping with you.  If you should accidently roll onto him, he'll let you know!  He'll squirm around and wake you up.  As a new mom, it's pretty instinctive for you to wake up if he's awake.  Your baby needs to be close to you - your warmth is comforting to him and will quiet him.  Just put him in the middle of the bed and go to sleep.  Make sure there is a person or a pillow on one side of him and you on the other side.  If you're breastfeeding, all the better.  You can give the baby your breast and go back to sleep.  I did it many times with all of my babies.

To ensure you are getting enough sleep, make sure you nap during the day when he naps.  You've just had a baby and your body needs plenty of rest to heal itself.  Just get your schedule into sync with your baby's schedule and then calm down.  Relax and enjoy your baby.

Answer 5

the reason he wants to sleep on your chest is because he can hear your heart beat and it makes him feel like he is back in the womb. get him a heartbeat bear. it is a little stuffed animal that plays the heart beat for the baby for like 30 minutes straight and that may help a lot. well anything that plays the sound of a heartbeat would help out.

Answer 6

Why can't he sleep in your bed? Go to target and get one of those co-sleepers if it would make you feel safer than just laying him in your bed.

Babies like to be near mommy.

Answer 7

Have him next to you in bed, but not on you.  

That way he will know you are right there, and maybe you can nod off and get some sleep, And get your partner to come in and check you every now and then, to make sure he's safe.  

He should be fine, next to you in the middle of a double bed.  Maybe put a pillow on the other side of him, to make sure he can't wriggle / move away from you.

There is nothing wrong with him being in bed with you, he needs to know you are there.  he will get used to not being on you, but beside you, and eventually should be ok in his own cot, as he gets to know that you are not far away.

Make sure you "swaddle" him, (wrap his arms close to his body- not too tight), but so he feels nice and cosy and held.

The other reason why he may want to keep sleeping on your chest, is that he is still hungry.  If you are breastfeeding him, he knows you are his food supply, so naturally doesnt want you to go to far away from him.

Babies have an extrodinary sense of smell. He can smell the milk on you.

Answer 8

My son hated that bed at the hospital.. He slept in his crib by himself from that day we set it up... But try swaddling him or putting him in the nursing pillow... the boppy... try that and you may have to let him cry for a lil bit... It kills us to see our children cry... but good luck