My sons girlfriend left her baby!!?

Question

she took off to another state a week ago and called last nite and says shes NOT coming back!! the baby is only 5 months old...How could she do this..My son works..and tries hard to provide for his family, but she has this friend, that keeps feeding her head full of lies about him cheating on her, when he works most of the time, Its like she gets jealous cuz he has a job..ever since she had the baby, she never cleans their house, its a filthy pig stye.. I love my grandbaby and have taken care of her since birth...Im afraid the state will take her away from us. Can that happen?? if his name is on the Birth Cert..and he is providing for her. What rights do I have as a grandparent just in case something happens to him too..specifically if he goes to jail or somethng like that. can my son give me temporary custody...we live in washington state. Help!!!

Answer 1

You can file for guardianship and the father can pay you child support. This can be a short time fix until he can save enough to support the child. Hopefully the mother will realize what she has done and change her actions.

Answer 2

Get an attorney now. Don't wait until she comes back. Always think of the child first.

Answer 3

What ever you plan on doing, do it quickly.  

My buddy's ex in high school got pregnant, handed the child to her parents, and walked away from her responsibility.  The sad thing is, her parents blame my buddy for her leaving despite the fact that he has been a great father, paid child support, and visited every other weekend (court mandated visitation rights).  

For that reason however, her parents have made my buddy's life for the last 16 years, a living h**l.   And they have repeatedly dragged him into court accusing him of drinking and using drugs (he hasn't) and not being a fit parent (he has a bachelors degree and a full time professional job).

Do your grandchild a favor and get custody quickly and cut her parents out of the loop!  Chances are, they are just as crazy as she is.

  

Answer 4

you need to contact an attorney soon, if you can not afford one, call legal services in your city, they will help you...you do have rights as a grandparent, you might even talk to  your sons girlfriend and make arrangements in writing with her to take care of the baby....good luck

Answer 5

all sounded good for you until you mentioned your son is headed for jail....

sounds like a great situation for the kid.

you'd better talk to a family law attorney before CPS shows up at your door, and they will....

Answer 6

1-get an attorney, and start proceedings on the grounds of temporary abandonment. (for your son)

#2-have your son sign paperwork, through this same attorney, that states if anything happens to him , you have full guardianship.

#3-don't call her. stay completely out of her affairs, and document everything, every call, every name calling, everything she does that you know of in a notebook. if she took care of this child the way you said she did, and can just leave her, then she doesn't need to be a mother anyway.

i would suggest talking to an attorney, this will be a long hard road if you don't and when you don't do things like this right the first time, they are the cases that people complain about that makes the system "suck". good luck, and whatever you do, if she comes back, don't let her remove the child from your house for any reason, no matter how reformed she says that she is.-if she did come back, and you let her have the baby, she could take of with her, and you might not ever see her again.-and it wouldn't be considered kidnapping, because no legal custody between her or your son has been established.