My soon-to-be-wife proposed a threesome... serious opinions please?

Question

Ok, my gf & I enjoy our s*x life and we r very experimental. We are normally a very private and intimate couple but we’re always open to try new things. (We r 30yrs old btw) Now which guy wouldn’t fancy a threesome? (of course FFM) but I never thought about it cuz I didn’t expect her to agree, but surprisingly SHE was the one to propose, and her purpose is to PLEASE ME which I cant be more grateful for. Now of course she has some rules about this which I don’t mind. I can’t engage in any intimate actions with the extra girl or like “DO HER”! But the she can do whatever to turn me on more… in other words, the girl would be like an extra sets of lips. We both are very excited about it, but I wana b careful! Cuz she IS very excited about it, but she can go crazy if she imagines me doing the other girl! She can be very jealous sometimes. I wana go by her rules completely and I think we can maintain the situation, but I’m still afraid if it goes more than expected or it turns out that its not what imagined. What do u think?

Ladies PLEASE :) and experimented guys!

Answer 1

You won't really know how it will go until you do it but if you go ahead, make sure the other girl is clear on the rules before the action starts. Sure you'll probably be nervous at first but once you all get into it hot n heavy, it'll be ok.

Answer 2

Personally I wouldn’t do it. There sounds like there are too many rules already and YOU will regret it later on. When it comes to this kind of thing it is great to have rules, but when things get going the ones you mentioned tend to get broken. Unless you can talk to your girlfriend and get her to be more at ease about it, it sounds like there will be problems later on. Also from what you wrote short of hiring someone I doubt you could find a woman to go for that kind of situation, unless she was bi and more into females.

Answer 3

this situation is going to be hard if you make the wrong decision.. but ading a 3rd person can be very exciting it could be hard cause then you will see her with somone else just be carefful

Answer 4

try it...you got nothing to loose...she wants to please you then let her do it...when your old n grey...you can look at her n say...remember that time we........lol

Answer 5

I would be very careful, If you and your partner are into experimenting try experimenting in other areas that do not include other people.  The thought of it can be exciting but the actions could destroy what you already have.

Answer 6

Maybe she just wants to leave your ***.

Answer 7

u would really have to talk to her on this...u should sit her down and explain to her that this is something really different and obviously its your first time so your not going to kno exactly what your doing n there are possibilities that things will not be perfect as planned n if she is the one suggesting it, she has to be understanding about it and to take that into consideration if you mess up accidentally...i think that her plan is to have her and the other girl go at it (as a show for you) becuz what guy wouldnt want to see 2 chicks getting freaky w/eachother? so u would have to pay more attention to your gf than the other girl for sure but dont completely neglect the other girl maybe glance at her here and there to show that youre into it but overeall ur gf is all that matters so the spotlight is on her

Answer 8

Threesomes usually go one of two ways

1) They're mind-blowingly amazing

or

2) They are awkward and cause relationship problems

Certainly, I think it would be better to do it before you get married.  And if its something you want to do, you should, otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if"

You need to have a serious chat with your g/f before and after the event to make sure all is ok.  

Answer 9

If you're both comfortable about the idea of threesome go ahead but I've heard that it might change some things among some couples.

Answer 10

watch out, she is testing you.

if there are all sorts of rules then you will not enjoy yourself, you'll be too busy makin sure you dont break any of the rules. i mean if you cannot kiss the other woman or do "intimate" things with her, what is she doing in your bed?

another thing, before you do something like this, will you agree to a MMF threesome with your gf and another guy? she might request it, after all, she "gave" you a MFF experience.

i'd suggest going to a far a way place on your own and finding 2 willing women (or whatever takes your fancy) and putting that experience behind you.

edit:

so if you can live without it, just live without it. believe me, a threesome (or more) is not that much to write home about. it's ok to do it either if all partners dont know each other at all (purely sexual) or if they are the best of friends and nothing will come between them (yeah sure)... it can only lead to instablity and problems.

if it's not a test and neither of you are in deep need of it... just leave it in the realm of things you never done, like jumping off the niagra falls or something :)

and there are plenty of other things you can do to spice things up without introducing a third person. (toys, places, outfits etc).

Answer 11

From my experience, I think threesomes can only go well if the people involved have no emotional feelings for each other. It might sound like a really good idea but it's hard to predict the complications it could possibly create.

Maybe she feels like this is her last chance to mess around with females because she is getting married and plans to have a monogamous marriage.

Maybe she just wants the experience and thinks it's not going to be a big deal.

It's hard to say what her motives are. Only she has the answer to that.

If I were you, I'd be very careful. Especially if the idea of you having anything to do with the other girl sends her into a jealous rage. What happens if you do something she doesn't like during the heat of the moment? It's best to take into consideration the negative effects it could have on the relationship.  

Answer 12

I would be very careful if I were you this kind of thing could ruin your relationship. It basically sounds like you just want someone to watch you two having s*x so why not just do it in a public place?