my spouse had an affair w some red headed chick who used to be his sister in law about 30 years ago. she asked him to move in with her. somehow it ended and she left w some guy from mexico. the year after that my spouse went nuts and said he wanted to die, throw the kids out, take all our stuff and leave or just kick us out. i turmoiled over how to leave forever, then i just left. my kids visit. the spouse still lives in the house but i have all the furniture. i have been waiting to divorce him but the longer i wait, the more he thinks i am coming back. to prepare he is in counselling, goes to sunday service regularly, wants to get baptised, stopped smoking and drinking, exercises more, fixes 20 years worth of overdue jobs around the house, etc. what ever he thinks will bring me back. the problem is that he is doing so good, that i don't want to directly tell him again that i am not coming back. i want him to finish improving before i serve the papers. i want my children to have a better person to deal with. before he would have tried to kill us or beat us down, but now he behaves better. i will never go back but is it damaging the kids to not fully admit it now?
Tags: