My spouse is in the military he commited adultry, abandoned me and his son, his command is doing nothing

Question

I need answers and help they are doing nothing and he is threatening me. He had me move off because it was to expensive to live their and has been cheating since I left. I have witnesses and I know the girls he has been with can someone help me.

Answer 1

It is rare for the military to prosecute adultery cases except if the member is an officer or they are cheating with the spouse of another member.

However, the service is not who you need to be asking for help.

Contact a lawyer and start divorce proceedings. As part of those proceedings child support will be ordered. Most states are now no fault divorce states, who he has been with since you seperated is most likely irrelivant.

Answer 2

you will have to take him to court for a divorce and child support/custody issues.  If he had a civilian job you wouldnt go to his boss to get what you need right?  Same thing with the military.  I know thats not what you want to hear but its true.

Answer 3

Go to a legal clinic for those people who have little or no money.  Or, get an investigative reporter from a newspaper interested in your case.  Nothing like a little publicity to "move things along!"

Answer 4

Ok here is the scoop. You do not need to deal with the command but should contact the base legal office. As a spouse you can make use of their services for advice. It is free to you. Adultery is a crime under the UCMJ. I forget the actual article, but it is there. Again, the base legal office can advise you as well as look into starting an investigation. Next file a restraint order since your spouse is threatening you. Again the base can advise and may also have your spouse's commander issue a no contact order. This carries the same weight as a restraining order. Start with the base legal office. They are one of your greatest resources. From there, you may need to go to a civilian lawyer to file for divorce. Good luck to you and the kids. I hope that it all works out for you and your family.  

Answer 5

Sgt_mjc is right. You really do need to contact the base legal office and have them start the investigation and obtain a no contact order.

It's article 134 or it can be article 80 (attempted to cheat, etc.)

Answer 6

You are pretty much left to the local civilian court system on this. You can search the UCMJ all you want, but no where is adultry listed. The only charge that could be brought is under Article 134, the military catch all.

Even if charges are brought under Article 134, there are 3 rules that must be proven in the hearing.......

1. You must have proof of the act. Pictures or vids of them doing the wild thing, or one of the two parties admitting intercourse.

2. That the accussed party is married......a no-brainer.

3. That the act brought discredit upon the military.

If you don't have pics of them naked in the bed together, or the women willing to testify you're pretty much outta luck.

Don't take my word for this, check it out yourself, just type in adultry in the military in a search engine and read whats there

Answer 7

Yes, I promise the military will compensate you for something like this!

Answer 8

Try going to JAG and start the divorce paperwork.

Answer 9

File a complaint with CID...

Contact your Congress Person...

File a formal charge against his CO /Senior NCO's for Deriliction of Duty...

Your Husband is required by Federal Law & the UCMJ to support You and your Son...

If he is commiting Adultery On Base he can serve up to 10 years...

Answer 10

Go to the JAG office on post and talk to them. they can give you the most advice for free. and they know more than anyone on yahoo answers

Answer 11

Why do you want someone who obviously isn't worthy of you. Get a divorce, file for child support and leave the jerk.

Answer 12

GO TO LEGAL, they HAVE to help you because it's their job. ****, even contact the MP's. Adultery is a CRIME, the MP's HAVE to take action. Command? Who? SGT? SFC? I would skip them all and go straight for the 1SG or BC. I always tell my husband is he cheats on me or hits me I am taking him down.

Answer 13

Heres the thing, in the Marine corps anyway... You must have PROOF, photos, texting, ect for the military to prosecute your husband. Otherwise they will protect their guys. I see it happen allllll the time. Its horrible but thats how it goes. They'll try to cover up anything they can.

Other wise its your word against him.. and they will believe him.

Dig up any proof that you can and take it to his command. If you can get any. Get a lawyer that specializes in military divorces. Try a Jag officer. But a Civilian Lawyer with the experice will work too. Its up to who u like better.

Good luck hun. Im sorry to hear he's done this to you.

Either way no matter if he gets into trouble or not. You will get child support and a little under half of his BAH. Sometimes Half.