My step brother eats like a SLOB at the table, what should I do?

Question

It's horrible, he eats like A total pig. I am a dude, and I don't mind if your a bit sloppy, but god he gets it everywhere! He moans when he eats aswell! I can't say anything cause stepdad gets angry...anything I can do to make dinners liveable?

Answer 1

Don't attend

Answer 2

i know exctly how u feel only its my real brother, tell him to eat like a "bad word" human being

Answer 3

your mom should say something!!and the father..but if the father is like that how can the son learn...?tough job for ur mom!

Answer 4

Don't say a thing. Let him embarrass himself when he has a girlfriend.

Answer 5

You should tell your mom to say something...keep pestering her about it until she talks to her husband so he can teach your stepbrother some manners.  Really let her know how much you are grossed out and how it ruins your apetite...if she is a softy, you may want to exaggerate a bit.  Make sure you let her know that her husband gets mad at you for saying something....that way she can deal with him, not you.  

You may want to find out if he eats lunch at school or whatever...cuz maybe he doesn't eat ANYTHING until dinner which is why he is a pig.  If that is the case, you should encourage him to eat throughout the day so he isn't starving at dinner.

Keep in mind, however, that it may not be an overnight change.

Answer 6

Oh, man, you have several options:

a) Ask your mom to put a large centerpiece (tall flowers) on the table so that you can't see your sloppy step brother while he's eating.

b) Mimic him - so that either your parents make you both stop or perhaps he begins to see just how disgusting he is being.

c) Rebel in some way and get yourself sent to your own room without supper.

d) Don't say anything at the dinner table, just deal with him when the two of you are alone. Let him know that if he continues in his behaviour, you will punish him yourself in some way. "Nuggie discipline!"

e) Ask to be excused to eat in front of the TV instead. Watch an educational channel even - if you must - just to get your parents' permission.

f) Socially withdraw. Just look down at your own plate only - and wear iPod headphones to drown out his moaning.

g)  Make it into a game. Count how many times the food actually reaches his own mouth. You might even come up with some sort of "celebration" for each time he eats properly.

h) Like that SNL skit years ago (and baby birds), ask if your brother needs his food pre-chewed and regurgitated - or ask for this yourself. Gross everybody out.

i) Bring a book to the table and shield your eyes with it. Tell your parents it's homework. They can't chastise you for doing homework!

j) Meditate. Put yourself into a zen state and block out all other sights and sounds. Find your "happy place."

k) At the table, rack your brain for further ideas! Plot your revenge in some other way. Remember: "Revenge is a dish best served cold." ;-)

Answer 7

Wow, that's an uncomfortable situation.  It sounds like you're not going to be able to change step-brother's eating habits, what with step-father being an obstacle.  I think the best you can do is to learn how to completely shut out your step-brother during meals.  I mean, teach yourself to tune him out so you can't hear him, and don't look at him.  It would be ideal if you could take your meals somewhere away from piggy, but that's probably out of the question.  Is your mother available to talk to about this?  Have you tried talking to your step-brother one on one about it?  Poor guy!  I hope you find a way to resolve this.  That sucks.  It sure ruins mealtime for you.  :(

Answer 8

u can eat privately in your own room ....because it looks like its his habbit to eat in that manner and you cant even tell anything to him so that he can change it....

Answer 9

TALK TO YOUR MOM FIRST ABOUT THE PROBLEM THEN USE ONLY WHAT IS APPLICABLE RE EATING RULES ( IN A NICE WAY) HE HAS A LOT OF PROBLEMS DONT ADD MORE>

IM NOT SUGGESTING YOU EAT ALONG.. THAT WILL MAKE THE SITUATION WORSE. ( YOUR FAMILY WILL SUGGER MORE CONSEQUENCES BUT IF THIS IS NOT CORRECTED ( CONSEQUENCES AND STRIFE WILL DEVELOP IN YOUR FAMILY TOO)

He's probanly hyper and on the go all the time.and gobbles everything down.

That is not acceptable. You are definitely right

Drinking water during meals helps people to slow down eating

Eating too qauickly is bad for your health , You eat too aquickly and put on weight.

Perhaps he's also got a brething pboablem an allergy. etc

You should try to talk to him. Moaning when eating is  a sign of a health problem.

It is right to bring it up.. He may not realize his behaviour.

I would try to talk to him. IT CAN BE ANNOYING.. YOU YOUSELF CANNOT EAT PROPERLY.. YOU MAY BECOME TENSE , EAT TOO QUICKLY ETC. BAD FOR YOUR  HEALTH..

TRY TO SUGGEST SOME OF THESE TABLE MANNERS IN A CIVIL WAY

[edit] General Behavior

Chew with your mouth closed.

Do not talk with food in your mouth.

Do not talk at an excessively loud volume.

Refrain from coughing, sneezing or blowing nose at the table.

Never tilt back your chair while at the table. Sit in a relaxed and comfortable position, but do not "slouch."

Do not "play with" your food, or with your table utensils.

Do not make loud or unusual noises while eating.

Do not single out, chastise or tell someone who has shown poor table manners.

It is generally acceptable to rest your fore-arms on the table, though you should take care to never rest your elbows on the table.

Always ask the host or hostess to be excused before leaving the table.

Do not stare at anyone while he or she is eating. It is considered rude.

Never talk on your phone or text a friend at the table. If an urgent matter arises, ask host or hostess to be excused, and step away from the table.

Do not slurp your food or eat loudly.

Burping or sneezing at the table should be avoided. If you must do so, you may request that your action be excused.

Excessive flatulence is generally frowned upon

Never tell people what to do other than someone who is responsible for other people at the table.

Men should not wear a hat at the dinner table

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Table_manne...