My step kids hate me being pregnant. help.?

Question

I found out I was pregnant 5 months ago. Our first baby together. My husband told his kids and they are upset. His daughter is 22 married with 2 kids of her own stopped talking to us. She said he was to old for another baby. We found out we were having a girl and she was super angry. His son is 12 and lives with us treats me bad. What can I do?

Answer 1

STAND UP FOR YOUSELF & PUT THEM BRATS STRAIGHT........

Answer 2

Firstly, congratulations on your pregnancy!

The 22 is now an adult and needs to behave like one. If she has chosen to stop talking to you because of this then that is her choice! You are in a relationship with her dad and while she might not accept it, she needs to respect her dads choice.

Im guessing she might be upset on how this new baby is going to impact not only on her life but how this affects the life of her two young ones and how much time they spend with their "grandfather". If this is an issue maybe a suggestion can be made that he has "grandkid" day and he spends time alone with just the grandkids!

With the 12 year old son your husband should be telling him off for any disrespect to you for starters! A united front is always best when it comes to discipline matters. He might also be feeling insecure about where he stands once this baby comes. He might also be feeling some loyalty to his sister so feels he has to stand by her.

I would suggest some counselling for the 12 year old if he isnt opening up to anyone in the family. There are obviously alot more issues there with him.

Goodluck!

Answer 3

Ticklish situation. Older kids always have issues with the woman who (in their minds) is trying to replace their mom. But your pregnancy is not their call. Be nice to them, even if you have to bear some abuse until they realise that you are there to make their dad happy, not to be their new mom. A lot depends on whether your husband shows you love openly, and is a good but firm father to them. You will need his full support or it won't work.  

Answer 4

You need to stand up for yourself and tell them that this is their sibling and they need to grow up and either treat them with respect, get the h**l out of your life, or you will make sure that you will protect your child and keep them away from her and will even go as far as to have them arrested if any harm comes to your child.

Answer 5

You need to win him over because he is going to live with you and you want him on your side, so tell him that that you want him to be as happy as you are and that you also care why he is so upset with you, tell him if he can tell you why he is so upset, talk to him don't get angry with him because if you do it will cause term oil in your home, your husband loves his child and the last thing you want to create is a battle field for them by talking bad about his own son, if you think it will not create a battle field that you will have to go fight in your wrong. Win the child over, after all he is the child.

I hope you are not the cause of this child losing his family, did you go with this man while he was married?