My step mom is angry at me almost all the time?

Question

I had dinner and she asked me to sit on the table, but i wanted to sit on the family table. So when she saw me going into the living room and sitting down on our big table she starts going on at me and smashes a plate, goes outside, comes back in, and BLAMES ME FOR EVERYTHING! she needs to calm down. Sometimes i wanna MAKE her calm down by shouting in her face and make her feel what she does to me!!

Answer 1

Don't scream back at her.  Talk to your dad.  Where is your mom?  Talk to her as well.

Answer 2

Since you give no other information I'm guessing that you were told to sit at the "children's table" and you figured you would sit at the "adult's table" and went against her wishes.  If it is her home then you need to follow her rules and do as she asks whether you like it or not.  Just because she is your stepmother doesn't mean you don't have to follow her rules when you are in her home.  

Answer 3

How old are you? For one, it would help to just do as you're told.  I'm not trying to take her side or anything, but if you have to put up a fuss just about what table you want to sit at, then I would assume you have a tendency to add to the problem. Now her going off like that, IS totally uncalled for. No matter how old you are, she doesn't need to speak to a child that way. My suggestion is to come up with a conversation that you would like to have with her. Get your dad involved so he can mediate. The two of you need to come to a solution to make you get along, not to mention getting to the bottom of where the hard feelings started.

Answer 4

She really has some anger management problems - I wouldnt shout back at her she might completely lose it.

For now, try your best not to wind her up - and avoid her when her moods start to worsen.  Then the first chance you get have a chat with you dad, see if he can monitor the situation.

My exs missus was a complete b**ch to our kids when there dad wasnt around - I had a chat with him, and told him to make sure that he didnt leave them alone with them.  Also I told him to tell her to calm down, and that her aggression could affect there visitation - which sorted the situation.

Good luck

xx

Answer 5

tell  them

Answer 6

I'm assuming that she wanted you to sit at the table designated for children, since you are not specific.  Since she is your step mom and not your mom, maybe you can talk to your dad about this.

Answer 7

shes not your real mom !

Answer 8

She may not deserve it but try being nice to her. She could have something else going on that you're not aware of.  Once she sees that you're making a sincere effort to get along with her maybe she'll calm down and do you the same favor. Most often people will feel stupid for being mean if someone is nice to them anyway. It's not easy to be the bigger person in such a situation but you'll usually end up feeling better about it because you know that you acted with dignity. It is concerning that she broke something in anger though so maybe you should tell your Dad.