My stepmom hits me...?

Question

So, my stepmother has always been verbally abusive and has called me stupid and played mind games with me. Once I caught her beating my dog with a stick and I stopped her and was screaming for help. But no one came so I grabbed the dog and left. No one believed me but my mom and sister. My dad called me a liar basically because my stepmother has ovarian cancer and she seems like a sweet woman. Jump forward a year later and now she hits me. Not hard enough to leave bruises but she pulls my hair and calls me names. I know it is stupid, but the more she does it the angrier I get. I want to hit her back, and I don't have a violent bone in my body. (I know I contradicted myself) I stick up for myself but when I tell my dad he doesn't believe me. She also told me my dad is going to h**l and I'm like him so I will to. Why would she say this? She actually loves my dad and treats him very great. But I'm sick of dealing with this. What can I do. I tried to be nice to her to get her to stop and be the bigger person. But nothing helps...

And the police are out of the question, they won't believe me...she has friends at the police dept. And she doesn't hit dogs anymore, It was just that once, she actually loves dogs. I've gotton sick of telling my dad because he doesn't believe me, ever. But my dad is very nice and loves me but he just believes I don't like her. I've dealt with her verbal abusive behavior for over 10 years... I'm starting to be bitter. This just isn't right.

Answer 1

Hello,

You have to move out soon.  You may need to talk to a counselor, a teacher, the school director or someone who will get on your side, who can understand you and who can refer you to a social worker.

Speak to everyone about this.  No body should ever hit you, not even with the petal of a rose.  

Try to get help from another adult and if possible, speak again with your dad and tell him that you need to move out, to please help you.

My heart goes to you,

Agua

Answer 2

oh wow honey you can not keep living like that!how old are you? look i see it like this if the women did not give birth to you then she should not have no reason to put her hands on you! the only person that should be hitting you is you mother! i would tell her just like this"look lady you are not going to keep putting your hands on me! I'm not your child and the next time you hit me I'm going to hit you back and if you hit me again then I'm going to call the police!" if you are doing something wrong then she should have your dad deal with you she has no right to discipline you you are not her child! you need to stand up for self n fight back before it's to late honey!!cause ain't no one going to defend you but yourself so don't depend on no one to fix this but ur self she keeps picking on you because she knows your weak but show her that you grew up and she will leave you alone! good luck and pls let me know how it goes!!!

Answer 3

Try videotaping what goes on in the house. Place the cam corder in places where it might occur. Don't tell anyone.

They could beleive you when they see it for themselves.

Answer 4

You can't go and live with your mum?

sounds like you need to get away from her and that she is manipulative and its a very tough situation, but there is no way in h**l you should have to live like that...

Answer 5

pictures, video, tape recorder.... bottom line is you need proof.  good luck to you i hope youre able to get out of there.

Answer 6

Call the Department of Children and Family Services.(DCFS) or the equivalent to it in your city and State.If you are not sure who to call in your city and state then you could call DCFS in Illinois and they can directly you to the proper authorities like DCFS in your area. Once you make a report.Your Dad will be forced to make your stepmother leave the home and if he refuses he could be charged as an accessory to abuse and you will be removed from the home.Once Your father makes the decision of weather he will make your stepmother leave or you are taken out of the home because he refuses to make her leave then there will be a full investigation about weather or not she is abusing you.If  you are serious then here is my advice.Don't call DCFS right away.First try to catch her attacking you on tape,videotape,or even a webcam, an dthe more atacks you have on tape the better,that way you can prove that it's not just a one time thing and that she does it frequently.Then Turn your proof of abuse over to DCFS that she is abusing you and it will be over with quickly.She will be arrested no matter how many friends she has at the police department and your stepmother will not be allowed to return to any home that you live in until she does whatever DCFS wants he to such as counseling,Anger Management classes etc;and proves that she has control of herself and her emotions.After that if she returns home and ever does it again she will never be allowed to reside in the same household as you do until you are 18 years old.

Answer 7

Do you live with your dad and step-mom on a regular basis?  I'm only asking because you mentioned that the only people who believe you are your mom and your sister.  Do you live with your mom and only go to your dad's house part time?  If so, I would simply refuse to go again until something can be done to change your stepmothers behavior.  I read the other answers and yes if you can get it on video tape or on a tape recorder that would be great, but I also understand how difficult that could be as well.

I hope you can live with your mom and sister instead of your dad, if not then I would try some of the other suggestions, including standing up to her.  My father was abusive.  When I was sixteen though and he started coming towards me with his fists raised, something just snapped inside of me and instead of just taking his beating, I yelled, "Stop!  If you come one step closer to me, I'm calling the cops on you!"  Well, he actually stopped and never hit me again.  He still hit my mom though, but she would never stand up to him.

And yes, the emotional abuse DOES hurt worse then the physical abuse -- my dad had always been both but his cutting remarks and mean statements did hurt worse than his hitting me ever hurt.

I'll be praying for you.

Answer 8

U know, u should put a hidden camera at ur house... When she started to call u names and hits u again u just need to show the proof and that's it....  Simple... Right?

Answer 9

Have your mom get you a small little tape recorder you can put in your pocket she can get one anywhere for 20-30 bucks easy. They are small next time she is acting like a witch make sure you have it recording and get it all on tape. Make sure it picks up the sound of her hitting you. There is the evidence you need nobody can call you a liar after that.

Trust me it works!