My stepmother tells me?

Question

that the house we live in with her and my Dad isn't our house. She has my 3 yearold half sister tell me that my mother doesn't love me. She also has her tell me that we won't live there forever. My stepmother has told me Im ugly and that I'm the reason my mother has a drinking problem. And whenever anything goes wrong, even if it's my little sister who did it, I get blamed for it. Not even my older brother gets blamed for it. My dad knows these things are going on, but he doesn't do anything about it. Someone asked me if I was being abused. am I?

Answer 1

It sounds like emotional abuse to me.  I am sorry you're not getting along with you step-mother.  I am a step-mother (2 girls and a boy) and I know how difficult it is.  Our family went to family counseling to address all of our blended family issues.

Try talking to your school counselor.  Some schools have individual and/or group counseling for students at the school.  She could also help you find other help.

Try talking to your dad again.  Maybe you should try a different approach than you did last time.  Instead of complaining about your step-mother, try just telling him how the comments make you feel. Ask him how you should deal with your feelings.  Ask him if there is anything you could do to make the situation better.  

Let your dad decide on his own how he wants to handle his wife.  He is in an awkward situation because he loves you both and doesn't want to take sides.  If he sees that you are trying your best to make things better, he will support you.  He may also decide to talk to his wife in private about trying to improve the situation.

Most of all, don't give up.  It can take awhile for blended families to adjust.  Try to ignore the hurtful comments and don't make any hurtful comments back.

I hope this link helps.  Good Luck to you and hang in there!

Answer 2

yeah verbaly and mentally

Answer 3

this makes me mad hearing about evil bit** stepmothers! i had a mean two faced stepmother who ruined my life and made me feel alienated from my father because it makes you wonder like "if he really cared about me he'd make it all stop!". so YES you ARE being abused. someone in the position of being your protector (which she took when she got with your dad imo!!) should never treat you that way. its blatant verbal abuse from a petty, jealous and immature person and you DONT have to live that way.

Answer 4

slap the **** out of that bithc

Answer 5

Yes, you are being emotionally abused and since your father knows it is going on but is doing nothing about it he is as guilty as your stepmother is.  You need to call social services.  Or tell a teacher/principal.

Answer 6

yes you are being verbally abused emancipate yourself and say goodbye to all of them and have them pay child support to you get an attorney!

Answer 7

Oh that is so messed up, just remember revenge on her is not necessary Karma will get her one way or another. Just ignore her and focus on school and get your education that way you will move out and be successful which is always the best payback however if she lays a hand on you report her she has no right to touch you. well i wish you all the strength that you need and good luck