My teenage daughter 15 is pregnant her boyfriend 20 wants to stand by her can he by law?

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My teenage daughter 15 is pregnant her boyfriend 20 wants to stand by her can he by law?

Answer 1

He CAN be persecuted but your best bet is to get them married.  You sign for your daughter and the judge will marry them.  It is a more stable stituation and he will be fullfilling his responsibility to both her and his baby.

Answer 2

If he wants to stand by her, you should let him, whatever anyone says...he got her pregnant, he's ready to stand by her...whatever their ages, he's ready to do the responsible thing now. It's not an ideal situation, but it's up to you what happens from here...call the police and he faces a criminal record and possibly jail - and who wants their grandchild to have a father like that??

And all of you saying 'how can you let your daughter have anything to do with a 20 year old', shut up!!! the woman can't regulate her daughter's life from the moment she gets up until when she goes to sleep at night!!!

Answer 3

well im gonna answer this one on the other side of the fence i was 15 and my then boyfriend and bc my hubby was 24 i got pregnant and yes he could stand by her unless u wanted to press charges but all u would do then is turn your daughter against u i guess it depends on what u want to happen but if ur cool with it then no problem and those who talk bad about your daughter need to chill bc alot of 15 yo get pregnant its if u stand by your baby that matters hope this helps

Answer 4

Yeah course he can!! Why shouldn't he?  And no, hes not going to jail unless you or your daughter make a complaint to the police.  Good on him for wanting to stand by your daughter!!

Answer 5

OMG! yeah he is going to jai because if someone over 18 has s--x with someone under 18 that is still rape even if the person under 18 was perfectly okay with it! especiall since you daughter is 15 he is definatly goin to jail!

Answer 6

if he is willing to stand by her them let him,it's not fun being a single parent.who cares about the age difference.if they love eachothereht n they love eachother and there is not much you can do about it.

Answer 7

if your not happy with it then you can tell the police,but if everyones ok with it then why should the law know,i know hes out of order but it might make your daughter go against you in the end,hope it all turns out alright

Answer 8

Yes, he can stand by her, but getting with your daughter was against the law. If he doesn't want to go to jail or get put on the s*x offenders register he should keep quiet and not tell people he is the farther. He could get in a LOT of trouble.

Answer 9

your daughters baby deserves a father that wants to stand by that baby. What he did wasn't necessarily morally wrong but it was lawfully wrong. A 15 year old girl knows exactly what she's doing.

If they are old enough to lay down and make a baby then they are old enough to be responsible for that child. Im not condemning what that man did - but...

think long and hard before you take that baby's dad away from him/her.

Alot of men would have just run for the hills.

Answer 10

i am in a simular situation and if he wants to stand by her then yes he can and as far as getting a house and claiming any benifits if thats what they want to do it will be alot easyer because she's under 16 she cant claim alot or get a house he however can.plus it not rape!! if she didnt say no how can it be!?!

as long as he isnt reported to the police by  things will be fine (docters,nurses,midwifes benifits agencys can not report him),he can live with her raise the baby be there at the birth and at all the scans and everything else.

Hope this helped x

Answer 11

He can stand by her if you as her mother allow it. My husband is 30  and I am 25 we started dating when I was 14 my mother was not fond of the idea but she allowed it, I got pregnant when I was 15 1/2 with my now 8 year old son and now my hubby and I have been together for 10 years and we just welcomed our 2nd child she is now 7 months old. If he wants to stand by her don't make him go unless he is bad news. He may be her only real comfort at this time. If you are comfortable you should let them give it a try, but she needs to know it will be the hardest thing she will ever do, not just raising the baby but making the relationship work. When you start off behind the gate it makes things alot harder.

Good Luck to you all.

Answer 12

It depends on the laws where you live. There is no federal law that applies to this situation.

In many states, he'd be in trouble. She is under the age of consent, and he's over 18 and more than four years older than her.

Answer 13

WTF?  She is 15 a minor and child.  He is 20 and I would have him arrested.  I guess no one saw a red flag?

As far as he goes he is no prince charming.  He would rather stand by her sure, it is better then going to jail.  

Why would you be OK with this as a mother?

Answer 14

I had my first baby when I was 15. As long as you approve (which is best for the child) yes he can. You will just have to sign papers when it comes to getting the birth certificate stating that he can be listed as the father.

Answer 15

big no no . . . . because of the age people will see it as only five years but people will also see it as her being a child as soon as she turns 16 its legal in england so if he is a good man and not a pedophile best 2 keep it hush till she is 16 otherwise he going to jail

Answer 16

Is there anyone that is really going to report this to police? Im sure that your daughter not!!!

Only if someone makes a complaint will the police even be aware of it and then if no one wants to press charges I doubt the police will because even though she is 15 she consented but it could be classed as Statutory Rape but ive not heard of heard of anyone being done with this when the girl was 15 but first time for everything!  But this is if you live in the UK where the age of consent is 16!

Answer 17

UK - as he is over 16 and she is not he can be charged with rape but very few people in this case would press charges - would you want your grandchild to visit his dad in prison? Your daughter has made a silly mistake and will need you to stand by her, if the baby's father is involved with child support then maybe it will work out.

Answer 18

My brother was 18 his girlfriend was also 15 when she fell pregnant.When she turned 16 they married before she was 20 they had 4 kids he left her & she got a new bloke.All you can do is stand by them.The law does not have to involved.

Good Luck

Answer 19

in the uk yes he can.

i fell pregnant to a 19 year old at 14 and nothing got said about that.

in the usa i don't think so  

Answer 20

Yeah of course he can, it happens a lot nowadays and I don't think they all get sent to prison as long as she had consented to it and she is willing to testify for this in court if it goes to court.

Answer 21

Why not?  You are her mother you would have to have him arrestedor something in order to keep him away from her. The police dont know that hes done this until somebody calls them.

Answer 22

yes he can stand be her... he can only be arrested if you the parents press charges... by law the only way someone can get arrested for being with a minor is if the minors parents press charges against him

Answer 23

Its rape when anyone over the age of 18 has s*x (wanted or wanted) with someone under the age of 16.  The age of consent is 16.  Call the cops, he is going to jail!

Answer 24

First of all, you should be ashamed of yourself for letting your daughter have anything to do with a 20 year old man at her age. That would've prevented this in the first place.

Second, by law he has committed statutory rape and can be prosecuted and sent to jail.

Third, You didn't specify whether or not you WANTED him to stand by her. Because if you don't, he can't if he's in jail for such. But if you do, then it's still a 50/50 chance either way.

What he has done is against the law, and so he's pushing his luck by asking at all.

And if I was you as a mother I would be ashamed to even ask about it.

Answer 25

im not to sure but he should be allowed. im guessing because they are dating you knew that there was a chance they were sleeping together. these things happen, if you do not approve then you can call the police and press charges, but you need to think about your daughter, she needs all the support she can get right know.

good luck and let us know what happens x  

Answer 26

state laws differ.

but most of the time 16 is the age of consent.

however, you being the mother of the 15 year old, you have the final say

he can not get arrested unless YOU press charges against him

no matter who reports him.

so to answer your question, he can stay with her as long as you allow him to.

Answer 27

As long as you don't press charges. I hope you don't. You don't want to cause her any more grief or trouble by getting the law involved. Let him stand by her and you can help them both by giving your support.

Answer 28

no. thats rape. even if she consented. hes going to jail.

and wtf? how could you let your 15 year old daughter get pregnant? or is this the daughter?

Answer 29

I think most courts would rather he be working and making regular child support payments and helping out with child rearing chores than sitting in jail at the public's expense.  It depends on the crown and you and your daughter and what seems to be in everyone's best interest.

Answer 30

As the girls' parent..  you can press charges for statitory rape.  Im not sure what the law would entail as far as who gets custody.  You could talk to a lawyer about it tho.

Something you may want to consider tho..  if the guy is working and willing to support his baby, you may not want to press charges.  The baby's care is more important.  If this guy is willing to be a daddy and take care of his end of the responsabilities.. do you have a reason to stop him?

There are so many "baby's daddies" out there..  and not enough guys who are being a daddy to their baby!

Answer 31

Nope, all you have to do is call the cops and he is in jail.  However, I don't know your situation.  Did your daughter lie about her age?  Were you allowing them to date, and now your mad she is pregnant?  If so then he should be there with her, if not... Jail.