My teenage granddaughter does not listen.?

Question

She has been nothing but a pain, I got her out of a youth shelter and all she does is talk on cell phone, then she has mood swings, how can I talk to her and what should I say to help her mood swings, I understand she has been rejected all most all her life, but she is causing my husband and me lots of problems and wants, wants wants does not listen. she is lazy, does not do anything unless I complain and tell her her rules and chores need done every single day. help with any advice, thank you.

Answer 1

give her a lot of attention, try taking her to a counselor. if she was in a youth shelter then she must be sad so give her tlc.

Answer 2

what teenager doesn't listen? i know this very well i was in and out of group homes so i was in her shoes but i think i just finally came to terms with who i am and where i wanted to go with my life so just try to make her see that there is hope and a light at the end of the road basically you just have to keep working with her and maybe hopefully she'll come around

Answer 3

send her *** back to the shelter,sooner or later shell get the message.

Answer 4

http://www.show-mehome.com/Placement.htm

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but you're making this situation about *you*.  Your granddaughter is obviously a troubled girl, and your focus should be on helping *her* instead of trying to save yourself some annoyance.  

Try to understand your granddaughter every time she does something that violates your rules.  TALK to her - keep the lines of communication open with her.  Most of all, LOVE her.  Let her know you want her to be with you and that you would never abandon her.  Once she feels safe, loved, and mentally healthy, you can bet she will not act the same way.

In addition, consider counseling.  Your granddaughter is not doing these things because she is a bad kid - she is doing it as a result of the psychological damage wrought on her previously.

Answer 6

Gee moodswings in a teenager how novel.  Teen girls are walking talking mood swings...I suppose your kids never had them and neither did you huh?  As far as the cellphone, take it away from her.  As far as chores...I don't know of any teen who does their "chores" on their parent's timeline.  If you'd quit complaining and hounding her she wouldn't be so rebellious.  I suggest you go to your human services department in your county and ask for information on raising relbellious teens.

Answer 7

Professional counseling may be in order.  She was in a youth shelter?  I'd assume its safe to say that she has been through ALOT.  She needs to talk to a professional about her feelings.  

As for the cell phone and chores.  Let her know that she needs to do her chores or the cell phone will be taken away.  Then follow through.