My teenage son just told me his gf is pregnant?

Question

He doesn't know if he's the father. Is there a paternity test that can be done while the girl is still pregnant or do we have to wait until she gives birth? Our family is already struggling financialy, will the court make us (his parents) pay child support? I want to help out any way we can if it's his, but I don't know how much we can give.

Answer 1

Yes, the test below can be done when she is still pregnant.

Public Aid usually takes care of medical expenses.

The county health department has WIC for teen moms and baby.

If she signs up for Public Aid, they will order a DNA after the baby is born.  

I would not sign anything until I know for sure the child is his.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to both of them and find out if he could be the father or not if you still don't know have him get a part time job for he can start saving up money and then he will have a back up plan if anything. When the baby is born take your son and the baby to get a blood test and see if it matches. If it does then your son has to get ready for adult hood very fast and has to worry about getting child support put on him because in most cases the court will side with the mother of the child. But if he isn't (lets hope he isn't) then you can take the girl into court for having made false statement etc.... make sure to speak to a lawyer about it...

Best of luck to you and mostly your son.  

Answer 3

First of all, how old is your son? If he is still underage- you need to talk to the girls parents and deal with the situation as a whole. You will need to wait until the baby is born to take a paternity test. If it is your sons child, I'm pretty sure that she will take him to court to get child support. Depending on the state and his age, then yes you might have to cover some of the child support, but it will mostly be on him. If he does have a job he will most likely pay 17% of his check- a judge will review the case.

Answer 4

well support him and don't be mad at him just teach him how to be a father.

Answer 5

Dear Maggie,

It's a sad state of affairs when a teenage daughter becomes pregnant. Mother's know for a fact the baby is our daughter's baby, thus our grandchild.

Sadder still when a teenage son impregnates her. He claims he couldn't be the father.  Who are we to believe our son or the pregnant girl?

It really shouldn't be this way for us mothers.  Should it?

We Wonder why we didn't teach these children more about responsibility for themselves and eachother.

To my knowledge there is no test (DNA), before birth to prove the baby is your son's.  Once the baby is born, DHS (At Health Dept.) will perform this test on the baby and your son at a small charge.  You'll feel better knowing for sure than always being doubt.

Ask your son honestly why he doubts being the father?  Is he trying to deny responsibility of a baby? Why would he have s*x with a teenage girl with a bad reputation?  Give him the third degree.  Grill him and let him know just because he's a male, it doesn't give him the right to be irresponsible.  If the baby is his, he's who will have to go to work and take care of the baby, because you can't afford it. Nor will the baby be your responsibility.

It's called growing up when you're big enough to produce sperm to impregnate an egg in a female.  Parents don't owe a living to or for mistakes their children make.

You weren't ask about his decision to have intercourse with anyone.  Were you?  So, why are you worrying about how you're going to take care of a baby?  That will be his problem.  Suggest jobs he can look for since there's a 50-50 chance, the baby is his.  Be honest with him about this is a HUMAN LIFE not an "IT" in question and the BABY could very well could be his child and your grandchild.......and you expect him to be a MAN.

That's your answer from me.

Maggie, the answer lies in you.  Who took care of you and your son's father?  Who's made it easy for you?  That's your answer from you. I think it will be the same, as mine.

May God bless you and yours<><:)    

Answer 6

no, the paternity test has to be done when the child is born and the court won't make you pay chi;d support they would make your son since he's the father (if he's the father)  

Answer 7

No but your son can be ordered to pay child support and pregnancy expenses. So he better get a part time job and be prepared just in case. Yes you can do a DNA test while she is pregnant though I do not know how much it costs, well good luck!

Answer 8

No u will have to wait til the child is born. U didn't say how old ur son is. In some states the parents are responsibly for there kids actions. So check with the law in the state u live in first. The only way u have to pay if she file for it so i suggest that u and ur son support  and help her until u find out though dna. This will show her that u and ur son will take on the responsibility when the test result come back and he is the dad, then she will not file for support because u and ur son didn't turn ur backs on her. If she have No support during this pregnancy from him or u and he is the father then  i can tell u that she will resist ur family for not being there and she will file for suppot . Even if the dna comes back and hes not the father it will only make ur son look like a responsibly young men and that he is willing to step up to the plate and do what he had to do. Don't regret hleping  even if he turns out not to be the father.

Answer 9

Its not up to you to take care of your sons child. Its nice that you want to help but your not legaly suppsoed to. Also noo you cant get a Dna test untill the baby is actully born. We wouldnt have shows like maury if you could.