My ten year old daughter got a call from a boy on her cell phone and she went to her room and closed the door!

Question

I told her this wasn't allowed (no calls from boys) and she got upset and said he is just a friend. Did I over react? I have two adult children who are boys, she is my first and only girl and I am very worried that she is too concerned about her image and boys!

Answer 1

I would not say no calls from boys because you don't want to teach her that she should not have any "boy" friends..but tell her she can talk in the room but do not shut the door

Answer 2

She has a cell phone and she is 10 years old?!

You're not overreacting at all. If you said no calls from boys, then she shouldn't be allowed to get calls from boys. Simple.

Answer 3

my brother is 10 and he gets calls from girls that are his friends all the time and he goes into his room wen hes on the phone with them... its no big deal

Answer 4

well she probably is just nervouse about talking on the phone in front of you i know i was at that age i still am otherwise shes probably telling the truth

Answer 5

Why does a 10 year old have a cell phone in the first place?

Answer 6

Go on her cell prenting to be her and text the guy then youll no.

Answer 7

I can understand a 10 year old nhaving a cell phone when you are at work or stuff like that - but why does she have one at home?? 10 is way too young for an unlimited cell phone!!

Answer 8

You should say, No boy calls or no phone.

Answer 9

There is a house phone right? Make the rule of no calls on the cell at home and make sure she gives the cell to you when she gets home from school..

Answer 10

why does your 10 yr old have a cell? if you said no boys than no boys. she is ten not 19. mother her not spoil her

Answer 11

and why does a 10 year old need a phone?? i never had a phone till after i was 25... if i needed one, i borrowed somebody elses... take the phone away... she disobeyed you... TAKE THE PHONE AWAY NOW!!!!!

Answer 12

i think she should be allowed to talk to boys

im 13 and have friends that are guys

they also happen to be really fun to talk to.

but, maybe you should say that if she is allowed to talk to boys that you should be able so listen, or she isnt trusted.

maybe at night, or other times when it isnt acceptable you should take her phone.

but i think that girls and boys can be friends just as girls can, or boys can.

Answer 13

If he was "just a friend" then she needn't go to her room and shut the door.  What the h**l does a 10 year old have a cellphone for anyway unless she can pay for it herself.

Answer 14

She is 10 years old.  Nothing is going on.  Keeping boys and girls apart is just odd to me.  They are not different species you know.  Why is he not allowed to call?  Does he have kooties?  Teaching them that talking to the opposite s*x is wrong is over the top.

Answer 15

well i think you over re-acted, it probably was just a friend. You can't say no calls from boys, thats a little much. You can tell her that if she is going to talk to boys she can't do it in here room.  girls can have friends that are boys!

The more rules you give her the more shes going to push away.

Answer 16

ok all u people are stupid i have had a cell phone sence i was idk in 4th grade so i think i was like 9 years old and it was a real phone not that go phone or that fire fly thing and she should be able to talk to boys but no closed door and not for a long time i had a lot of friends that were boys when i was that age and my best friend in the world now is a guy i can talk to him just about anything just tell her she can not date anyone and if u are so concerned that she is worried about her image and boys talk to her about it

Answer 17

If you said no calls from boys, then no calls from boys.

BUT, IMO, this is a little bit strick.  My 11 yo son takes calls from girls (only on the house line and only in a public area of the house as with all calls) and it is usually about school work, sports practices and one, is just a friend (they have been friends since they were 2 yo).

Answer 18

First of all why would a ten year old have a cell phone and of course its wrong for boys to call her at that age no wonder girls at the age of 13  get pregnant sweetie u should take that cell phone away from her.

Answer 19

my mom makes me stay in the living room when i talk to guys. It makes sense so you can here what she is saying. Last time i talked to a guy in my room, my parents took my door off. If he is really a friend she should have no problem with talking in a public room.

Answer 20

Okay, I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with your reasoning.  I understand not wanting her to be too outgoing and concerned about her image.  What does your daughter do that you should be concerned about her image?  Talking to a friend who is male is not going to ruin her rep come on give her and me a break.

Answer 21

Well, i think this is the age where most kids kind of start feeling like they want a little bit of privacy...there may be more closed doors and more "fine" answers to questions when you used to get a full report. If you trust her with a cell phone I see no reason she shouldn't have one. I told my son if he wanted to talk on the phone he had to do it in the living room out in the open. I don't listen to his calls but I'm sure if I needed to I would pick up on anything important. Don't overdo it or she may stop trusting you altogether and you don't want that. Find a good balance between watching her and letting her have a little freedom.

Answer 22

calls form boys i think are just fine at 10....you are giving her the image thou that it is bad to talk to them and so he is going to want to do it more...thats just waht kids do!  But in all honesty you are the parent and what you say is what she has to do till she is 18 of course...so momma put the foot down :)

Answer 23

meet her in the middle. explain that having friends who are boys is perfectly fine n that u trust her. try n tell her that u would prefer if she maybe left the door open but make it clear that u will not interfere or be standing outside her door. promise her some privacy but tell her that when she closes the door or speaks rlly low so no one can hear her just gets u suspicious and a reason for u not to trust her.

Answer 24

If you didn't want her receiving calls from boys, you shouldn't have gotten her a cell phone.  Make a rule in your house that the door stays open when she's on the phone.  The bigger deal you make out of it, the more she will want to do it--you know, the whole forbidden fruit thing....

Answer 25

I understand that you are worried about your baby girl, but please don't react in a way that makes her look as if she is an odd kid. I am not saying that you should let her do everything that "everybody else is doing", but you do allow her to talk to boys in other places like at school, in the neighborhood etc. The main lesson is that you teach her how to respect herself and that right now is the time for just friendships. Some of my daughter's best friends have been boys. They have a great time just talking about things other than gossiping the way girls like to gossip. My daughter did not have a cell phone until she was driving, so we didn't have the cell phone handy for her to use. We just had a rule of "don't take the phone upstairs". That kept her from wanting to talk for hours and kept her in my hearing distance which kept her from talking in an inappropriate way. (even to girls with bad language as well) Set some ground rules that you all can live by and you can even have a little meeting to discuss the rules. Let her know why you are setting each rule as you discuss them. You have to find a happy mediun in raising a child as to not be too stricked, but stricked enough so that she grows up to be a healthy, respected young lady with self confidence and a high self esteem. Good luck, and it does get easier!

Answer 26

Well i am 11 and have had a boyfriend sence 2nd grade u are over reacting a little i would hate if my mom said i could not talk 2 boys i mean i have so many friends that are boys and than i have a boyfriend let her talk 2 them she will probly think ur the best oh and when i was 10 i was not aloud 2 talk 2 them!!!!! so if u say no she will try some how 2 see them so be a little lineyet

Answer 27

I agree with Kris.

I think the minimum age for a cell is 13.

12 maybe

I think it is okay but just talk to her about how boys arent everything and her image isnt everything. Teach her to like herself for herself and become an independent person

Answer 28

Well, since shes only 10 there's a pretty good chance it really is just some friend of hers. Even so, if you made a rule you have to enforce it or else in another year or two she's gonna walk all over you.

She seems a bit young to have a cell phone. Maybe you can tell her no phone calls from boys, but if she would like to invite her friend over (where you can observe), then that's okay?

Answer 29

I don't know why a ten year old would need a cell phone but aside from that, I don't necessarily think a phone call with a boy is any harm, however, I don't see the need for her to take the call in private.  Explain to her that anything she needs to say, she can say in front of you.  I realize that's not respecting her privacy but she's ten so supervision takes priority over privacy at this point.

Answer 30

Give me a break people. I know 5 year olds with cell phones. Kids aren't sitting at home anymore. They have dance, gymnastics, softball, soccer, kickbox, yoga etc. 10 is FINE for a cell phone.

To the question. You overreacted a little. I agree that she should not shut the door when talking to ANY friend, boy or girl. Tell her to leave it open from now on or she'll lose privileges.

Answer 31

That happened to me when I was ten.A boy would call me,and my parents would ask, "Who is he?How'd he get your number?Why's he calling you?!"and so on. But the guy was just a friend.Let your daughter talk to boys,its kayy.If she's friends with him,be glad.It's better to make friends than loose them,right?