My third grade daughter wants to invite 6 out of only 8 girls in her class to her party. I think she should ..

Question

I'm insisting that the only right thing to do is invite all of them. My daughter thinks this is crazy because two of the girls don't really talk to (or play with) her. What's the right thing to do?

Answer 1

I completely agree with you.  

If she were only going to invite 3 or 4 girls, it would be different.  But it's not okay to invite all but two.

Answer 2

It is her birthday.  She should get to spend it doing what she wants to do with the people she wants to be with.

Answer 3

It would be most proper to invite all the girls, can you imagine the how hurt the two would be that didn't get an invite? If they are not truly friends this is a chance to become friends. If they are not interested so be it- you did the right thing. I believe you are right and if you explain to her why you feel this way I would hope that she would understand. It is so important that we teach our children compassion and this is a great opportunity to do so.

Answer 4

My money is on you.  Ask your daughter how she would feel if she was the only girl not invited to someone else's party.  Maybe when the girls come to her party, they will find out what a great kid she is and will then talk and play with her at school.  Good luck.

Answer 5

For me, she did the right thing. There are kids who like to invite a crowd of kids because they like to have new friends and don't care about the others which hurt them. Some kids like to invite there closest friends since it is HER party and want HER BESTEST FRIENDS only since her other non-friends will abandon her like dust and make the party an excuse to hang-out with their really-real friends. It means she might just feel hurt and used up. I think and know that you should respect that. Kids have their own kind of stress that very less people know about that.

HOPE THIS ANSWERS YOUR PROBLEM~!

Answer 6

I have to agree with your daughter,She`s old enough,to choose her friends.If they don`t have anything to do with her, why should she?If they asked why they were`n`t invited, I`d say "I didn`t think you`d want to come" She`s too old to act like a hypocrite. When they are small-you do it, so they can get to know each other better, by this time, shes more independent in choosing her friends.She`s already know them for a while too.

Answer 7

i invited 6 out of 8 girls, that was terrible. the girls fought and fought about it. man, the fight went on for weeks.

Answer 8

Invite six kids.

We all like to think how nice it is for our children to "share" and "like one another".  However, forced sharing is not sharing.  It's communism and results in feelings of resentment.  

She needs to learn to work and play well with others and to solve relationship problems on her own - as well as learn that there are consequences to actions.  If children are taught that everybody receives the same response to all that they do (be nice and get invited... or be mean and get invited) and everyone must give the same response to others regardless of what they do (forcing her to invite all the girls), it takes away any sense of right and wrong.

How would you like it if your boss was required to pay you and everybody else in the company the identical salary, whether people show up for work or not, whether they are productive or not, etc......

Answer 9

Invite the girls

They can always say not

I invite all the girls in my daughter class

They all do not talk to her

They can always say not

I also invited all the children her age on the block, I have 5 plus her the same age

Answer 10

i'd invite them .. if they dont want to be around your daughter they wont come .. it's the nice thing to do.

Answer 11

does she even know anything about them? if u make her invite them ur gonna be dealing with it when ur daughter hangs out with her friends and ignores the other girls. and trust me thats gonna happen. especially since she dont want them there in the first place

Answer 12

I agree with you. Invite all eight. There are bound to be girls that can't make it.

Answer 13

Invite them all.  Teach your daughter to be nice to everybody ( Im not saying that you arent please dont take that wrong).

Answer 14

I would only invite her friends.  If she doesn't play with them or talk to them what is the point?  They may not show up any ways.  Invite her friends and let her have fun!  Your only a kid once!

Answer 15

let her do what she wants....but just ask her if she would want to be invited to one of their parties. she might think differently on it.

Answer 16

You are right.  Leaving out 2 people would be hurtful to the other two kids.  I wouldn't negotiate this with her...she is in third grade...you are the parent so tell her that all 8 girls are invited or no party.

Answer 17

I am with you.  Invite them all.  It would be hurtful not to. We all know how much it hurts to be the one that's left out.

She doesn't have to play with them in school or become best friends.  She does need to learn to be considerate of other people's feelings.  I don't see it as forced sharing as another poster said - just learning good manners!

Answer 18

I have six kids, and deal with this often, she invites her friends, that means the children that she associates with, if these two girl aren't part of her group then don't invite them, you could cause heaps of trouble by forcing her to invite the other girls, they could end up leaving them out of party games, and being mean to them, because they were not wanted at the party...and did u ever think that maybe these two girls don't want to go?...we can't all be included all the time...that's life, sucks, but the way it is.

Answer 19

omg NO WAY. I CANNOT BELIEVE THE ******* BULL **** THAT IS ON YAHOO ANSWERS NOW

Answer 20

i think she should invite all 8. the other two would feel leftout.

Answer 21

I think to invite all of the girl. It would make the other 2 feel bad if she didnt invite them and maybe they just never got to know her and this party could get her some new friends!